WHEN THE CHILDREN ARE GONE WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO THE PARENTS?

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Most of couples often face their greatest challenges after their children has grown up and left home probably in search for their own peace, because we all want a better living so we crave for it.
Are you not searching for a better living too?
However, this empty nest can leave both parents feeling like total virtual strangers to themselves.

Now, back to the topic,

When the children are gone, what happens to the parents?

When the children are gone, the parents will have very little things to discuss or talk about and share to each other.
It is not that there is no more love between the parents or perhaps the love is not as real as when they got married, hell No!

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Now, Let’s think psychologically on this,

Does this to some degree describe your marriage?

If so, you can still get back your relationship on track.

First of all, let’s consider some factors that might to be blame for the distance that has developed between you and your spouse.

WHY SUCH THING HAPPENS IN THE RELATIONSHIP

For years, marriage came first, while the children follows, but after the children came, parents often forget about their relationship, how they met and the love they share before the arrival of their children.

With good intentions, many parents put the needs of their children above the needs of their marriage, in most cases, they forget about their marriage and face the children.
As a result of this, both of them get accustomed to the family responsibilities to the extent of losing themselves as a lovely husband and wife which is a fact that becomes readily apparently once the children are gone.

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Although, when the children are around, the relationship is as strong as rock but when the children are no more around or left, the parents will surely be on their separate tracks.
For some couples, It is almost like they are in new marriage.

Feeling that they have little in common, many husband and wives retreats into their own separate pursuits, becoming more like roommates than marriage mates.
The good news is that, you can still avoid this.

WHAT CAN PARENTS CAN DO TO SOLVE THIS

To resolve things and accept changes.
As parents, one of your goals of being a good parent is to train your children on how they can stand on their own without waiting for you to give to them after given them what they deserves.
Your goal was to train them for the future because no one is going to be there for them, and if you don’t train them to be able to function as an adult through what you teach them, they might not be able to stand on their own.

However, you should be happy because the children are leaving home to develop the skill they would need to function as an adult.
Now, you are more of consultant than a supervisor.
With this, this will give you a reason to be more close to your spouse and give primary attention to your spouse.

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SHARE YOUR CONCERN TO YOUR SPOUSE

This stage is the stage where the first love of marriage is been restored back to the parents.
You will surely face one or two challenges.
When challenges comes, move close to your spouse, talk to your mate about how life transition affect you, and be ready to listen to your spouse’s feelings as well. Be patient and understanding.

It may take time to strengthen your connection as husband and wife but doing so is worth the effort.

FIND NEW THINGS TO DO TOGETHER AND REAFFIRM YOUR COMMITMENTS

Talk about goals you would like to pursue together, that will interests both of you and what both of you would like to explore as a couple.
Having raised children you have gained much practical wisdom.
Think about the qualities that attracted you to other. As a couple, think back on the history you have shared and the storms you have weathered.

In the end, this new chapter in your life can be a good one. In fact, with cooperative effort you now have the opportunity to improve the quality of your marriage and rekindle the love that brought you together in the first place

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