I've just joined, this is my first post so if I mess up I apologise in advance :)
If there is such a thing as a no-contact document, then I agree with @kryptocoins that it is worth doing.
I would also second the suggestion to document everything as @truthforce. Not only will it help at court but it will also give you something to focus on. Sometimes that can be the hardest thing to deal with, just waiting constantly for the other shoe to drop, that knock at the door or phone call that something else has happened, yet another decision made that kicks you in the teeth..
Take care of yourself and those grandkids of yours <3