My life as a Juvenile Detention Officer .. Pregnant Teens in Prison .. Janet's Story

in familyprotection •  7 years ago  (edited)

I worked with many pregnant girls during my 12 years of working as a Detention Officer. It was never easy listening to these girls talk about their hopes and dreams and plans for their "future" family. The majority of the time, these girls has no family support, the father was normally young , unemployed and uneducated so support from them was almost non existent. Most of these girls ended up in foster homes and since they were unable to support their children, the child also ended up either in foster care or put up for adoption.

When I first met Janet, I sensed she was different. She seemed to be well educated and from a family that would be extremely supportive of her and her baby. Boy was I ever wrong? Janet was brought to Juvy when she was 15 years old and 6 months pregnant. She had turned herself in because she wanted to get an old warrant cleared before her baby was born. I asked her about her warrant. The story that unfolded literally blew me away. She and her baby's dad had known each other practically all their lives. When she found out she was pregnant, she told her mother. she was not prepared for what transpired next. Since the Baby's dad was 18, the mother called the cops and reported it as a statutory rape! The father was arrested and Janet was hauled off to a foster home where she was told that her baby would most likely be put up for adoption. When Janet found out she most likely would not get to keep her baby, she ran away from the foster home, went to see an attorney and got the charges against the father dropped as he was only 17 when Janet got pregnant. She then started the process of emancipation which meant she needed to find a way to support herself and her baby. Janet was determined that her baby would grow up in a loving supportive and caring home. Her whole purpose became all about keeping and taking care of her baby. And that she did!!

I would volunteer to take Janet to her OB/GYN appointments during her stay at Juvy. She got so excited on the day of her ultrasound, especially when the doctor told her she was having a boy. She looked up at me with a big grin and thanked me for being there with her. She said she always thought it would be her mother there but she knew now that would never happen. Especially since the last few times she came to visit her in Juvy, all she could talk about was why she felt Janet's baby would be much better off being put up for adoption and that this would free Janet up to come back home and finish her education.

At the end of the examination and ultrasound, a nurse walked in and asked if Janet was ready to talk to her case worker? What? Why is she here, Janet asked. "Oh, she is here with your mother to talk about your signing the adoption papers," the nurse replied. "Then you can tell them both to leave now! I am not signing any adoption papers and I refuse to talk to either of them!"

To make a long story short, Janet found her support in both her grandmother, the baby's dad and the baby's dad's family! Her grandmother filed for and got legal custody of both Janet and her baby until Janet turned 18. She was able to finish up her high school education, got a job and even started taking online courses. She and the Baby's dad eventually moved in with his family until they were able to afford their own place. They had a beautiful healthy and happy baby boy, eventually got married and later had a beautiful little girl.

http://pregnancy.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Pregnancy_Statistics_Teens:

Statistics on Teen Pregnancy
Vilma Ruddock
By Vilma Ruddock
M.D.

Most teen pregnancies are not planned and can have a lasting effect. Pregnant teens are at high risk of developing high blood pressure and often have significant financial stresses. The number of teens who get pregnant each year fluctuates but has been decreasing overall over the past few years.

Startling Statistics

Pregnancy statistics for teens show that almost 448,000 teenage girls became pregnant in 2013; almost 60 percent of these pregnancies resulted in births. In fact, around 25 percent of women have been pregnant at least once by the time they reach their twentieth birthday. Less than 20 percent of these pregnancies are intentional.

High Rates for U.S. Teens
While teen pregnancy is a problem in many parts of the world, the United States has the highest teen birth rate among developed countries. In any given year, the U.S. teen birth rate is double that of the United Kingdom and around four times that of Germany and France.

Why is the U.S. teen pregnancy rate so high? Some people blame the highly sexualized images children see on television and in their favorite movies. Others believe it's a lack of effective sex education. While most experts agree teen pregnancy can be attributed to a number of factors, effective contraception remains crucial in the fight against this complex social issue. A sexually active teenage girl who does not use regular contraception has almost 90 percent chance of becoming pregnant within one year.

Statistics on Pregnancy Consequences

While around 35 percent of all teenage pregnancies end in abortion, there are many girls who decide to keep their babies. These young moms face many challenges. They often have few or no job skills. Employment opportunities may be limited for these mothers; research shows that between 2009 and 2010, around 48 percent of teen mothers lived below the poverty line. For teen mothers who still lived with their parents, only 34 percent lived below the poverty line; however, for teens that lived on their own, this number went up to 63 percent. Nearly two-thirds of teen mothers receive some type of public assistance during the first year of their child's life; this includes Medicaid, food stamps, and other assistance.

Absent Teenage Fathers

In many cases, the child's father is either missing or unable to provide the proper financial support; almost 80 percent of teens do not marry the fathers of their children. More than half of teen parents have no child support agreement in place and of the 29 percent who do have a legal agreement, only half actually received child support payments. Although many teen moms do receive assistance from their own parents, a large number must learn to care for their children with little or no outside help.

Overwhelming Responsibilities

Teen moms often find the responsibilities of parenthood to be overwhelming. They struggle to finish their education; only 50 percent of teenage mothers have a high school diploma by age 22 compared to 90 percent of women who did not get pregnant during adolescence. Many teen moms discover that their babies place a strain on fragile friendships.

Consequences for Children of Teenage Mothers

Statistics show that children who are born to teenage mothers are immediately placed at a greater risk of developing many physical, social, and behavioral problems. For example, 10 percent of teens between 15-19 get no prenatal care during the first trimester of pregnancy; this number increases to 25 percent for girls under 15. Since many pregnant teens are also still developing physically, this means that they are much more likely to have premature babies or preterm labor. Preterm and/or low birth weight babies often have developmental disabilities or chronic medical conditions that require regular physical therapy.

As they mature, children of teen mothers must still overcome many obstacles. For example, boys born to mothers under the age of 19 are 13 percent more likely to be incarcerated at some point in their lives. Daughters of teen moms are over 20 percent more likely to have their own children at a young age. Children of both sexes have lower standardized test scores and are less likely to earn their high school diplomas.

Consequences for Society

Teenage pregnancy has massive financial consequences. In fact, one report suggested that teen pregnancy costs the U.S. almost $10 billion per year; this includes increased medical care, foster care, increased incarceration rates among the children of teen parents, and lost tax revenue.

Reducing Teen Pregnancy

Obviously it is possible to be a teen parent and go on to achieve all of your dreams. However, it is a difficult path for many teen parents and many don't reach their goals in life.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and other organizations have established programs to lower teen pregnancies and to help people prevent unplanned pregnancies with better family planning. Parents and other family members also play a role in this endeavor. By working together, teen pregnancy rate may continue to decrease.

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It is a very strong theme, excellent post, greetings!

Thanks.

Beautiful, during my time in college I learned about the high rates of STD’s & teen pregnancy in the U.S compared to other countries. The difference lies in the way America Exploits sex, & also keeps it hidden. Nothing is about love anymore, it’s all about sex and money. People don’t openly show their affections in public, it’s looked down on. While in other countries people show affection very generously! Tried to open up a hooters in Brazil, didn’t last long at all because the people there find no entertainment in women’s bodies being displayed at a restaurant.. they are already comfortable with a woman’s body being what it is. In America Relationships & sex are monetized.. exploited. It has an effect on the youth plus society... a real one!

Yes, so true. thank you for your valuable input!

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Janet's story is heartwarming, and I applaud you for getting her through this tough period in her life. I'm glad that things worked out well for her and the baby. I suppose her mother wanted her best, in a way, but Janet took upon herself a great responsibility which she fulfiled with dedication and bravery. I don't condone being pregnant that young but I feel we'll be better off if others help us with the choices we make rather than being hostile.

Yes, she was and still is a brave young lady! I think her mother simply did not want to deal with the embarrassment.

A well written post. It is a case of children having children. They can fall through the cracks and end up a victim of the CPS. it is sad she did not have the support of her family. Yes there are many obstacles to deal with in a teen pregnancy and they learn to grow up fast. What support is out there often wants to take advantage of the (ex Planned Parenthood or CPS) rather than help them. BTW what are the three hugs??? Again wonderful story and post my friend.

Yes, my friend, it can be quit sad. It's hard enough raising kids as an adult but children having children has to be extremely traumatic for them. Most are still under parental control and are convinced by the adults in their lives that they have no say in the matter. BTW The Three Hugs stands for Mind, Body and Spirit.

I'm thankful you got the "hot" page. Your story about Janett was moving. I'm glad you're doing this work and posting stories. Thanks

Thanks my friend. I am fairly slow about posting these stories as it can get a bit emotional but I feel these stories deserve to be told.

Interesting post

Thanks

Glad to hear that Janet's story had a happy ending. That is not always the case.

Unfortunately most do not have a happy ending.

Janet's is a story of courage and overcoming. Thanks for sharing, it's inspirational.
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Thanks my friend. And yes, I will check out your blog. Thanks for your support.

Wow, I love to read succes stories like Janet's... So nice for her that you were there for her during that time, I guess this meant a lot to hear, to have your support. I think she must be a strong women now, and I really hope she will have a long and happy marriage and can enjoy the family she was fighting for so hard at that young age. Your help must have been a big boost for her to know she was doing the right thing, and she should not give up to reach her goals. Eventhough the odds were against her, and she had no family support. Thanks for this great post!

Thanks! And yes, I'd like to think that I have helped a few youth along their path as I myself was helped over the years.

Nothing wrong with helping people ;) I think the same, strangers helped me out too when I needed help the most.. Pay it forward..

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I can not tell you just how many teens I knew that became mothers. Many of them lost their children because they were too young to care for them. They are truly families ripped apart.

Yes, it can be quit heartbreaking.

good article
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Thank you for what you do. People who help are badly needed. I know stories of abuse are making the headlines, but most pregnant teens are just kids who didn't understand what they were doing. Sex is everywhere these days, but there's still plenty of youngsters who lack proper sex education, so they need people like you.

Thanks my friend.

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Teen pregnancy costs the gov 10 billion a year? Gee, these numbers are insane! It saddens me these young girls dont know much better, but I dont understand how the state punishes hard working tax payers, buy stealing their income through taxes and then offering a safety net for people who didnt consider being safe in the 1st place. Sorry, if I sound insensitive, but to me, almost sounds like all the welfare is working more like a reward for these teens, since lots of them get pregnant again right after.
Anyways, I wish them all luck and good health.

Actually it is mainly a way to filter government funds from one government pocket to another. A lot of that 10 billion a year goes into the paychecks of government workers and medical. The youth see very little of it other than a meager check and food stamps that is never enough to support one person, much less two.

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You are welcome friend!

I have to be honest, I have been reading so many awful stories about the system that I felt a little hopeless. How does such a small group of people take on such a large, corrupt beast? But this story gives me hope. I am disappointed that her mother wasn't there for her but am so impressed about all the challenging steps she had to take to keep her son. I think she will be a wonderful role model for him. I am found hope knowing that even in a corrupt system, kind and compassionate people can be found (you!). - Aimee

Aww thanks my friend! Even with such a corrupt system, for some youth, this is all they have. I don't think we will ever "tame the beast," We just have to stop feeding it our hard earned tax dollars! When people get back to the basics of raising their own kids and also realize that it does indeed take a whole village to raise kids, then we can raise our heads with a sense of pride! Until then, we just keep pounding away on our keyboards in hopes that with each post, more folks start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. We all had things in our lives to overcome, yet we did and so can others, with just a bit of help, encouragement and education. Mahalo my friend for your support.

You're right! The saying "it takes a village" exists for a reason. People are generous even when heavily taxed, I can only imagine the good we would do if we had more control over our own dollars. I keep imagining us key board warriors exposing the beast as anither version of David and Goliath. Keep up the amazing work. -A

You too my friend...We do have a lot of youth in this village that are so fortunate to be able to tap in to this wealth of knowledge and talented and gifted people! We must take them under our wings and mentor them to becoming whatever it is that brings joy and quality to their lives. "Ann"

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Thethreehugs? I must admit that finding a really interesting article like this one of yours on Steemit was like finding a needle in a haystack. It's more than obvious that Janet and the father of her baby had a better relationship with each other than even a lot of couples over the age of 21 do. They stood by each other through thick and thin. Janet saved the father of her baby from the horrors of prison and from the subsequent indignities of the sex offender registry by finding a legal way to make the statutory-rape rap against him go away, and the father of her baby loved and protected her and eventually married her and gave both her and their child his last name. I'm glad that everything worked out for them.

Nevertheless, as one American to another American, I have to say that if we look at the bigger picture, it all comes down to the fact that our public officials and our society cannot keep on doing the same things in addressing the concern over teenage pregnancy in our nation and expect different results. I suppose that our public school system across the nation could make contraceptives readily available in high schools and middle schools everywhere as they do in France. However, I don't think that such a notion would fly very well with ultraconservatives who are pushing abstinence-only instruction in public schools.

The other solutions that I suggest may seem slightly archaic, but I still believe that they would be better than the faulty actions that our public officials and lawmakers continue to take to this very day. First of all, I think that we as Americans have arrived at a crossroad where one of the best courses of action would be to split up the public school system into two separate entities. That is, end coeducation and divide our public schools by gender. Have girls go to one school and boys go to another school in each school district across our nation. If boys and girls are in less contact with each other from the time they go into puberty, they're not as likely to become teen or even preteen parents. Plain and simple. Second of all, our society goes way too soft on deadbeat teenage fathers. During the time that I worked temporarily for a social services agency, I noticed that what happened way too often whenever a girl became pregnant in high school or middle school was that the teenage father of the girl's baby would eventually bail on her and then pull all sorts of nonsense on her and family afterwards. The girl's parents would have to share the financial burden with the girl of raising her child, and usually the boy's parents wanted nothing to do with the situation. That is not right. I believe that our Federal government should draft deadbeat teenage fathers into the military on their eighteenth birthday. The fear that parents would have of their teenage son being sent off to war in the Middle East or wherever in the world in that event would definitely set them straight and make them come down on their son like a ton of bricks any time he planned on having unprotected sex with a teenage girl. In any event, I gave your article a thumbs-up. :-)

Wow, I'm surprised you even found that article. Lol. I have mixed feelings on your solutions. I worked with underage teens a lot, mostly females. Most that came in pregnant were from foster homes. Girls that age that have been deserted by their families often get pregnant just to have a family of their own by getting pregnant. They haven't been taught or even loved as they are more likely than not being abused in the foster homes as well. They are being supported by the state and their babies taken into custody. That's why most young girls in those circumstances run away and end up in gangs. As for seperating boys from girls in schools, I don't think it would make much difference..where there's a will, they'll find a way to hook up. Lol. I agree support enforcement should be stricter.

Yeah, the foster care system is in bad shape everywhere here in our nation. About five or six years ago, I was reading the job listings section in my local newspaper, and there was an advertisement there looking for people to become foster care parents. I thought that whoever had published that advertisement had to be out of his mind, because people looking for work were not going to be in any financial condition to take in foster care children. Moreover, it looked like an invitation for trouble in that whoever responded to that advertisement would likely not be a suitable foster care parent, to say the least. Separating boys from girls in schools may not completely eliminate the problem of teenage pregnancy today in the era of Internet and cell phones, but I believe that it would provide more control for parents and even their teenage daughters to shut out any undesirables that these girls would otherwise be forced to confront every day at school in a coeducation environment. Therefore, there would likely be fewer teenage girls feeling pressured into having sex and becoming pregnant by these punks who couldn't care less about their future.