Can Material Love Replace Family Love

Recently I participated in a debate in school. The topic was Can materials replace family love?

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To older generation it would look that it is pointless to even talk about it. As for us family love is no matter what, always preceeds other things in life.
But I was surprised as I found for kids it can be a matter of debate because they think ( not all but most of them) that material is important than family love.
So here I am to ponder and analyse.

Some of the points kids made were :

1> Kids think: These days when both parents are working and they are not there with them, then parents try to give presents in lieu of their presence.

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Parents point of view:
When parents go out and buy presents for the kids, that is the time they think about their kids. So in a way they are not away from them!

2> Kids think:
They themselves give phones and gadgets and later complain that kids are using too many gadgets.

Parents point of view:
Phones are given so that kids can be connected to parents as parents feel that the world is not so safe these days, to know the whereabouts and well being of the kids is paramount.

3> Kids think:
When we go to some party/dinner, adults talk and don’t include us saying it doesn’t concern so when we get bored we keep ourselves busy with our gadgets.

Parents point of view:
We don’t want to burden kids with adults problems. Life is full of ups and downs so kids should learn to cope up with it and boredom is also a part of that lesson.

4> Kids think:
The moment we sit with them they scold us or start comparing us with other kids. So it is better we keep ourselves busy with phones and chat with our friends instead.

Parents point of view:
The way bitter medicines are given to cure and to make you better same way scolding makes you a better person. Parents scolding is like a warning. Like in a circus, a safety net is there when an acrobat is doing trapeze up high in the air, same way parents are like that safety net who will protect them from falling.

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5> Kids think:
Parents advice based on their experience is not applicable to the current context.

Parents point of view:
This generation gap was always there. Parents wants the best for their kids so even if they are not so updated they will never give wrong advice moreover even if parents were not born in technology world like todays generation still they are doing their best to abreast themselves with technology.
We are also learning the new lingo, lol and interpretation of emojis. 😉 You see! 😏

6> Kids think:
To create impression, one has to be brand conscious. Family love will not help them to go ahead in life.

Parents point of view:
Brands can make the first impression but ultimately how they conduct themselves, their confidence, their knowledge is going to help them. Family love is the foundation, with strong foundation they can go very high in life. Parents advice make your own style. Make yourself that brand which the whole world will sought for.

Whereas parents complain that kids these days are all the time on phone even when they are taken outside/dinner/party/to some nice restaurants. They are less communicative.

Kids point of view:
We do what we see. We see parents are also on laptop doing office work or chatting on whatsapp with their friends so what’s wrong if we are doing the same thing.

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I am glad I went and got to know what today’s generation think. Kids spoke their mind. To reach somebody’s heart, one has to know what is going in their mind.
If one sees this is a vicious circle. All the complains are interconnected. There is a pattern, we do something, they blame us or they do something, we blame them. But nothing can be achieved with blame game. To make a house, a home, whole family has to work towards it. We can’t clap from one hand.

Now the point is we give them phone so that we can stay connected but because of overuse of phone that connection is breaking.
Somewhere we have made a mistake in raising them if kids think material is more important than family love.
These days there is too much pressure on kids so parents have to be understanding. Just comparing them with anybody is not going to help them.

Kids too have to understand parents are selfless, they care for them, they love them unconditionally, they support them so never take undue advantage of their love and care.

Research shows that family who is strongly bonded by love, their members have more chances of higher financial security and they contribute more in economic growth.

It is proved in research that criminals who are regularly visited by their family in the prison have 40% lower chance of becoming a repeated criminal.
Unconditional love and support of family can be a big booster in ones life. Lucky are those who have family and their love.

A kite can fly high till it is attached to the spool. It falls here and there the moment thread breaks.

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I invite everyone to join me in this conflict. Feel free to give advice/suggestion or correct me if I am wrong, in the comments section below