On Becoming A Father

journeyoflife (67) · 7 years ago

This had me thinking . My sons father was in Pakistan and just came back with me 2 weeks ago. My son is now 7 months , his father saw him when he was 6.5 months for the first time . Before that I used to do everything on my own , financially , mentally and physically and it was tough now he has joined us and it feels different. I mean I can say that I can extra help now , but I found some stuff out about him which totally destroyed our relationship now . I pray that all goes well for your wife

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ssimkins9 (53) · 7 years ago

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Beautiful and brilliant post. I am super passionate about this and it delights my heart to see other dads (and dads-to-be) taking this role seriously. I have five kids myself and four of them are girls. From what I can see here, you're going to do an awesome job.

Even though I have no clue how to become a father on a day to day basis, I have to find solace in the fact that I had a really good father.

That's fantastic and is unfortunately pretty rare.

I think that sometimes for parents, it can be tempting to put the kid above everything in life...even the couple itself.

Spot on. Great insight. It is hard to do, and the are a lot of changes are a lot of changes to the dynamic that are appropriate, but there has to still be space for the couple to flourish.

There are a couple of things that I picked up that you may find helpful (you may also already know these things).

First, children are full humans. I know, this is pretty obvious to just about everyone. But our actions and interactions do not always reflect this truth. Kids have the ability for the full spectrum of human experience baked right into them. They are autonomous. How you parent really does matter, but these little humans will chart their own courses. From the get go, they deserve the same level of dignity and respect. That means her body is hers. Her emotions are hers. This empowers them to make decisions and your instruction and life will help guide them, rather than dictate.

Second, our goal is not perfection. And I can see that you understand that. Our first goal should be to do the absolute best that we can with what we have. Our second goal is to give them the tools to heal from our mistakes. That means owning your shit when come up short, because you will. Modeling what it looks like to take responsibility and validating their perspective on the situation. Give them the power to forgive when they are ready to forgive and provide them with other solid adults that they can process with--you mentioned aunts and uncles and I think that is perfect. They should feel safe to complain about mom and dad.

Third, and perhaps the most important, do the work to heal from your own wounds. A really fantastic book that my wife and I have read is called Parenting From The Inside Out (also really enjoy The Whole-Brained Child by the same author, Dr. Siegel). It takes the scope of most parenting books and turns it on its head. The problem that the book addresses is the reality that so many people are trying to figure out how to parent, but are building on somewhat dysfunctional foundations that need some repair. It sounds like you had a great upbringing, and that is fantastic. Even still, your parents were imperfect and there may be some pieces that need to be examined. It is not an innovation to a pity-party or an exercise in shaming your parents. Simply, it is taking the good things you got from them and moving the needle a little closer to ideal.

Phew, this might be my longest comment to date and should probably get put into a post, haha. Anyway, thanks for opening up the discussion and cheers to you, your wife, and your daughter.

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jakeybrown (57) · 7 years ago

This was money, I'll upvote when steemit lets me

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lanadancer (46) · 7 years ago

Great post, very thoughtful and full of insight. You will be a good father because you had good a good father and you want to be one. The best parenting advice I ever got has to be tucked away for your nearer than you think future. "When they become preteen and teenagers they want you the least but need you the most"

Of course when you hold that sweet baby and spend years cuddling, laughing, and full of so much joy well its hard to believe that little thing will someday hurt your feelings and not want you around. Just hold on tight because they come back around!

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yumyumseth (66) · 7 years ago

Interesting thoughts, and congrats on the future baby! :)

There are few things simultaneously as frightening and as exciting as thinking about being a father. I'm probably still a couple years away from where you are, but I can totally relate to what you said about becoming more of a man than you are now. I definitely don't feel as mature, or wise, or patient as I remember my father being when I was young, and that's really intimidating. That said, I think there are a lot of things about parenting that just need to be learned through experience and it's good to remember that fathers continue to grow and learn as their children do the same.

Anyways, super excited for you and glad you're thinking carefully about what it means to be a father!

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jessicapixie (52) · 7 years ago

It's crazy reading you because like you must know from previous posts, your wife and I are exactly on the same week of pregnancy! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I wish you, your wife and your little love-bun-on-the-way many moments of love. Btw, I will share this post with my fiancee, I think he will appreciate it. I recommend Babywise the book, the bible for baby sleep! My fiancee is reading it on his Kindle and taking notes!

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cryptoctopus (74) · 7 years ago

Oh wow! Thanks for the suggestion. Baby girl or baby boy?

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jessicapixie (52) · 7 years ago

Baby boy! :D

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helenoftroy (57) · 7 years ago

Congratulations! Not only on the birth of your little one, but also for the seriousness with which you're taking this! :D Five months from now, when you can't remember what a good night's sleep feels like, please come back and read what you just posted. Yes, we have our "pie in the sky" philosophies, but they're good to cling to when the practical realities make us lose sight of the goal. And from a parents' perspective, I don't think you'll regret any of the thoughts you've noted here.

Sometimes I think my husband would've enjoyed having the usual prep time that most fathers do. He had to jump into the deep end when we adopted twins. But as tough as it's been, he's done a great job.

Keeping the flame alive is a challenge. Every wife has different needs. For me, it's the reminder that my husband loves me for more than being a mom. And just like you want your daughter to know that she doesn't have to be perfect for a good man to love her ... your wife needs to know that to. She will probably feel like a failure regularly (no matter how wonderful of a job you think she's doing), so you'll need to remind her that mistakes and all, dinner or no dinner, colicky baby and poopy diaper, she is worthy of your love. She might not believe you when she's still in her pjs, her hair isn't washed, and she forgot to launder your shirts ... but keep telling her ... it'll sink in eventually ;)

As I blog about our journey raising the twins, it's encouraging to find more parents sharing their stories as well. Looking forward to hearing more about your journey as a father!

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cryptoctopus (74) · 7 years ago

Thank you so much for this. You are right that I might enjoy reading this in a few months or a few years. :-) I'll keep your tips om keeping the flame alive in my mental bank.

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webbsensei (34) · 7 years ago

Good luck to you and yours cryptoctopus. I sincerely wish you all the best. Do you know why a man cries when his baby is born? Although I cannot speak for all men, however, in my case it was only partly due to what most people think - overwhelming joy. Mostly, it was due to fear. You see, the very instant my daughter was born, I started to weep uncontrollably with my lower lip quivering and breathing irregularly like I did when I was a child. Before the birth, I didn't think that I would cry. I was prepared to 'take it like a man' so to speak. But it didn't quite work out as planned. For 9 months or so, I knew there was a baby inside my wife but I couldn't see it. Then suddenly, when the baby came out and I saw it for the first time, reality hits you. We men cry because now YOU are now responsible for this living human being that YOU created for the rest of your life! It is YOUR responsibility to protect, nurture, provide for, guide, teach, etc. forever and ever. It was the most frightening and joyful experience I've ever had. Second daughter, no problem, just a few tears of joy, no fear, no doubting if I were capable of this formidable task. Lol! Once again, good luck and all the best!

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jakeybrown (57) · 7 years ago

I just became a father last year. Me and mama knew eachother about two weeks before we got pregnant, and it has been a rough ride at times. I wouldn't say we started as the most compatible people. We've fought, alot.

But we're still working, we're still trying really hard and actually things are going great now. Our daughter is amazing, I love her and really want to be around for her all the time. And our relationship has improved drastically, it's amazing how much work it's taken, but it's also amazing how much it's paying off.

We are teammates, partners and always have eachothers backs, when we reach misunderstandings we talk through them, sometimes after a fight, but we always apologize and do right by our daughter.

Being a father is amazing, you have an opportunity here to both teach and grow. Babies can teach us so much and the amount of love they give is crazy. You're gonna love the experience and I'm sure you'll be a great father.

My advice on fatherhood: Keep learning, they change quick and you need to adapt with them, it's a rollercoaster, but it's not too hard, it just takes work and love.

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mepatriot (69) · 7 years ago

Let me start by congratulating you. Parenthood is awesome...a major transition in your lifestyle, for sure, but very well worth every sacrifice you are about to make. It sure sounds like you have your head on straight, and that's a major plus for you, your wife, and your daughter.

In today's world, so many new parents have no idea why they are becoming parents, have no priorities for a successful family in place, and as a result will "raise" (or ignore and lose) children who will grow up to negatively impact themselves and everyone around them.

I love your "strong parents = strong families" meme. I would add "Strong morals =" in front of that. I'm sure you already have them, and that's great, but so many young parents, sadly, do not.

May God bless and keep you and give you patience and wisdom as you embark on one of the most important tasks any human being can undertake!

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dedicatedguy (74) · 7 years ago

I didn't have my dad in the home, so I can tell you first hand that not having a complete family sucks and it certainly affects the development of the child.

From what I read here you are on the right track to be a wonderful dad, not only because the proper family structure you guys have, but because of the proper mindset you are developing right now.

Informing yourself and learning about all the skills you need to provide a good parenting for your kid is not something that happens overnight. It is very wise what you are doing and I bet everything will turn out great.

Cheers mate.

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theguruasia (67) · 7 years ago

@cryptoctopus,
Based on your perception I sense you can be a good father! Hope to hear that big and good news in May!
There is a believe in my country, people who born in May are very lucky ones! If girl, she might be a beautiful and very attractive lady too!

Cheers~

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tiferet (39) · 7 years ago

The Tree of Life, or Etz haChayim (עץ החיים) has upvoted you with divine emanations of G-ds creation itself ex nihilo. We reveal Light by transforming our Desire to Receive for Ourselves to a Desire to Receive for Others. I am part of the Curators Guild (Sephiroth), through which Ein Sof (The Infinite) reveals Itself!

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stabilowl (63) · 7 years ago (edited)

Congrats on becoming a father in a month's time! I have a son who is five years old myself, and I can tell you it is going to be hectic, it is going to be tiring, and it is going to change your life as you know it forever. But she is going to be your bundle of joy, your most priced achievement, and the love of your life. The feeling that you get when you watch them grow up, their first steps, their first words, how they try to pull you in and give you a big cuddle, their giggles and kisses, how they run and jump towards you when you pick them up after school... You will feel that it's all worth it.

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boatsports90 (60) · 7 years ago

Congrats to you sir! I am in the same boat as you, except sooner. My wife is due with our first child May 9th, but she could really pop at any time. It's definitely a nervous but exciting time. A lot of mixed emotions (mostly happy of course,) but a whole new journey. I was fortunate enough to have my father through my whole life, and still do. He was always there for me and was that good role model I needed. The same goes for my wife's father. Although I haven't been a father yet, I have two amazing men to continue looking up to and follow in their footsteps.

The biggest step is caring and wanting to be a good father. From your post, you are certainly headed in the right direction and I am sure will be just fine!

Our worlds are about to get turned upside down, but I know we will both make the most of it and wouldn't want it any other way.

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boatsports90 (60) · 7 years ago

@cryptoctopus - I actually decided to write a poem about waiting for the baby to come in this last month or so. After reading your post, I figured I would dedicate it to you. Hopefully you'll enjoy it and can relate to some of the feelings I have.

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zakia (71) · 7 years ago

Father is like a big tree for a child. I think the feelings to be a father is best things. Wish you to be a healthy and cute child of a father.

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kouba01 (81) · 7 years ago

Having a child is a precious gift, remember to always love, protect and cherish your child as you head on your family journey together. Teach your child many things and you will be surprised by the things you learn from your child. A father always holds a special place in their child’s heart for a life time.

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obaidb2 (57) · 7 years ago (edited)

Becoming the father is one of the awesomest feeling although o havent been one also but i have seen my uncle when he bacame a father and the moment he carried his baby girl innhis hands ,he was full of love ,love are shedding off his eyes and the moment he took her ,he started to talk to her even knowing she wont understand a word ...he holded her tiny hand and kissed it ,i wud say the feeling of becoming a father is utmost ....you will definitely love it...
Bit do remember that becoming a father and then playing a role of father is tough you would have to sacrifice alot coz your wife wont always be there to hold her or make time to spend with her you have to be supportive lot more than you can do....Your life style will change alot but be prepared for it and always do love your wife as she has been with you all the time giving much love to you and playing an important role for making you a father ..
And yes do remember when the baby is born ,That her sugar level is maintained do ask doctors or nurses whosoever is available about the sugar level of child it is very important....
There is lot more to day but i guess it is becoming too big...

Be thankful to God that you are going to be father....

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kamchore (70) · 7 years ago

Congratulations in advance @cryptoctopus May the new baby come in this world with great health and baby is source of blessing, happiness for you and your family.
Father is the name of sacrifice. In our region of South East Asia, Girl have affection towards father. So you are the lucky one. It's good you studied a lot about the responsibility of father. Let's wish you a wonderful father for your kid and you remain the source of inspiration for your kid. All the best @cryptoctopus

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asgharali (59) · 7 years ago

Nice words, an advance congratulations...
Hope you will be a successful father :)

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igster (63) · 7 years ago (edited)

First of all congratulations, you're life sure is about to be changed totally, that's what other parents tend to say at least :) "Having children changed everything", and as you probably won't love anything more than your own child, I'll believe it.

They will continue on after you're gone, continuing your lineage and the thousands of men and women before you. Term torchbearer easily comes to my mind.

I'm sure you'll do just fine being a parent seeing the effort you're already putting in and having great dad yourself. You know where he did great and where he could've improved. That's a huge advantage already over those who didn't have a dad growing up. I think the most important part really is just being there for her. Being a friend and a parent, learning who she is as a person, what are her dreams, fears... and telling her that anything in this world is possible with enough passion.

You get to do all that, how cool is that?! I hope you and your family happiness for decades to come.

PS. I haven't personally read Calvin and Hobbes, but it might be a great choice as a reading material for children, so I've heard. The author denied selling the rights for big bucks, not wanting to spoil his lifework. That alone is a respectable act from a man of honor, I'd say!

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mikefromtheuk (56) · 7 years ago (edited)

Co sleeping and breastfeeding are two things I'd highly recommend, also do not vaccinate without making a well balanced and informed decision (ask to take the inserts away to read for a few days) take a open minded approach to both sides of the debate; coming from a family background of vaccine triggered autism.

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hayleyuk (40) · 7 years ago (edited)

A few things I can think of.

remember that all the childcare , cooking , and housework is not to be left to your wife. She will.be exhausted from feeding etc so will love any help . Resentment will soon follow if you don't help out.
never put your daughter down for any reason, listen to her and don't jump in immediately shouting . Under no circumstances don't you ever tell your daughter "your spots need sorting out" or "your hair is too long" or my personal favourite "there's no way you are a size 14, your at least a 20"
lots of cuddles and kisses
never stress over mess. Spend time with your child rather than cleaning all day.
do your fair share of nappies
basically don't be how my father was and you can't go wrong.

Lastly treat your wife how you want your daughter's partner to treat her. She will watch and learn from your behaviour. Also ensure you encourage breastfeeding for as long as possible and don't blindly vaccinate. Those things are full of toxin and actually cause death!!!!

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rohit08 (39) · 7 years ago

Welcome good news!!

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rizqiaulia (41) · 7 years ago

I am sure you will be a wonderful parent. Your child will give you a new life dimension. inspiring writing for me one day will be a good father, Thanks for sharing your thoughts @cryptoctopus

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dali.soh (50) · 7 years ago

I became a father not too long ago and I must say the experience is magical. It took quite some time before the reality set in, that I'm actually responsible for a tiny life. Cheers and enjoy parenthood in the next few weeks to come! :D

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wizardofcheeze (53) · 7 years ago

I have 4 boys. 2->13 yo. You can do tons of research and go into analysis paralysis. But I believe the best knowledge is gained from just doing. Using common sense or just winging it when necessary. Realize there are going to be bad days where you're grumpy, you wife's grumpy and the baby is grumpy. You'll make mistakes...like changing a pee diaper then getting pee'd and poo'd on because you forgot to cover them up quick enough. The mistakes can make for some hilarious stories. I don't know you personally but the fact that you're thinking about it now tells me you'll do fine.

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ayie93 (35) · 7 years ago

congratulations .... hopefully the delivery process will be smooth and unconstrained .. and most importantly you will soon become a father. that's beautiful news fella, i'm glad to hear it ..😚

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kamran600 (41) · 7 years ago

Congratulations brother

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cassidyandfranks (62) · 7 years ago (edited)

Don't do or say ANYTHING in front of your ANGEL that you would NOT do in public. With that being said... (they remember)

"If you have tips and tricks about how to keep the flame alive during that time, please let me know since I know that a lot of guys get complacent or have a hard time with that."

Holiday Dress Up is how I do it!

Use your imagination is ALL I CAN SAY for every HOLIDAY on the CALENDAR!

Keep STEEM N ON,
Frank

P.S. I almost forgot...Congrats @cryptoctopus

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ttenaj2018 (44) · 7 years ago

Congrats! Hope and Pray you'll have a healthy baby.

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azzhar (49) · 7 years ago

Thanks for sharing your post,It's a a rich content post indeed.By the way Congratulations to you,praying to have a good and healthy child ! :)

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mirzacho (60) · 7 years ago

congratulations to you, who will be the father.
the house will be more colorful.
You will get more jobs at home. cooperation with your wife

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holisticmom (56) · 7 years ago

Congratulations and good luck! Parenthood is one of those amazing journeys filled with every possible emotion. Watching those tiny humans grow into young adults is one of the best feelings ever. I have two daughters and two sons, all are unique and they have given me the most amazing fun filled life since the eldest was born nearly 18yrs ago. Enjoy. :-)

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vanessahampton (56) · 7 years ago

Congratulations. I'm so impressed and inspired with your approach to fatherhood. Many today take it for granted and the diagram above which shows the impact absentee fathers have on their children is so so true.
But many become distracted later on.
I pray n hope you love and be there for your daughter forever?.

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gvincentjosephm (59) · 7 years ago

Wow! That's a good news for you! Becoming a father is not an easy job but I think it's really rewarding. Congratulations on becoming a father @cryptoctopus!

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ironshield (69) · 7 years ago

Very encouraging post. As a father of four (so far) I will tell you the best is yet to come: when your baby starts talking to you, playing, learning. Just some of the joys of fatherhood. That first 6 month are mostly momma time, but after that, baby gets to know their daddy. Congratulations! @ironshield

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adrianav (47) · 7 years ago

A good father is worth a hundred teachers

Many think that a mother can be a father and a mother at the same time, I think in my theory that this is totally false, a presence of a man in the life of a child is very important, there are things that only the father can teach.

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karenmckersie (74) · 7 years ago (edited)

Great post as always and Congrats , glad your on my Auto Voter list @cryptoctopus ! upped and resteemed !👍👍👍💕

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tiger38 (36) · 7 years ago

It's good news
Thanks for your good news

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darkdrake (52) · 7 years ago

i wish you the best of luck with fatherhood!

i am not yet at the point in my life where i have to think about kids or wife, but it is truly something i find scary. i have the deepest respect for the people that take the leap into it!

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juanersatzman (54) · 7 years ago

This is great stuff. I’ve been a father to a little boy for a little over a year, now, and it definitely is a balancing act that rearranged a lot of life and forces a lot of reappraisals of how you operate.

In my experience, keeping the flame alive (for a year and a bit, so it’s not like I have a ton of experience) is a matter of priorities, balance and sacrifice. Prioritizing your spouse and child to the extent that you feel like you’re giving something up for them, but also being honest about when you need time, or really have to get something done, and so on. There’s been a learning curve so far for me, and I don’t see that changing. But—it’s a lot more fun, and a lot less terrible than popular accounts make child-rearing sound.

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fulltimemummy (31) · 7 years ago

A well prepared daddy 👍 I'm sure your wife and daughter are very proud of you. Well done!

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avhyaceulip (59) · 7 years ago

Congratulations sir... it is truly an amazing feeling to be a parent, there's no perfect book or guidelines in how to become a good parent, your kid was given to you because HE knows that you're the perfect one for your kid, it's okay to read tips and advices but as my mom told me your heart is your good adviser when it comes to your kid... Good luck sir... I know you will be a great father.. 😘😘😊❤️

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dali-gis (52) · 7 years ago

Congratulations to the new daddy for entering the next phase of his life. Parenthood means sleepless nights, messy rooms, diaper changes and constant laundry, but that’s nothing a man like you can’t handle. Good luck on your new journey!

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midfrost (33) · 7 years ago

One simply cannot avoid inflicting upon our offspring what shortcomings we carry with us, it's more important to be sated with "doing one's best" than to attempt to avoid bullshit that we can't even properly define, such as purported psychological "pathologies".
Doing a medically "assisted" delivery or a natural birth?
🙏

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gauttam (53) · 7 years ago

First of all take care of your wife because at present she needs you more than anyone else. I think relation between a father and daughter/son should be like a friend because she/he get to learn every moment from you , the way you talk, the way you behave with your wife, everything you do when she is nearby you. Every parent try to give everything to there child. I think it's very important to give time to your family. So I advice you to teach him in a friendly manner and not like a boss.
Good luck. Have a great day.

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steemflow (72) · 7 years ago

Congratulation @cryptoctopus on getting into parenthood...an important phase in one life...so much to love and care....wishing you all the best. ........👍👌

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johnz14 (65) · 7 years ago (edited)

One month is nothing.

If you're feeling worried right now, you shouldn't.

You'll be a father in no time, and nothing else will matter.

I don't have a child, yet, but I'd suggest you a few things if it's ok.

My parents used that kind of parenting on me and my brothers... And we came out to be successful.

Just don't let your kid have everything that she wants.

If she wants to be successful and hardworking, she needs to work for everything he gets.

Otherwise, you'll just spoil him, and he won't leave your house until she's 40.

And if she does something good, reward her.

Pure psychology :)

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timewarp (54) · 7 years ago

congratulation @cryptoctopus. Birth is life, love and beauty.

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dkid14 (62) · 7 years ago

First of all, Congrats! The craziest part of fatherhood for me has been seeing my little boy for the first time. It was instant love and hard to explain how it worked. I was sicker than a dog to had to keep my distance but it was amazing.

Exact same thing happened for my second child too.

#3 on the way. Don’t feel like I’ve learned much more about parenting....but I love being around my kids.

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solcross (52) · 7 years ago

Haha....this is funny, sweet and interesting. I'm pretty sure you will be a great dad. Your dad has set a fab precedent.

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ugetfunded (62) · 7 years ago

Never been through this experience but I've been part of it as a son. I remember how my father used to fulfill my wishes after I had got some very good scores in my studies. He was one of the best teachers in my life. He laid the foundation of Maths and English for me that helped me a lot throughout my entire life till date. One more thing, he taught me how to play Chess and thus became my teacher in this field too. He died of cancer back in 2001 and his gap could never be filled. I miss him.

Hi @cryptoctopus, I congrats you ahead of time.

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dzuel (30) · 7 years ago

Nice picture..
I like it

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parsie (44) · 7 years ago

you should take care her health....you help her any house work....best of luck and have a nice day

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theaudgirl (58) · 7 years ago

Congratulations on your baby girl! I had a close relationship with both of my parents, but the one between a dad and a girl is so special. You're going to be her protector and she will always look at you that way. I think you are going to be a great father given how you speak about fatherhood and different things you are already keeping an eye out for. Let her feel like she is your world (which she will be) and she will turn into a beautiful woman! I feel confident that my dad would do anything for me (even when I would make him drive all around town looking for prom dresses with me) and that feeling is one I don't take for granted.

Have so much fun raising your girl!

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chuck2u32 (53) · 7 years ago (edited)

You've put more thought into fatherhood than I did and my kids turned out just fine. The thing to remember above all else, in all matters they will do as you do, not as you tell them to do. Hypocrisy is most destructive between parents and their children. My kids are 43 and 41 years old.

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rabeel (71) · 7 years ago

Many Many Advance Congratulations for you becoming a FATHER OF BABY GIRL. it is a very unique relationship. I also love so much to my daughter. Best wishes for you and your whole family.

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zanoni (67) · 7 years ago

Soon we can welcome you in the Club!
These times are already 26 years in my past, I cannot believe how time flies, but I noticed, the older you get, the more time flies..
Yesterday a cute baby, today a smart and beautiful lady..
My daughter.
Have a great time
Tom

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smellycat (28) · 7 years ago

That's warm! man

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ikrahch (71) · 7 years ago

Congratulations in Advance! Becoming a father isn't hard nut to crack for a men but difficult for a women who spent a long time to born a baby. 9 months are the sensitive period. Good to know just 0ne month is remaining. Wish you good luck! You seem so sensible man!

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manfaluthi (43) · 7 years ago

I changed for my son, because I am a former punk
now I am a new punk to be a role model for my child

#punkisdad

if allowed, I want to translate this article into Indonesian language (bahasa), because I am concern on the title of #fatherhood

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zorank (60) · 7 years ago

There are some really frightening stats in the chart abowe, but I am sure you'll be a wonderful parent. Your child will bring you a hole new life dimension.

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sergiomendes (74) · 7 years ago

Everything will be alright. You have this in the pocket. My best wishes for the so expected birth moment. :)

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lifetimecaptures (25) · 7 years ago

Nice words

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scottshots (67) · 7 years ago

As a dad of a 17 year old son who's heading off to college in the fall, my best advice is to enjoy the rollercoaster. The movie Parenthood has a great scene at the end about that and it has stuck with me throughout my experience. It's a wild ride but so much fun and rewarding. Cheers to your new roll Pop!

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