The sudden disappointment of hope leaves a scar which the ultimate fulfilment of that hope never remains. -Thomas hardly
Disappointment is the prompt reaction of lost hope. When you expect to much out of a thing or a relationship and if it doesn't happen the way we forced, the result is called a Disappointment. Another name for disappointment is "frustration". For example : you love a person so much but he doesn't share the same feeling for you, you feel irritated.
Basically, the more you love a person, the more is your chance of get hurt. It might be your friend, I won't say that you shouldn't love them, rather love them unconditionally. This also connotes that when you don't expect anything in return, you barely feel disappointed.
For instance, take the example of a relationship break, because of misunderstanding, here you terminate what would have been an everlasting relationship because the opposite sex failed to live up to your expectations. Instead of examining what went wrong, you just say goodbye.
One may ask, is there a way to come out of it? If so, what is that.
Never have any expectations on anyone
If you have high expectations or hope on anyone, the end result is a disappointment. In other words, avoid having expectations on others. This will obviously help you strengthen your relationship with others.
Don't be highly judgemental
Don't just allot faults on others. Avoid having rigid procedures like we find in the office in your daily life. Open up with your children or partner how you want then to act in a particular situation. If you desire your living room to be highly decorated and attractive, feel free to share this with your partner or kids. If they don't behave the way you expected, try to correct them rather than being rancorous with them.
Practice give and take
Try to compromise, understanding the phenomenon that it is the best way to keep a relationship strong and alive.
This are the best possible ways to overcome the fear of disappointment.
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Maybe no need to overcome:
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I understand your point. Use disappointment as method to discover that you should let go the relation and move on. Its a way, maybe a valid one, but you can do it with less suffering.
You can have a relation without disappointment and expectation and in a natural way discover you should part away, it just will be with lot less pain.
We shouldn't have the excuse of suffering as a reason to end the sexual relation. You can always end sexual relation and still like the person as friend, as brother.
If the relation is deep and true, them it may continues as friends if they at some point discover they want something else, or someone else.
If the relation is not deep or never true. Then just realize it, feel it, and move one without hard feelings.
Suffering is need for evolution, suffering it says "you need to learn something" but when you learn it there is no more need for suffering.
Little signs will always tell you if you should continue the relation, they came naturally, no need to expect behaviors to determine if the other one loves you, or that you understand each other in the way of living.
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Hi! I liked your article.
Disappointment really is a concern, even if we know where they came from sometimes we get caught by it. :)
Is hard to remove it because we have fears and desires.
But is possible to overcame, by doing what you said, by accepting the other the way he/she is and also the way you are as the fundamental. Accept the live as it is. It also requires to understand life, how people behave, how there different life experiences turn them to respond differently.
Don't assume the you give/show love is the right one, or the only one way.
You must trust yourself, find someone that also trust themselves, and then trust in each other. Don't thing to much and try to feel more, some feeling are the mind triggers it may have nothing to do with reality.
The only true feeling is the one your mind don't enter, or start it.
So if you feel the others love, them there is nothing needed to prof. There is no right behavior, so there is no behavior to expect.
Cheers!
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