When I saw raymondspeaks' article regarding Feminism, I had to respond because this has been on my mind. I recently have be exposed to someone who speaks about gender issues a lot. I find myself thinking... "Hmmm". Mostly because I just don't understand her perspective.
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Life is more complex than language and things really aren't that simple, especially on issues of equality.
My experience as a woman has been that there are people who "lift-up" others and there are people who hold others down. They may or may not consider gender in their actions.
What I am sure of is equality can't be earned by legislating it. I am also highly annoyed by people who think they are going to achieve it by screaming about it.
When you work with, bond with and go through challenges with people of different types, it tends to break the stereo types down a bit. I think work, military and other positions where you have to work together help to eliminate the "ideas" we have about others.
I don't know about Feminism, I tend to get annoyed with what I see, but I can't say I understand where the movement is at now, I don't know about hard or easy. What I do think is making us enemies doesn't make us work together successfully and the way feminism is being covered is divisive.
I sure am glad my girls were grown and knew better before this new wave of discussing oppression was reborn. I would be pissed if someone was telling my daughter she didn't have every opportunity to achieve what everyone else can.
As long as I have the right to earn, vote and own, equality (what does that even mean?) is available to me, only I can achieve it.
Thank you for the thought provoking topic @raymondspeaks!
I just had to comment on this post. I feel a very warm attitude from your writing. I like that. Thank you! What you say is wholeheartedly how I feel in every aspect of the issue.
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Oh p.s. Stay tuned for more. I plan to tackle every other ism/label out there to try and bridge perhaps a better understanding that we're more alike than not.
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Thank you for the kind words, and also.. I followed you.
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Same! :) Thank you!
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CW: (discussion of assault)
I also have daughters. Three of them. And here is why i, their father, identify as feminist (and please note that this is not meant to be combative, but merely sharing my perspective.) There are three of them... Statistically, one in three women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetimes. That means at least one of my daughters will likely experience that total objectification. One of my beautiful little girls will be assaulted by some POS. And then... After that trauma, they're likely to face a whole new type of trauma. One where pretty much every authority figure in their lives is likely to question whether or not they were really victimized, or if they just got what they had coming. Where the judge is likely to let their attacker free because of his status, his social standing, or just because the judge thinks my daughters should not have worn XYZ, or drank XYZ...
That is my biggest area of concern, the culture we have that seems to relish in victim blaming and objectification. Next to that, everything else is secondary to me.
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Hi @mattie.b-leaver, I of course want to hear all opinions, and you didn't sound combative at all.
I do have a question back if you feel comfortable answering it, and I fully understand if you don't.
What do you think feminism is doing to help prevent the issues of sexual assault and objectification?
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Primarily, raising awareness. I have heard so many people buy into victim blaming, including many women. They buy into because it's pervasive. Because there are more voices blaming victims than there are advocating for them. Strong, proud women I know, I have heard them say "well, what did she expect? Going out dressed like that..." What did she expect? She probably expected not to have her humanity robbed from her just because she wore a dress that made her feel good about how she looked... She wore that dress, maybe because we have a cultural miasma that equates her worth with how sexy she is perceived. And then, in turn disregards her worth because of how sexy she was perceived when she was assaulted.
I probably wouldn't recognize that miasma if my feminist wife hadn't pointed it out to me. If a feminist hadn't opened my eyes to the harm that worldview does, I might still ask "well, what did she expect?"
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Understood, I don't care for that either, by the way, I have 4 adult daughters, so I do understand your concerns. :) I want my girls safe also!
I haven't seen a "solution" presented by feminism, but I haven't paid much attention to it. Maybe there are things happening that I am unaware of.
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I'm not sure there is a single solution. It's not like we can just enact a strategy that will solve the problem in a day, a month, a year... Or even a decade. Our strategy is instead to shine a light on Injustice whenever we see it, and Hope eventually people will see it for what it is. Feminist are the ones I see consistently shining a light on women's issues. They also shine a light on how dehumanizing the patriarchy is for men as well. I mean, the common conception is that if a woman dresses a certain way, then she is bound to be raped, because we men are just incapable of seeing a pretty lady without raping her. That's a pretty raw deal for both sexes.
Feminism makes the point that it is the culture that's the problem, not the men. That men aren't some flawed sex crazed perverts who can't help but rape... But rather, our culture is flawed in that it perpetuates the ideas That women are made for raping, and men are made to rape. And in fact, neither idea is remotely true....
But there is no easy solution. There is this. Right here, what we are doing, discussing it. Examining those harmful notions our society carries, and eventually discarding them for better ones. I've seen folks who aren't feminist doing that work... But I've seen a whole helluva lot more who ARE doing that work all day every day.
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Interesting insights to the idea that culture is an issue. I didn't know that was the position.
We can focus on how we raise both our boys and our girls. I get annoyed about how our culture makes sexualizing women an accepted thing. AND.. I completely agree, that nobody has the right to rape anyone no matter what they are wearing!
I did not want to teach my girls to seek that type of behavior either though... I think the conversations in today's politically charged "Hot Topics" can be hard, due to what we are "allowed to say".
I really appreciate you being willing to discuss your perspective.
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I appreciate you being willing to listen to my perspective. And of course, I don't speak for any feminist except myself. There may come along a whole slew of self identified feminist who disagree with me completely. But this is Feminism as I understand it. It's not tsunami, erasing the problems women face in an hour, it's a trickle that swells to a flood, altering the landscape of public discourse slowly, but inexorably...
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I respect how you conducted the conversation. Sadly I usually only hear a defensive tone when I try to understand. Thank you!
Understood, regarding who and what you represent... (yourself) Again, respect.
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All of the above :-)
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You were one of the first people to ever comment on one of my posts, with friendly, helpful advice. :) I am happy to be bumping into you again. I always remember your name.
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Awww, gee thanks @whatsup! I'm always glad to bump into you too :-) (And glad the advice was actually helpful!)
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Hi...
I am here now, I have seen and read it, a good post and can be motivate other steemians. A great job, may you succeed with you.
Friendship greetings from me @joe28
Vote and follow done.
Waiting for your arrival.
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Hey Joe, Thanks for stopping by.
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This will be a hot topic. I believe that everybody has issues and we all deserve to be heard. Personally, empowerment starts in the home.
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Your last quote says it all.... Only I can achieve it.
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I LOVE that meme. :)
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Thank you! I feel that with all that empowering the younger generation of women are forgetting that there are good men out there. It's all a matter of balance. We have to understand that in reality there are things men can do for women and women can do for men to facilitate each other's lives. And in no way do I feel that in the United States as women are not empowered! We have it easy. Really⭐️🎀⭐️
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A good post indeed, as usual, you did a good job. I think that cynisism leadst to hate and destruction. It pays to love, be pluralistic and have the virtues of empathy. These will make you as a person live happy and better life.
Have you seen the free fall in all cryptos today? see https://steemit.com/cryptocurrency/@charles1/the-fears-in-crypto-currencies-big-losses-in-steem-etherium-bitcoin-et-al
More success.
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i like your post, thanks for sharing
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It's also very hard to demand equality when you want the old fashioned treatment.
You want me to pay for everything? Sure.
You want to not work? I have your back.
You want me to open the door for you and worship the ground you walk on? No problem.
But you better do the dishes or take care of the house.
Otherwise we're going halfsies on everything.
In my house I cook, she does the dishes. We split everything and I still offer to pay for stuff most of the time when we go out.
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Yes, household chores and who is going to do what should be negotiated by each couple. I have seen a lot of different setups work well for others, that wouldn't work for me. In my house, these roles are constantly changing due to kids, kids being older, kids moving out, career paths changing etc. I think in my marriage we have seen both roles!
I agree though, the roles are not selected by gender.
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I believe that women can do anything. I was raised by a single mother.
I just don't think it's fair to get the best of both worlds.
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I agree. Some women need to decide if they are going to be equal or protected.
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I have the same feelings about the whole movement. I'm new here on Steemit, would appreciate if I get a follow back from you. You have interesting views!
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