Coot Photoshoot : There Is No Such Thing As A Problem Child, There Is However - A Questionable Parenting

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That same sunny day I was taking a stroll and had that snubbing encounter with a Mama Coot, I decided to take a right turn to the mere close to the foot bridge. There, I found this coot couple with their 6 chicks.

Both Papa Coot and Mama Coot were busily tending to all chicks. It was feeding time and they were oblivious of my existence, they all got closer to the bridge where I was standing so, Ms. Nosy me couldn't help but watch. I wish I had bread with me during those strolls, really. On the other hand, am not sure it's healthy to train the chicks to eat bread, don't you think? That's so out of their nature.

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I noticed one chick's always swimming away from the group so I bothered Papa Coot.

"Hi there, Papa Coot. Isn't it a great day? The sun's up and the birds are singing."

Yeah, such a lame way to start a conversation ...

"Go away human, am busy!"

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Wow, I guess I'll be getting another snubbing. Shoot!

"Hey, Papa Coot, what's wrong with that chick, why is it a bit distant? He's always swimming far from you and Mama Coot? Is he a rebel? Is he your problem child?"

I asked about one chick being on its own, swimming closer to the bank, seemingly trying to swim farther than it did the last time as if it's going after the group of ducks swimming on the other side.

"Who are you calling a problem child? That's not a he, it's a she! Don't go name calling my kid! She's just very adventurous and curious about this mere! She's just different, more of advanced! She's the first to ever try get off that nest and swim days before the rest even dared! She's just eager to matured, she mimics almost everything my wife and I do except sinking her head into the water and go pecking after the other birds cause she knows that's my role! She's rather just that, perhaps odd for you to see but she's just like that and its allowed! "

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I could only imagine an exclamation point on every sentence he has thrown me with that tone, then he went on ..

"How dare you call her a problem child! There is no such thing as a problem child! There's only a questionable parenting! You humans, why do you always blame it on your children? As if it's their choice to be born in this world! It was yours, you and that lustful desire of yours! Now, you project it on my kids? She's not a problem child, in fact, am so proud of her, you should have seen her swimming with the ducks and even with that tough looking Nile geese!"

Proud Papa Coot indeed, he said so while diving in and out of the water for plants. I also noticed the way he's "beak feeding" his chicks so I dared asked hoping he's not aggravated yet.

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"Aren't you spoiling them Papa Coot? You already dove for their food and you still beak feed them? Is that really still necessary?"

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I got a glare for asking that, I almost jumped off the bridge at how sharp those eyes were.

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"What are you meddling about? Weren't you breastfeed?"

Not that I remember really, I had to look up to the sky to think about it though but I just don't remember.

"So what do you want me to do? Just drop the food in the water for them to pick? It's too early for them to do that! Can't you see how much they're struggling to float? Haven't you had swimming lessons and had your heart fluttered at the fear of how deep the water you were in? How do you think they feel now?

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"What do you want me to do? Let them drown? Like you people let your children howl in the middle of the night and don't even pick them up? Do you enjoy them crying at the top of their lungs? Well, we find that sadistic and abusive! You, haven't you experienced being spoon fed by any of your parents?"

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I could feel my cheeks turning red. Good thing I was alone in that meer cause surely I was loosing my head. I have no recollection of neither being breast feed nor spoon fed. I shook my head off, maybe I just can't remember, who does, I was born when camera and celphones weren't as available as now so I can't look back into the past. " Lucky cootlings"; I thought, though surely, I wouldn't have been made to lick the table for spilt milk or baby food was I? That's quite a dreadful thought! I shook my head to get it off.

"It's weird how your human brains work. Nothing is right unless it meets your own standards or work for your own benefit. How dare you keep criticizing my children! How dare you question my parenting? Sooner, my chicks would be leaving the nest. It's just months before that happens! Don't you see how very short a time I have to show my love to them? How insolent!"

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"Do you think it costs me much time to go diving there for food? It's just a few seconds compared to the hours some of you are spending in your offices and work. Oh, and are you proud that some of you are having a role switch and letting your children do the parenting to you and you get curious why you have what you call "your problem child?" Did it ever occur to any of you that perhaps you're a problem parent? "

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" Why do you human always do that, when your kids go acting up, ask yourselves! It's a mere reflection that something is wrong with one or both parent? Why always blame it on the child? A child is a child - helpless and needs guidance! When they get bullied in school or they start showing unreasonable behaviors, instead of condemning them, talk to them, ask why they're doing what they're doing and really listen! If you do, you'd realize it's you parents that's the problem! Now you really are near pissing me off questioning my parenting here! Now, scram!"

I could feel his blood boiling at every blade sharp stare he's throwing me in between diving for water plants plus I was so embarrassed at the bit of truth he's mentioned about us so I decided to bid them goodbye and go on with my stroll thinking ...

"Mother f***ing nature, you do things so naturally or is it what you call instinct but it sure works, we humans could really learn much from you if we'd just care to look harder. I have to admit, coots make great parents!"

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Now, why do I feel like I've just had some pecking!

So how about you human, reading this, what do you think? Is there really such a thing as a problem child or it's just really a questionable parenting? If you think it's either of the two, would you dare cite an example and explain why you think so?

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Thank you for posting @englishtchrivy.

Lovely beautiful amazing photographs.......and thought provoking missive.

Looks like Mr. and Mrs. Coot have their hands full......even nature teaches us that parenting is a great responsibility.

All the best to you mon ami.

Cheers!

I understand it is not always easy and that there are always exceptions and examples of kids who go in the wrong direction and end up in the gutter, no matter how much we try to prevent that.
Still I think in most cases it's questionable parenting.
During puberty kids get to know "wrong" friends. But even then, you as a parent should know your child good enough if he/she is, or could be "vulnerable" for the bad influences of those wrong friends.
Just an example: the first joint my son smoked was together with me at our house in my presence. Same for the first time he was drunk, at home. This way I knew what was the effect it had on him.

The problem nowadays is that lots of parents are too busy making a career etc and not taking enough time for their kids that they've put in this world and help/assist them to find the best way to prepare them for that moment to stand on their own feet one day.

oh am not used to you being serious :)
but thanks for sharing your opinion

I have always thought of parenting as a hard profession
so the older I got I decided to pass on that job
I'm not sure I won't be making mistakes and be doing a great job and I just don't dare want to try

I guess, every parent just also don't know what to do
why is there no school for parenting?
is it a valid excuse that every child is different?

thanks for sharing your shared moments with your son
my first cigarette puff was on my own - when my dad asked me to get one on top of the fridge and I've never smoked since then
it had a bad taste haha

still, I would have probably cherished it had my first beer/ getting drunk experience was also with my parents but cest la vie haha

Good luck with parenting, it seems to be a lifetime sport / profession imho ..

seems like you love animals
these birds are beautiful and loving

Hi there, loved your photo shoot. You have inspired me in some of your earlier writings to observe the wildlife. I began paying more attention to them and there are many lessons they teach us, parenting being one of them. I have also observed how compassionate they are with their own as well as other species. I hope you are well and enjoying a fun summer.

thank you a
and welcome to the club!

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There Is No Such Thing As A Problem Child, There Is However - A Questionable Parenting

that's similar to what they say about teachers, isn't it? there's no bad pupils, only bad teachers

is it all down to parenting though? i don't know

of course, family is the first 'school' for children, and young children are very impressionable, but ... every child has its own personality, no?

I totally agree with that metaphor ;)

definitely, each child is an individu but does that make them a problem child?

you asked this no parent whether it's all down to parenting? of course there's plenty of other affecting factors but 99% of it boils down to parenting a child imho

Pretty amazing shots and that conversation was the coolest ;)

echt hele mooie foto's goed werk

They have beautiful colors and look very cute. Nice shots!
Enjoy your weekend :)

thank you

Very nice pic dear friend