How to Flirt with a Girl 😍

The other day I got told I was a very good flirt. And, I suppose, I am. Of course, I wasn't always a good flirt... well, perhaps I was always at least a little bit of a flirt.

What's it matter if you know how to flirt with a girl or not? In fact, it matters a good deal.Flirting is how you arouse a girl's interest and make her start imagining the two of you getting together. And once you've gotten her thinking about it – and gotten her thinking about it in a fun, suggestive way – you're a lot closer to taking it out of her and your imagination and into the real world.

In this post, we're going to focus on what most men do wrong when it comes to flirting with women, what the right mindsets are for a man who's a successful flirt, and what talented flirts do. So purse your lips and lower your eyelids a smidge; we're going to get flirty.

CLUMSY FLIRTS: WHERE MOST MEN FAIL

Did you know that babies flirt? If you didn't, no biggie; most folks don't. My mother likes to tell the story of how when I was a little infant, before I could walk, when she'd take me out in the stroller and go around the shopping mall in our town, I used to smile and coo at all the pretty girls who walked by, and I'd get very flirty with the ones who came over to admire me. Guess I started young.

As it works out though, the majority of flirting done by small children is done by baby girls, and this trend only accelerates as children get older. Boys are running around and scuffling with each other and getting into messes;girls are talking and gossiping and looking at the boys and flirting.

What that ends up producing is a whole lot of girls who are very good at flirting... and a whole lot of boys who aren't. Flirting just doesn't come second-nature to most men.

As a result of this lack of experience with flirting, when most men try to flirt, it comes out clumsy and overly direct. Most men just don't really know how to be subtle, and they don't really know how to tease and excite women the way women know how to tease and excite men.

And that, there, in subtlety, is one of the primary differences between many men's attempts at flirting, and women's successes with flirting. If you want to know how to flirt with a girl, subtlety and implication is going to be something you must learn.

But flirting is made up of two halves, and the second half is nothing like the first: wit and chase frames make up the rest of the flirtation equation.

Of course, just like most men lack subtlety, most men never think to use chase frames when flirting with women, and those two missing pieces – subtlety and chase frames – are the main reasons why most men fail at flirting. Once you start incorporating those pieces into your fliration repertoire, however, things change in a hurry.