Maybe you can't forget a person, but you must learn to let go.
Many people have been obsessed with their love and cannot let them go deep in their hearts.
In fact, it's not that you can hardly forget that person, but your own inner obsession that makes you lose yourself.
There is a famous psychology experiment:
People set up a trap to catch the monkey. The method is very simple. They dug a hole in the coconut, the size of the hole was just large enough for the monkey to reach in with his hands free, but could not hold the food to take it out.
People just put some food in the cave to attract many monkeys. As a result, many monkeys were caught in this way.
When the person approached, the monkey appeared panicked, but still could not escape from the hole by holding the food tightly with one hand.
In fact, these monkeys can put down the food in their hands and escape, but they are still unwilling to let go.
If you can't let your obsessions go, you may end up with nothing.
As said in the movie:
When you hold your hands tightly, there is nothing inside; when you open your hands, the world is in your hands. "
For those who are lost, you don't have to be stubborn, letting go is the wisest choice.
If unforgettable, don’t forget.
Facing the breakup, some people chose Xinhuan, and some people chose time.
If you really can't forget a person, then you can accept this too.
One influence in psychology is the white bear effect.
An experiment by Daniel Wegner, a social psychologist at Harvard University in the United States.
He asked the participants not to imagine a white bear. As a result, people's thoughts rebounded strongly, and soon the image of a white bear appeared in their minds.
When you deliberately control yourself not to think about one thing. Usually, you will increase your attention to things and form a strong thought backlash.
Don't indulge in how to forget a person. When you no longer deliberately avoid certain people and things, you may have forgotten them.