Destroying Victim Mentality

clayboyn (70) in freedom • 7 years ago (edited)

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jonasqsl (45) · 7 years ago (edited)

This is so true. The victim mentality is spreading like a virus throughout the internet and our everyday lives. I dunno if it is a result of bad parenting or a product of the time we live in?
Anyway - i like to remind myself that even though i think life is rough sometimes, i'm still part of the 1% of the world. Heck, even the people protesting against the 1% are a part of the 1%.
That thought always give me some perspective on my problems.

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clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

I think the problem is more complex than bad parenting. We have parents raising children that don't know any other way of existence.

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sirknight (67) · 7 years ago (edited)

If I was to try to put my finger on it I would say it is a bit of both (parenting and external environment), but perhaps being exacerbated by over-controlling governments and falling living standards. Up-voted and following. SirKnight.

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jonasqsl (45) · 7 years ago

Thank you SirKnight!
I think you have a great point about the over-controlling governments. Here in Denmark the government takes care of everything in your life. You get "free" healthcare, "free" education, "free" social security checks. You never have to worry about anything in your life so when life finally hits you on the hard side you are not accustomed to it. I don't know about other countries but your comment made me reflect on my own! :) great input.

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lifeworship (66) · 7 years ago

We are, all of us, absolutely free.

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clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

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lifeworship (66) · 7 years ago

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jagged (59) · 7 years ago

I agree to the level of where we have control.
There are certain day to day activities in which we rely on others to do the right thing. Even then accidents can happen.
But I agree with overall state of mind we need to be responsible and co-creators in those areas you are talking about.
Just raising your hands and yelling Victim is an easy copout.

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clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago

When we rely on others for things like our happiness and mental health, we are kind of setting ourselves up for failure. One person is always going to be responsible for themselves first and foremost.

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sirknight (67) · 7 years ago

Terrific post @clayboyn - never has a truer word been spoken. We all need to step up and take responsibility for our actions - and we might just be happy again. Will resteem. Regards - SK.

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clayboyn (70) · 7 years ago (edited)

:) It's kind of ironic, because (and I mean this in the most non-conceited way possible) no one was ever as good at breaking me down and judging me as I was. I was amazing at being a victim, so good I even had myself fooled. Well I can accept responsibility for that. I can also change and I have.

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sirknight (67) · 7 years ago

You have seen the error in your ways and you have taken steps to rectify it - this is more many will ever achieve. SK.

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whatamidoing (69) · 7 years ago

There are lots of ways to go about changing your framing, but framing is really all it comes down to.

Resteemed as a reminder for whoever needs it.

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sandstorm (67) · 7 years ago

No victims allowed! There was always a saying, "don't hate the player, hate the game", that right there is the victim mindset. The way it should be is: "You are the game, You WIN!" That is the shot caller mindset! As you were.

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