Hello and hello~

I'm wearing a kebaya, one of Malaysian traditional garment

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Hi everyone it's been a while since I posted a personal post here. I've been lurking around actually but do not really have any ideas to post about so I just do the official things on Steemit since then. If any of you are curious about what I have been doing while I'm away or quiet in here, I was getting myself back to the path that I feel I was intended to take in this lifetime.
Honestly, I feel that I have achieved nothing this year and also last year, nothing much to be proud of as I was like calibrating myself and trying to figure out things just as when I was in my early 17 teen years old me. This year I spent a lot of time reflecting of what I have done and what I should do next and making sure that it is the right one for me.
I stumbled along the way a lot... taking time to heal and then getting up again and again. I won't be putting all those things that happened to me in detail here but I just want to share a bit of my life journey and things that I have learned along the way with you all and hope that you all can learn something out of it.
The first thing I've learned was, to voice my true opinion in a diplomatic way as possible and try to make people see the way I see and perceive the situations that we need to solve. I learned that people have their own perspectives and way looking at problems or situations.. sometimes you get to solve the problems with the hybrids of solutions from all involved parties. To come to a common ground, all these peoples need to sit together and voice out their true opinions and other parties listening and waiting for their turn to voice out their own opinion on the situations too.
There must be at least 1 person, a trusted person who will be on neutral ground to discern and give his/her opinion based on the overall opinions of the involved parties so the problem can be solved better.
Then I learned that people will most likely listen to you if you truly listen, rephrase their concerns in your own way of understanding and acknowledge their feelings in the process.
Another thing is that people will assume things happened based on the past actions of someone regardless if this person has changed or doesn't have any intention of doing the things that these assuming peoples think will do. This will get worse if they're not communicating with each other directly when facing some situations that need to be solved. I'm still confused about why people prefer to assume things and wishing their predictions to come true in this situation, why don't they sit together, and discuss things properly with that particular person. This is just creating unnecessary drama and conflicts. Are they afraid of confronting conflicts and just praying so problems will get better by themselves?

I also learned that people will never understand you unless they really heard you and have been through or can relate to the things you have gone through and without any prejudice or prior judgment. This has pros and cons, for me, I can filter peoples who I want to have in my life and be part of it and who I should ignore and avoid if I can..

All in all, I still love this life, sometimes it broke my heart but am eager to learn more and grow more. If everything is going to be always well and ok for me, I will end up being a weak soul and there's no growth without struggles and falls.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

and

Smooth Seas Don't Make Good Sailors...

Keep on being strong, keep on learning and building your life, may the good force and great fortune be with you~

I think I can relate to his feelings in this song..

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