What is your self-confidence like?

in goviral •  5 years ago 

When you compare yourself with others, what do you think of yourself and your own abilities?

 

Story example:

A 75 year old farmer I once met, who said he didn’t amount to much and felt a loser? He kept comparing himself to his wife, “She always earned more than me!”  

  • He never considered the fact he supplied the food and comfy home foundation for her to come home to, especially after she would have a stressful business trip.  
  • He had missed the point that all these years they complemented each other as a loving team! 
  • All those years wasted on self-pity! What of the dormant potential of them both locked up all those years? 
  • Maybe if he had realized what a team they had, they both would perhaps have gone much further in life together?! 

Sadly comparing ourselves against others:

Have you ever thought the following? 

  • You did well at school but landed up been paid less at work, compared to your friends that failed at school and now earn so much more than you do? Does it seem unfair? 
  • Other people win lottery tickets, get noticed for promotion and opportunities fall into their laps, etc! Why do others have all the luck and not you? 
  • You put a lot of time and effort into what you do and seem to get nowhere. Yet there are others who seem to go places and are so successful in this life, it seems without any effort on their part! How do they do it? 

Are you always going to lose out? Is it the twist of fate? 

We under estimate ourselves!

Why waste our lives on self-pity! Each of us has a dormant ability. It may not be an obvious talent…but something… that you can build on, instead of comparing ourselves to other people. 

Each of us is unique like a fingerprint:

And with that uniqueness we can stand-out in a crowd. Consider what is so different about you, from other people. And then what you could do with it. 

  1. It may be just your personality and how you relate to others that could `open doors’ for you.
  2. The way you create things: You may have a different panache style twist or flair that could create a new fashion or décor craze. 
  3. How you put things together can create a new invention. How you link facts, theories, events and results may have a new connotation that could change the world for the better. 

Don’t hide your talent under a bushel!

… `Let your light shine before men’! 

No one will know what you are capable of, unless you show them what you can do. Not only talk about it, but display it openly for everyone to see it. Seeing is believing! 

For example: If you sew and create beautiful clothes… wear it yourself in a stylish way to advertise it. 

  • Notice there is a certain amount of acting in that. So act the part until you are the part!  
  • Don’t forget to enjoy acting the part, while you are doing it! Paving the way to success can be just as much fun as hitting your target. 
  • Dressing and acting the part builds confidence. And you need your confidence to make your posts to go viral.  
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Everytime we compare our confidence with others because its fact. Confidence is very important. We always perform our colleages function and family function our confidence is to much high. Its very good for our future. One day you become viral. Thanks for sharing.@artguru.

I have noticed children with strong confidence do better in life. They aren't scared to get out there and do something.

Thanks for the helpful tips and a good push to action :)

of course full of enthusiasm, confidence is important in every way

welcome to steemit @artguru I am your post appreciate it that's great story I like it. thanks for visiting my comment... best of luck

And some people push their luck.

Hello @artguru, how are you doing? I believe that human destiny is determined by God. So I never compare myself with other people. I am quite confident and never feel jealous of others. Envy of others makes our lives unhappy
Enjoy your day, my friend.

I'm so glad to hear someone has such confidence. And you are so right, it's a waste of time been jealous of others. It's so much more fun running your own life.

We miss out of track when we begin to compare ourselves to others
We were all designed for different purpose in life
How boring life would be if everyone were to do the same thing and be the same way
We can't live other's life and expect to standout

We have our own life to live
So we ought to stop comparing ourselves to others and live our God-purposed life, just the way He designed it
Thank you@artguru for such wonderful post

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Some problems aren't easy for us to solve. So I leave it in the hands of God because He can see the bigger picture and knows what's best for me, and of cause for others. In the meanwhile I must do what I can.

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