THE CONSULTING ROOM: LOW SELF ESTEEM.

Hello every one, this will be the second publication i'm making in this series in less than 24hours you can visit my blog and check for the last topic; PEPTIC ULCERATION.

For the last three episodes of this publication, I've been discussing about disease conditions, well I want to talk on something that is not really a disease but rather I would say it's a disorder. This is just my own view/suggestion towards the topic about to be discussed:

LOW SELF-ESTEEM: I just took a close look at the word 'esteem' and guess what came to my mind "e-steem" app😂😂. Don't mind me..back to the topic;

Low self-esteem is a condition experienced by people that makes them feel they are not up to par in the society/their field of life.

It is mostly developed from childhood; the affected individuals child hood have a long effect on his/her esteem.

CAUSES;

Several factors can be pointed to as the cause of low self esteem but I will state some;

• Attitude of parents:
  this is a key factor that always comes to mind. Parent are the first environment/ point of interaction to an individual so whatever they do or how they relate/treat the person goes a long way to shape the child esteem. I am a good example; while growing up, my dad will complain seriously over any of my little wrong decision. This made me to doubt my ability to make sound decision for a long time before i could get over it.
  

Friends:
show me your friend and i will tell you who you are; well it does not always work that way...I've been in a circle of friend where i was more like a errand boy because the rest where financially buoyant. I am a victim of this disorder so what i say is mainly out of experience.

Personal characteristic:
most time introverts are seen as people with low self esteem and to some extent that is true. On a good day i'm an extrovert but when i'm in an environment that make me feel inferior i automatically become an introvert.

You will observe that the causes i highlighted has to do with from childhood. For an adult to develop low self esteem it must be as a result of an experience/ bouts of experience that brought about doubting of the person's ability and charisma. Such experience could be a doctor who lost a patient in a simple case like appendicitis ( i say simple case because it is when compared to others). The doctor may feel 'if i can loose a patient to a little surgical procedure like appendctomy, what will happen when i'm dealing with a person with a cardiac surgery case.'

EFFECTS OF LOW SELF ESTEEM:

One major hallmark of low self-esteem is "Indecisiveness". Others are;

• intrapersonal conflict ( being in a state of confusion most times for no reason)

• defects in interpersonal relationships

• low productivity/output level

• violence

• drinking/drug addiction.

• suicidal tendency.

HOW TO ESCAPE THE HOLD OF LOW SELF ESTEEM:

Your environment plays a huge role in restoring self esteem. Here is my advise/contribution;

• Find people who have positive influence and link with them.

• Practise the habit of public speaking.

• Start making decisions whether they are right or not (practise makes perfect).

• Read Books; yes reading books help build your IQ also expand your vocabulary and increase your knowledge about things around.

I would stop here so you can complete the rest on the comment section.

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