I'm not saying don't care, that's impossible- we're human. I'm saying self esteem is where you find it. For example, you're a good writer...you should derive self esteem from that. Beauty isn't self esteem. I've had girlfriends that wouldn't be considered "beautiful" by the impossible standards set forth by advertisers etc...but they were beautiful in how they carried and presented themselves. Beauty comes from within and it shows. I've met "beautiful" girls that I wouldn't bother to throw a rock at from across the street. Ugly shows through too. If you are beautiful inside, people will see it...but first you have to believe it. You take what you have and build on it...like the saying goes: "If you believe, you can achieve." Be beautiful and you will be beautiful! (I know these things, I'm really, really old lol!)