Understanding inhibiting factors of a great sex life

A long time before I met a doctor who taught me that a person can't be physically or mentally healthy unless he experiences frequent and complete orgasms. He defined orgasm as "the capacity for complete discharge of all dammed up sexual excitations through involuntary pleasurable contractions of the body"
Orgasm, the complete discharge of energy, is necessary for our health and body. There are techniques for improving and enhancing your sexual life, as well as a systematic program for curing the most common sexual dysfunctions that plague so many.
Today I'd like to share some facts and details so you guys could improve your sexual life by understanding the actual reactions of your body to various stimuli, the more you can improve your sexual life.

Let's begin with females genital part called the vagina. There are the outer and inner lips along the outside edges of the entrance to the vagina, known as the labia. The vaginal opening is approximately one inch above the base of these lips. The urethra, the opening for urine to pass through, is approximately one inch above the vaginal opening. The clitoris is the head of these lips, almost where the lips come together at the top. The clitoris has a piece of skin over it known as the clitoral hood.
This hood is a godsend to women. The clitoris, with thousands of nerve endings in its tiny area, is exquisitely sensitive. Direct contact with the clitoris might be very painful or, at the least, uncomfortable. This hood allows a woman to be stimulated to the point of excitement while it simultaneously prevents pain.
Also there is a magical trick that all sensory perceptors are located at the mouth of vagina within an inch.Again, this is to prevent pain. If women had nerve endings throughout the vagina, the pain of childbirth would be much more excruciating. But the way women are created permits the head of the child to pass through the vaginal canal almost entirely before any nerve endings are reached.
This is also one of the reasons why the length of the penis is not at all important to pleasurable sex. Because the nerve endings, the sensitive area, are within an inch or so of the mouth of the vagina, the rest of the vagina receives very little sensation from the inserted penis.
Another fact that belies the mythical benefits of a large penis is the “ballooning” quality of the vagina. The vagina is shaped like a balloon that has been slightly blown up, one that has air at the end of it. As the penis penetrates, the vagina adapts to accommodate it, as if the balloon were getting fuller at the end. It remains unextended if the penis does not require more room. The walls of the entrance to the vagina stretch only enough to accommodate the penis. Whatever the circumference of the penis, it is not a criterion in the stimulation of the vagina.
The only really essential issue is that you use positions during sexual intercourse that satisfy you best. Since the clitoris needs to be stimulated in order to climax, you should position yourselves so that the clitoris is stimulated as much as possible, and sexual intercourse will be that much more pleasurable. Some positions offer more possibility for this than others. You must find those positions that are best for you. You can also masturbate or be masturbated during intercourse. Many women and men find this very exciting and satisfying. Experiment until you find the position that is most satisfactory for your own bodies and pleasures.

Speaking of the clitoral orgasm, I feel it is unnecessary to go deeply into the great argument about the vaginal orgasm versus the clitoral orgasm. As stated above, there is only one orgasm, and that is achieved through clitoral stimulation. If a woman does have an orgasm during penetration, it is because the thrusts of the penis are pulling down on her labia, which, as they move down, stimulate the clitoris. It is this stimulation that helps to increase the vaginal contractions that are bringing on the orgasm.

During orgasm, the vaginal walls are contracting once every eight-tenths of a second. The contractions of the vagina due to the excitation, increased tension in the muscles, and additional blood flow in the genital area are all factors that bring a woman toward a climax.
Now let's talk about men private parts that is penis.
The penis has several vesicles, or pouches, running through it. One carries the blood that causes an erection—blood flow increases as excitation increases. Another is for urine and the semen. Urine and the semen pass through the same vesicle, though at different times, of course. But though the urine and semen are excreted through the same opening at the tip of the penis and pass through the same vesicle, they originate in different areas of the body.
The vesicle carrying the blood has no outlet. When the erection subsides, the blood returns to the rest of the body through the same vesicle. A similar reaction occurs in the woman. After her climax, the additional blood that has rushed to the genital area returns to the rest of the body.
On the penis, at the very tip, is the glans. This is just below the hood and at the very top of the large vein running alongside the penis from base to hood. The glans is very sensitive, since there are many nerve endings in this small area. When the glans is stimulated, the male experiences a great deal of pleasure. This is also the spot to apply pressure to stop ejaculation by using the “thumb treatment” , “Premature Ejaculation.”

Now let’s look at what happens physiologically when you begin to make love.

The first phase called the excitement phase.

Males: The penis becomes erect as blood begins to fill the vesicle, causing the penis to swell. The testicles tend to flatten out and begin to rise. During intense excitement, a very small amount of thick, colorless fluid is often emitted from the penis. This comes from the Cowper’s gland. It is not a sign of premature ejaculation. It is merely a signal that the body is intensely excited and is preparing for the seminal emission. Very often, males don’t even notice this fluid.

Females: The vaginal walls begin to contract, causing a secretion of fluid that lubricates the vagina. The clitoris enlarges and hardens so that it seems to come out farther from between the labia. It becomes erect, as the penis does, due to the increased blood flow to the area.
In general, the nipples may become hardened and erect, breathing quickens, the skin may flush, and you may begin making various sounds.

The second phase called the plateau phase.

As you continue love making you go into second phase called the plateau phase.
Males: The testes flatten even more and rise up farther toward the body. The penis becomes more erect and hardens to its maximum size. Seminal fluid is forming in the vesicle. This is the premonitory stage, the point at which the male becomes aware that he needs to stop stimulation or he will be unable to control ejaculation.
Females: The vaginal cavity is expanding, contractions in the vagina are increasing, lubrication is increasing, and the labia are swelling and changing color due to additional blood flow in the area. The skin at the entrance to the vagina, where the nerve endings are, is also engorged with blood and deepens in color to dark red.

The third phase called orgasmic phase.

This is the end stage.
Males: Blood flow has increased to the point where the body can no longer tolerate any further pressure in the genital area, the seminal vesicles are full, the testes have risen completely up into the body. The semen begins to flow upward, toward the mouth of the seminal vesicle. This is known as an ejaculatory inevitability, since at this point the male cannot control the ejaculation. The penis is contracting once every eight-tenths of a second, the semen begins to spurt out of the tip of the penis, and orgasm takes place.
Females: The entire genital area is engorged with blood and the walls of the vagina are contracting once every eight-tenths of a second. The clitoris is enlarged with blood and standing erect, and lubrication is generally increased.
In order for a man to reach orgasm, he must go through all four stages, also experiencing a refractory—resting—stage after each orgasm.
Please don’t begin comparing your physiological responses to those described here. Don’t watch for the signals discussed
above. If you have not experienced the intense feeling of orgasm, the following chapters will help you reach this peak of pleasure. But don’t worry or analyze your every breath as you are making love: “Am I breathing fast enough?” or “Are her nipples hard enough?” or “Has my anus contracted this time or not?”
Thank me later.