Hello @gormogon, your determination seems great to me, I hope you achieve your goal. I understand you very well, my partner is also overweight, when I met him he was 34 and I was 24. I weighed 55 kilograms and he 125, he was always trying to lose weight and I helped him, we ate a lot of fruit, we drank a lot of water, he was treated twice with specialists and he lost weight but then he gained more, he became depressed and did not want to go out to parties, he would not get out of the car and get upset if someone looked at him, he felt uncomfortable buying clothes. One day I told him "I love you as you are, if you lose weight or not I don't care, what I want is for you to be healthy and old with me." He has not done any more diet, but he has not gained weight either, that was ten years ago, currently I am 50 and he is 60 we are together and we are happy. Time passes, do not waste it looking for an ideal, look for someone who loves you and who to love just as they are. (Sorry, the writing I used the translator). Saludos desde la Isla de Margarita-Venezuela.