1.Always Stay Composed and Calm in Any Situation
No matter what happens, stay composed and calm in any situation. Never lose control. (This is a life skill. People who can do this are incredibly strong and attractive.)
2.Don't Focus on Him When You're Not Communicating; Be Fully Engaged When You Are
When not communicating, don't spend your time and energy on him. When you are interacting, give your full attention to the person and situation at hand. Guide others to talk more and then ask about you, instead of indulging in self-promotion. Avoid blindly sharing too much about yourself. Maintain a sense of mystery—only reveal things when asked, which will make others feel pleasantly surprised and eager to explore more about you.
3.Manage Yourself, Don't Try to Change Him
Just manage yourself. If you ever feel the urge to change him or interfere, resist acting on it. No matter what bad habits he has, don't try to change him because it's futile. Stay calm, don't say anything, and let the anger and impulse subside. If needed, mentally mark it as a negative point, and show that your interest in him has diminished because of it rather than getting angry.
4.Emotional Control is Key
Emotional control is the most important. Identify negative emotions promptly and isolate them, only showing positive emotions to others. If your emotions aren't right, choose not to act immediately. No matter how long it takes, don't rush; calming down is the priority. Saying or doing nothing is a hundred times better than saying or doing the wrong thing.
5.Be Genuinely Good to a Man, But Give Him What He Truly Needs
Being genuinely good to a man isn't about giving him what you think is good, as that could impose on him and be bothersome. Instead, give him what he needs. For instance, always provide trust and support when he's feeling down, but it's unnecessary when he's feeling confident. Only cook for him when he specifically asks for it, not regularly. Keep things limited and precious.
6.Be Sweet with Your Words, But Firm in Your Heart
When speaking to your boyfriend, only say sweet things. Don't express tough or cool thoughts until you're ready to follow through. Always keep a sweet tone, don't admit to unpleasant matters, and use vulnerability or playful charm to resolve conflicts. Avoid saying anything too harsh.
7.Calmly Express Anger, Then Withdraw
When you're angry, calmly explain why, but don't make demands. Then, withdraw and focus on your own activities, giving him space. Wait until he shows genuine sincerity before sweetly accepting his efforts.
8.Instead of Searching for the Person You Love, Become the Person You Would Love
It’s better to become the kind of person you would love rather than looking for someone to love. Falling in love with yourself is the ultimate solution, and everything will follow a positive cycle from there.
9.There’s No Real Concept of Breaking Up Between Couples
In reality, there’s no need to think about breaking up. Just live well individually and maintain occasional contact. As long as you can enjoy spending time together, you are simply in a special kind of friendship that includes one-on-one loyalty. This relaxed mindset is the secret to maintaining a long-lasting intimate relationship.
10.Start a Conversation Once, But Don't Push If There's No Interest
Initiate a conversation once. If the other person responds well, continue; if they’re indifferent, let it go. Don’t keep trying to find topics to discuss. If there’s no interest in continuing the conversation, don’t push it. If there’s no response, there’s no need to ask again.
11.A Woman’s Physical Charm Lies in Her Eyes, Voice, and Poise
A woman's physical charm focuses on her eyes, the expressiveness of her voice, and her overall demeanor and posture. Use your eyes to flirt, understand the power of your voice—it doesn't have to be overly sweet, but should at least have a feminine touch. When possible, use playful charm instead of arguments. A neutral tone is best reserved for formal occasions. Maintain an elegant and graceful posture.
12.There’s a Skill to Making Requests: Prepare One Difficult and One Easy Request
When making requests, prepare two—one difficult and one easy. First, ask for the difficult one. If he doesn't agree, then propose the easier one as a compromise.
13.Don't Suppress All Your Needs; It's Okay to Ask for Small Things
It's important not to suppress all your needs—occasional small requests can add some excitement to the relationship. However, only ask for things that will genuinely improve your happiness or help you grow.
