𝑷𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝑪𝒍𝒖𝒃 𝑪𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒔𝒕 "𝑴𝒂𝒏𝒂𝒈𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝑷𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈"

La maternidad es un contexto importante que cambia nuestra forma de pensar y actuar, desde el momento que inicia el embarazo vamos transformando nuestra vida, esperar un nuevo se convierte en una cita a ciegas donde tienes la certeza que estrechas lazos de amor incondicional y para toda la vida con una persona que sin pensarlo será parte esencial de tu existencia.

Motherhood is an important context that changes our way of thinking and acting, from the moment pregnancy begins we are transforming our lives, waiting for a new baby becomes a blind date where you have the certainty that you strengthen bonds of unconditional love and for life with a person who without thinking about it will be an essential part of your existence.

𝙇𝙚𝙩'𝙨 𝙩𝙖𝙡𝙠 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙈𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙮 / 𝙃𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙨 𝙙𝙚 𝙈𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙙𝙖𝙙

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Talking about motherhood and parenting styles becomes a difficult topic to delve into, it is like going into the deep sea with no life jackets or land in sight, but it becomes the happiest blind experience you can imagine.

When motherhood knocks on your door with it comes a lot of situations that often will be difficult to handle, despite this you will always find people willing to help you in raising your children, now no one has ever said that being a parent was an easy action, so every parent gives their best to achieve the goal.

When you break into the world of parenting with him come a number of elements that you must learn to handle, such as: the constant advice of what to do and what not to do! How to act in various situations, learn to tolerate the comments of those who often do not make positive contributions, assume the criticism of those who pretend to teach you, understand that not always what is planned will be the final result when it comes to children, but despite all this, you will be building a great wall inside you to withstand every blow and enjoy the stay.

Being a mother of two has put me up against many situations that I have learned to handle, every mother has an experience to tell, which comes hand in hand with tears and laughter, mine has been very special as well as others and today I come to tell you about my experience and parenting and what methods have been most viable for me to encourage the integral development of my children.

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Cada día agradezco a dios por darme dos personitas que no solo se convirtieron en mis compañeros, también son mi razón para avanzar frente a las adversidades, son mi vitamina el sentido de mi vida y sobre todo la mejor opción para continuar aprendiendo a luchar con más fuerza por su bienestar.

Every day I thank God for giving me two little people who not only became my companions, they are also my reason to move forward in the face of adversity, they are my vitamin, the meaning of my life and above all the best option to continue learning to fight harder for their welfare.

_{Mi hija Sophie 😍}

Me convertí en madre a los 25 años de edad y aunque no tenía idea de lo que significaba para ese momento estaba convencida que la maternidad no sería nada fácil, pues se trataba de criar una persona que venía como una hoja en blanco y que yo sería la encargada de escribir sobre ella elementos claves para su desarrollo integral.

Durante 11 años he construido mi propia filosofía de crianza que se afianzó además con la experiencia de ser maestra de inicial, esto último me ayudó a entender cómo piensa un niño de acuerdo a su edad y cómo manejar cada una de sus etapas.

Dentro de la esta filosofía comparto el hecho que ningún padre puede cuestionarse por los errores que cometa, tampoco dejar que terceros influyan en tus modos de actuar y aunque falles de allí sacarás algo de provecho, esto lo digo porque muchas veces familiares, amigos y conocidos te brindan comentarios sobre que debes o no hacer e incluso te cuestionan por tu hacer, es por ello que no debemos dejar que esto desvíe nuestro horizonte, con el tiempo mantengo la postura que nadie como una madre para saber qué es bueno para sus hijos.

Otro punto prevaleciente de mi filosofía es no introducirnos en la columna vertebral de la sociedad, es decir, no todo debe ser en pro de los paradigmas sociales, que nos recuerdan el fracaso cuando no encajamos en esos, en ese sentido lo mejor es llevar a cabo ensayo y error, será la mejor manera de aprender a ser mamá y que no importe lo que te digan se trabaja en función del bienestar y lo que nuestros hijos necesiten sin importar como sea visto para el resto.

Respetar los tiempos, gracias a mis estudios en psicología infantil puedo aseverar que nunca debemos comprar a nuestros hijos con el resto de los niños, cada ser es sujeto de aprendizaje individual por lo que durante la crianza he aprendido a no forzar nada, que todo se desarrolle según la necesidad de mis hijos ya sea en lo académico, conductual o deportivo, esto me.ha resultado significativamente aunque he tenido tropiezos.

Jugar con los niños, confieso que esta actividad al principio me resultaba difícil, porque el trabajo y la rutina de la casa no me lo permitía, después de un tiempo me adapte a realizar actividades lúdicas con ellos por lo menos media hora al día y puedo decir que esto ha afianzado lazos de unión entre nosotros y además aprovecho esas actividades para desarrollar otras habilidades, divertirse debe ser parte de la crianza este momento se convierte en un tiempo de relajación para todos.

Otro aspecto que he adaptado a mi filosofía es la independencia y acá he tenido par de tropiezos pero no con los niños sino con terceros por el hecho de que desde pequeños (9 meses de vida) los niños han dormido solos esto siempre me lo criticaron pero hoy veo resultados muy buenos, a esto se le agrega dejar que se levantarán cuando se caían en el parque o al jugar mi palabra clave "si no hay sangre, te limpias el polvo y continuas porque no siempre estaré yo para levantarte" muchas veces me dijeron loca, indolente, mala madre, pero estas palabras de ayer hoy las mantengo y mis niños si se caen se levantan solos aunque mami esté al lado porque así es la vida.

No hay manual para la crianza pero estoy convencida que cada madre tiene una filosofía y cada una es válida pese a los errores.

I became a mother at the age of 25 and although I had no idea what it meant at that time, I was convinced that motherhood would not be easy, because it was about raising a person who came as a blank sheet of paper and that I would be in charge of writing on it key elements for its integral development.

During 11 years I have built my own parenting philosophy that was also strengthened by the experience of being a kindergarten teacher, which helped me to understand how a child thinks according to his age and how to manage each of his stages.

Within this philosophy I share the fact that no parent can question themselves for the mistakes they make, nor let third parties influence your ways of acting and even if you fail you will get something out of it, I say this because many times family, friends and acquaintances give you comments on what you should or should not do and even question you for your actions, that is why we should not let this divert our horizon, over time I maintain the position that no one like a mother to know what is good for their children.

Another prevailing point of my philosophy is not to introduce us into the backbone of society, that is, not everything should be in favor of social paradigms, which remind us of failure when we do not fit into those, in that sense it is best to carry out trial and error, it will be the best way to learn to be a mom and no matter what they tell you work in terms of welfare and what our children need no matter how it is seen for the rest.

Respect the times, thanks to my studies in child psychology I can assert that we should never buy our children with the rest of the children, each being is a subject of individual learning so during parenting I have learned not to force anything, that everything develops according to the needs of my children either in academics, behavioral or sports, this has resulted significantly although I have had stumbles.

Playing with the children, I confess that this activity was difficult for me at the beginning, because work and the routine of the house did not allow me to do it, after a while I adapted to do playful activities with them for at least half an hour a day and I can say that this has strengthened bonds between us and I also take advantage of these activities to develop other skills, having fun should be part of parenting this time becomes a time of relaxation for everyone.

Another aspect that I have adapted to my philosophy is independence and here I have had a couple of stumbles but not with the children but with third parties due to the fact that since they were 9 months old the children have slept alone, to this is added to let them get up when they fell in the park or when playing my key word "if there is no blood, you wipe the dust and continue because I will not always be there to pick you up" many times I was told crazy, indolent, bad mother, but these words of yesterday today I keep them and if my children fall they get up alone even if mommy is next to them because that's life.

There is no manual for parenting but I am convinced that every mother has a philosophy and each one is valid despite the mistakes.

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