To my mother-in-law with love

Hello, fellow Steemians! When I saw this contest, I thought I had to enter it because I much admire my mother-in-law. Most women regard their mother-in-law as a headache, but for me, it is much different. Read my piece to find out how I connect with my mother-in-law.

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How is your relationship with your mother-in-law?

My mother-in-law and I have a very special relationship, and I treat her with the highest respect. My parents and father-in-law have passed away, but she is still alive at the age of 92. Currently, she is the most respectable person in my life. Even at her age, she has an excellent memory.

After my marriage, I lived next door to her. She cared for my two children when I went to work, and she treated me as if I were her own daughter, which I repaid. When I got married, I knew little about cooking and housework. She guided me in many ways, while I was with them. She is like a second mother to me. Even today, she admires me, and I am grateful for all her guidance, assistance, and caring.

Did you live or would you live with your mother-in-law? How was the experience?

Yes, following my marriage, I lived in a separate house but closer to her home. So, it was a blessing to me. I didn't know much about cooking or housework because I come from a big family where my mother and elder siblings performed much of the employees. She taught me everything from cooking to managing a household appropriately with patience and support. Her support brought me peace of mind. Even though I'm no longer closer to her place, I still pay her a visit with her favorite food and spend quality time with her. I'm grateful to her for everything she's done for me and my family.

How did you make a good impression in front of your mother-in-law?

I believe I made a positive impression on my mother-in-law by demonstrating genuine respect, kindness, and eagerness to learn from her. I treated her with the same love and respect that I showed my own mother from the beginning of my marriage. I always greeted her pleasantly, listened to her advice, and sought her assistance when I was uncertain. I admire her values and experience since they enabled me to have a good marriage life. She recognized that I like to take her advice to grow into my role as a daughter-in-law, therefore she became my instructor during every difficult period.

I also make an effort to care for her by checking on her needs, providing her favorite food, and showing her how much I admire her. Even now, I intend to visit her and spend quality time with her, sharing our little memories. I feel I can strengthen our connection through my respect, kindness, and gratitude.

Why is it so difficult for some people to get along with their mother-in-law?

According to my knowledge, some people have difficulty getting along with their mother-in-law because they do not understand how to balance two families' traditions, values, and expectations. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law come from different family backgrounds; therefore, they may have unique ways of handling family life, raising children, and home responsibilities. These differences frequently lead to feelings of misunderstanding or judgment. This type of situation produces a stressful moment. So, living together may be challenging for them.

Another normal issue is thoughts about control. Mothers are more attached to their sons than daughters, thus it may be difficult for her to watch her son's love for another lady. Even if it is unintentional, this change may cause feelings of insecurity or jealousy. On the other hand, the daughter-in-law may feel that her mother-in-law is overly involved or negative. When they work under such a situation that type of dealing causes tension for both of them. However, if a mother-in-law regards her as her daughter and a daughter-in-law treat her as her own mother, and both respect each other, they can live without undue stress, difficulties, or worry, as I did with my mother-in-law.

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