Would you like to eat your fellow human's flesh inadvertently?

^{Last night i was having sahoor (food eaten before fast) with heavy heart. I had a very painful encounter with something inadvertently, which i wish didn't happen. Also the new keyword of the week was running in the back of my mind when i realised my last encounter perfectly fits in it. In that moment, i decided to write about it and let my heart's feeling flow out of it.}

Last night at 1am i was reading posts of all the people who have participated in this contest. Suddenly, my internet (WI-FI) started troubling, my room is away from the router. So i got up and went almost outside of my portion/house. I have houses of my uncles adjacent to mine, we have doors to easily go inside each other's house.

I opened door of my house and when i was about to go in open air(which leads to their courtyard), i heard a voice of my cousin with whom i was chatting and laughing about half hour ago.

They were saying something about my siblings. The tone of their voices made me shocked.

“Man is hidden under the fold of his tongue, not under his scarf.

My siblings had recently given them a favour and they were expecting more instead of appreciating the efforts.

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At that moment i realised you can't please anyone with your actions, no matter how much you do some people will not be content.

I heard it by accident, my heart felt heavy. It hurts when anyone talks ill about your siblings no matter how much you scold them everyday.

I came back in my room.

Actually, i knew about their nature of gossiping about others. But the thing is they were happily chatting with us a moment ago and now they were behaving ill (as they do about others infront of us).

I learnt that if anyone gossips about anyone infront of you, and you are just a passive gossipmonger, there is a fair chance that they will gossip about you too behind your back.

It has become their habit or it's their inferiority complex or hypocrisy, it is happening by accident for them aka inadvertently.

I'm not saying I am very pious or i never gossiped. But one thing i would say, i never talk pleasantly to that person on their face after gossiping on their back.

I never do it inadvertently. I don't have double standards.

And you know what? i am unable to speak to that person after a full day now. I don't feel like doing it, i can't fake it, i don't have that kind of energy.

However, i told my mother everything about last night, i intentionally didn't mention it to my siblings to protect them from this pain.

It was not any big malicious talk, it was just a tiny ill talk, and if you ask me I'll say little things hurt the most:)

I wish @wakeupkitty.pal share her wisdom to deal with such people and situations.

Because sometime we can't act blunt when elders are involved in gossiping. If you dare to point them, you will be labelled as nonsense, arrogant, and shameless person.

Normally we say it's the shaitan who is after every human being to make him commit major and minor sins. But you know what is the most interesting thing? Shatain/satan is locked up in Ramadan. So now all the sins we are doing is not because of him, it's our sin, it's inside us. And that's the most scary part.

In Arabic, there is a word Humazah that means gossipmonger: who gossip with their tongues, or any other gestures using eyes, hand movements, like winking or pointing towards others to defame them.

Another term is Lumazah which means to gossip with your tongue, behind anyone's back. It's like wispers or murmurs of shatain/devil which are also hidden in unseen.

We believe gossiping is like eating flesh of your dead brother. Will you eat it? Definitely no one will, then how come we gossip inadvertently about others.

It's a major sin that is not between you and God(you can ask for his forgiveness and he will forgive because he is the most merciful), but it's between you and the person who have gossiped about and then God.

You see it, you have to ask forgiveness from that person before asking it from God. And what will be the most shameful thing than that?

In a world full of Rachel Green who share other's information as public service,
be like a person you holds your back in your absence.

Moral of the story: Restrain your tongues advertently.

Dear @samina-meenu and @yaladeeds have you ever come across such kind of situation?