Steemit Engagement Challenge | S14W3 | Parent's Strict Behavior and Children's Mental Health

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I am glad to be able to comment on such a serious topic as a strict parent and, in fact, his behavior, which affects the mental health of the child.
I myself am a parent of three children and I will not whitewash myself here. I have made a lot of parenting mistakes in my life as a young parent, which have affected my children's mental health and mine as well. But from the beginning.
It is necessary to distinguish between harsh behavior of a parent and bad behavior, or even mental, emotional abuse of a child. If you are a young parent not everyone is mature to raise children. My huge mistake was spanking my son, who couldn't handle his emotions on his own and I felt helpless. I didn't know how to behave in certain situations to his yelling, screaming. Of course, I didn't devote enough time to him. Tears rush to my eyes when I have a weaker day and I am reminded of everything. The consequences of such immature behavior were later my marital breakup and my son was taken to a psychiatrist for observation. This was solely my and my ex-wife's fault, not the child's.

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I come from a "normal" family where my father used to drink alcohol and was nippy sometimes to me and my brother. More than once I got hit on the bottom with a belt from my dad. Those were different times and I never held a grudge. He didn't hurt much. My brother and I grew up to be good people. Looking at my children and how I would behave now in relation to such behavior of a strict parent, I would probably have a mental breakdown. Children are emotionally weaker than they used to be. They live a bit in a different world surrounded by too many electronics. I wouldn't currently want my father to say ugly words at me and beat me with a belt or for a spanking. I missed talking to my dad. He was never outspoken on serious topics. The situation is different with my now 16-year-old son, who talks to me about very serious topics like sex, drugs, personal hygiene, girls. He's affectionate when he sees me drinking beer. Our contact is like a parabola. It was good , bad, very bad. Currently he is a great friend to me. I love him!

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Emotional blackmail does not come from nowhere. All our lives our children have been watching us. If it's bad at home, the consequences are always negative for the children. Later on, our behavior is imitated by our children. The sad thing is that lately I've been hearing neighbors behind the wall loudly fighting and even suspecting psychological violence by the husband over his wife. There are two girls at home and I am facing a very serious conversation with the neighbors. I am afraid. I know I have to react. Suddenly I am reminded of the fights with my ex-wife and the consequences associated with them. It takes years to rebuild relationships and improve the mental state of children. And I know what I am saying.
It is possible to be a strict parent who has orderly rules at home that the children know about. A strict parent does not mean a bad parent. If you talk to your children a lot and devote a lot of time to them, I think there won't be major problems.
I realize that there are families in the world where children are almost tortured by their parents. This is unfortunate, so we must keep our eyes open even to our neighbors and react quickly. The consequences of child abuse are disastrous. It reflects on the child through every stage of his life. Without outside help they will not be able to cope.
Let's often tell them how much we love them, let them sometimes make "stupid" decisions to taste the flavor of defeat or victory. At 39, as a parent, I am still learning and trying not to make old mistakes. I want to be the best dad in the world.
Kids often tell me how young I look😀.
We talk to each other about our problems. We try to solve them together. We support each other. It's never too late to be a better person....

I invite @tocho2
@ngoenyi
@mesola

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