Steemit Engagement Challenge | S14W3 | Parent's Strict Behavior and Children's Mental Health

Good day creatively steemians, it has been quite an active day on this platform. Just the perfect time to talk about our parents once again but in a different light this time around.

Let's talk about strict behaviors of parents and how they affect the mental health of a child. Can it be tagged as positive or negative? Should it be encouraged in the society we live in today or not.

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On this piece we will delve into the world of a child with very strict parents, examine the conditions the child is made to live under, decipher the attitudes the child is bound to adopt under this circumstance and hence the advantages and disadvantages on the individual, family and society as a whole.

This is a very important topic of discussion and it is very thoughtful of the organisers and also Steem4Bloggers community bringing it up as a contest.

Firstly, let's understand what parents strict behaviour means. This attitude or behaviour is the tendency of parents demanding and setting rigorous rules, regulations and requirements of their children without available negotiable terms.

It is the placing of excess pressure on children by their parents to meet a particular expectation, follow a certain lifestyle, adhere to a dictated form of discipline or pursue a chosen goal or career.

Now on its advantages and disadvantages, I would say the disadvantages supersedes the advantages if there are any. So this is not a behavioural trait I will advise parents to adopt.

On the other hand the disadvantages are tremendous and particularly heartwrenching.

• Children under this kind of parents tend to possess the worst manners and moral standards outside their homes, when they are free from their parents strict rules.

• They mostly tend to be aggressive and rebellious towards set down rules and regulations of any institute of gathering.

• Owing to inability to discuss freely with their strict parents. They may share personal matters with friends and outsiders and the advice gotten from this form of counselling can not be trusted.

• The relationship they share with their parents is particularly unhealthy as they feel more comfortable outside than at home.

• They tend to get envious of others with friendly parents and despise they own parents for being rather strict and distant.

The list of disadvantages is probably unending. This shows that training children with only a strong hand may not necessarily be the best way of bringing them up.

Just like this common say; reprimand the child with the right hand but draw them back with the left. In this current century parents should definitely discipline their children but they should also ensure their form of discipline does not create emotional barriers between themselves and their kids.

Ones parents should be their source of strength, love and support not the persons you dread the most.

Placed in the shoes of this kids under extremely strict parents is an experience I dread. Considering my current parents are rather supportive and approachable. The change is not something I am sure I can deal with effectively.

Nevertheless, in such a situation, I will try to keep a clear head and remain calm. I will constantly remind myself that all true parents want what is best for their children and the only thing that may differ is their way of showing it.

I will also try to converse more with my parents in order to make them see things from my point of view besides the power of healthy conversation can never be exaggerated.

Hopefully, with constant conversation, they would eventually warm up. But strict parents or not, parents are God's greatest gift to any child. The sacrifices they make cannot be explained with just words that's why parental guilt will always exist. Most times they truly care, it's just their way of showing it that may suggest otherwise.

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As a child, I expect my parents to be warm and approachable. I want them to be the first person I think of during a trying time especially when I am in need of counselling and useful advise.

I want them to be people I look up to and aim at imitating their way of handling crisis, problems in relationships and in life generally.

I want their way of training and bringing me up to be something I would want to adopt and emulate when I have my own kids not something I would swear never to implement.

I want their support, encouragement, correction and discipline but above all I want the love and understanding they share in their relationship. One of the things I very much admire about my parents.

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Emotional blackmailing is the act of using an emotional connection you have with someone to compel them into going against their own wishes for your self interest.

This is a very unhealthy act and it causes horrific effects on victims. This can also be seen in the relationship of strict parents and their children.

• The first effect has been clearly stated above, compelling them to go against their wishes hence taking advantage of them.

• It is a form of abuse that leave it's victims scarred with guilt, fear and even depression.

• A victim of emotional blackmail may find it hard connecting with other people and hence unable to form strong healthy relationships.

• It is a dangerous and abusive act that can create citizens with low self-esteem and also abusive narcissist in the society.

In conclusion, being overly strict with kids does not guarantee them being disciplined rather it makes them become more distant.

Also, emotional blackmail is very unhealthy and should be advised against. Victims should seek proper counselling and blackmailers should be rightfully reprimanded.

This contest has been especially enriching and knowledgeable. It is with extreme delight I invite my friends;
@bossj23,
@usoro01,
@basil20 and
@zekanem, to partake in this contest.