Hot contest #07 | My Bestie

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Hello friends

Life is too busy not to have someone you share your space with

My name is Ruthjoe, I use to be a very lonely little girl without friends while growing up especially friends my age and my sex.

But who then is Best friend or a bestie When I already have family members?

A bestie is that one person in the world whom you are not afraid to share whatever with, be it your feelings, your thoughts, your failures and your mistakes. You are not even afraid of condemnation.

Non living things and my toys became my best friend at some point in my life. I was not afraid to talk to them, at home I remember several times I talked to the cushion in our living room and even used cane to flog it because I wanted to express how it felt.

But guess what? I was so happy when I finally made i first living friend who became my bestie at that moment in my life. Although we started off as enemies. Growing up I played with mostly guys because I loved the game of football. So I joined my female neighbors to go watch the game that evening when I met this pretty girl standing by waiting for her brother.

The moment she saw me she just got offended and started raining abusive words on me for no reason. I didn't react. The next day I saw her passing my house and I stopped her to beat her up. Well I did...long story short she became my friend. Her name is "uloma" . She was my bestie until I moved into the university.

The next best friend I had was when I gained admission into the university. Her name is "Grace". She was an instrument to my transformation. She taught me many things I didn't know. I mean good things. She taught me how to dress, walk and many more things. We even lived together and shared beautiful moments together.

my lovely friendher name is Grace

Grace and I lived together in the same city until she got married and moved with her husband. I have known her for 14years now and it's cool having her by my side.

After Grace got married I made another bestie. Her name is Odigonma. She is an amazing lady. I remember traveling to go visit her several times in the city where she lives. My friendship with her has opened my eyes to life possibilities. Oh I love her.

my third bestie

The Major things I look out in person that I want to be my bestie is trust, patience, love, selflessness, thoughtfulness and kindness. When these qualities are intact then I can consider you as my friend

I always tell people that we are all work in progress, no one is perfect. My friends are beautiful yet we still have our low moments , I mean fights and misunderstandings. Oh Grace was a headache when we initially became friends. She came from a part of Nigeria where abusive words were normal and I came from the part where it wasn't. Our upbringing and background was always causing problems between us because she would insult me as a joke but I would take it seriously.

At a point I had to start trying to adapt to her jokes, but I kept talking to her about it. It took about two years for her to stop that habit. I did not have much issues with uloma . For Odigonma, hmm she is still a work in progress, she gets angry almost all the time, and it pisses me off. She seems stubborn too . So it's normal to have issues in a relationship with friends.

I love all my friends and guess what? Am still in touch with all of them. Two of my besties are married, just one is single. They all played a major role in my life and they are still playing the roles. We can talk about anything and many things. We keep ourselves company, encourage one another to move on when down and become successful. What more can I ask for?

Let me invite my friends to join this contest @lhorgic @sahmie