In the context of the sexual market, evolution has designed that while the woman is attracted to quality men, the man is more interested in quantity. Consequently, the woman only lets herself get involved with the best men in the context of her environment. To make this concept more picturesque, the average woman would rather go out with an older, handsome, fit, successful male who belongs to a high social class. This is the best male in almost every culture. Hence, to be considered as dating material by the woman, all men thrive to be this kind of man.
Here is the problem. No man is the ‘best’ male for ever. And so women mostly find themselves shifting from best man to best man in respect to time. An example is the woman who dates a man who pays her school fees and then finds out that she is in love with someone else in the school. The man who pays her fees was the best man when she wasn’t in school. Realize that a school is a social environment and when the woman enters a new social environment, the definition of the best man changes. Hence she meets ‘a new best man’ who is capable of doing better than her old best man.
So in three years, a woman can date different men at different times based on the social definition of who the best man is different social environment and different time. The biological/evolutionary reason for this is that the woman has a womb and is able to get pregnant by only one man. She does not need more than one man at a time, yet, for the sake of her offspring, she needs a high quality man who not only can provide her with good genes but who also has the resources and experiences to take care of the offspring (since she will be pregnant and unable to work).
This is not the same for the man. In early history, infant death rate was high and so for a man to have successful offsprings, he needs to pregnant as many women as possible. The man’s strategy is not for quality like the woman. The woman is attracted to quality because only a quality man can produce quality sperms. The average man, on the other hand, is designed to go for quantity. That is, have sex with as many women as possible.
The implication of this sexual pattern is obvious. Women are hypergamous and would leave a man once he stops performing in high quality. That’s when she says “I don’t love him anymore.” A woman’s love is conditional, and it is based on what a man can provide, either materially or emotionally. This is what makes the man the best man (for her). Once this performance stops, she leaves. Yet all women want the same thing - a high quality man, and if the women belong to the same culture, their desires in a man would be more collective.
However how many men are high quality? We would agree that by women’s standards, only a few men. At best, 10% of the masculine situation. Hence 100% of women desire 10% of men. This is why majority of women get their heart broken. The 10% of men they want have access to more women than they need. Why won’t these 10% cheat? So women are always blabbing “all men cheat!” Fam not all men cheat, you just want the men that other women want. To make matters worse for the woman, she desires a man that other women want. Experts have called this sexual economy. I am expert. Expert is me. To save her time and resources, the woman relies on other women’s testimony about a man. If you, a man, wants to get chicks groveling at your feet, pay two girls to write and talk about how amazing you are all the time. It is like advertisement🤓. That's why commercial adverts are always directed to women. It always works. See how women are always buying.
90% of men are not wanted by women because somehow, they fall below women’s standards. These are the men that try too hard to please women hoping that they would
Make them stay. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. But these are majority of the good guys women ignore and go meet the 10% who always have women in their DMs.
Here is kind of hope for men. Women’s sexual market value is based on their physical appearance. So sad! The younger a woman is, the more ‘hot’ she is and the more she has options. At 18 to 26, a woman is in her sexual prime. This is when all the men that as much as looks at her is spell bound. This is the stage she has sexual power, and she makes her choices. Most women ALWAYS make the most stupid choices in this stage. Well power intoxicates. This is when she chooses from the 10% of men that all the girls wants. And it is in this stage she gets the most heart breaks that ruins her when she is in her 30s.
She makes so much stupid decisions that when she is 28, she is telling herself stupid shit like “Face your career, your career won’t break your heart.” When she is 32, she is just another Toke Makinwa who blames men for all her stupid shit.
For men, it is the entire opposite. Men are in their sexual prime from 32 upward. This is the time a man starts making money and is in the right position to know what kind of clothes fit him and can make out time to work out and be healthy. This is the age range of the 10% of men women desire.
So when a man is from 32, he dates the 18-26 chicks. The mistake he makes is that, he finds it difficult to find a stable woman because all the girls wants him. He is too distracted to think. And so wakes up one day, and he is 50, with 17 kids from 10 different baby mamas, and these are the lucky ones.
The unlucky ones just let themselves fall into the manipulative trap of a 26-30 year old woman who just ‘needs’ a husband. This trap is so amusing and it happens all the time. The girl shows the man so much care and the man thinks “this woman really loves me.” He has no idea that the girl’s family have been disturbing her for a husband and she just needs an ‘eligible bachelor’ to show them. Girl and boy get married, and since that’s all she wanted in the beginning, the man starts to feel alone in his marriage. This situation is too common, if only married men opened their mouths more.
Fam, if you are young. Avoid this system at all cost. It would disturb your entire life. Find a woman/man that is good for you and grow together. Don’t subscribe to this animalistic BS that society sets us up for. Thanks, love y'all 🥰❤️❤️
I remain @obrisgold1