Parental alienation syndrome

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When a child rejects one of his parents without having some kind of justification, we can say that we are facing the Parental Alienation Syndrome (SAP). Now, it is essential to note that this rejection is not originated spontaneously or naturally since, its cause is due to a psychological and emotional programming promoted by the parent who lives with the child.

Among the various characteristics that this syndrome has, the main one that is detected is that the parent uses his children without having any kind of consideration with them, thus obviating the psychological damage that will be caused by alienating the feelings of the child. Specialists in the area of mental health say that this situation is carried out when the parent who lives with the child, wants to harm or failing that, take revenge on the other parent and to achieve this, they use the child.

It should be noted that, the development of this disorder is generated after a separation or divorce and in view of the fact that the custody of the minors is in the middle of this situation, if the rupture was in bad terms they take advantage of that moment to start the process of revenge and to execute it, the alienating parent promotes in their children the feeling of rejection, hatred and at the same time, denigration towards his other parent.

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Keep in mind that, the alienating person assumes the role of victim in front of his children for this reason, he decides to credit all the guilt of the separation to his other parent and they deposit the idea of traitor if they decide to have some kind of relationship with the mother or father that they are supposed to reject.

As we can understand, in this syndrome the alienator totally modifies the emotions and thoughts of his child reaching the point of lying in the things he is affirming and they do it with the intention of maintaining control over his little one thus preventing him from having a good relationship with his other parent and at the same time, their emotional stability is healthy.

When this disorder is taking place, the alienator is fully aware of the situation but above all, of the actions they are executing towards their ex-partner. However, he decides to completely ignore the feelings and psychological well-being of his son for it, he uses it without measuring the consequences for that reason, the scenario that opens up in this situation is that, the child ends up having scars on his heart.

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Due to the situation promoted by the SAP, a child has serious alterations and even behavioral disturbances since, the parent who was responsible for alienating him, blocked his ability to reason by his own analogy and because of this, children who are being manipulated with this disorder suffer from anxiety, depression, eating or sleep disorder, they do not know how to face a conflict situation, they are always confused, they do not know how to express their feelings and they are constantly aggressive.

In another order it is necessary to mention that, in order to reduce or failing that, avoid the development of SAP, specialists in the area of mental health recommend that children continue to relate to both parents equally since, this would allow the relationship between them to never be extinct and at the same time, it is vital to explain that the sentimental relationship culminated between the parents and not with the children because to them, they will always love them.

Similarly, another recommendation that can be applied to avoid SAP is, parents can not criticize or reproach the actions that children have with one of their parents because, if this is done they will not feel that they have freedom to act or failing that, express their feelings because they automatically believe that their actions are not appropriate.

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Now, to reach a complete solution of the Parental Alienation Syndrome, it is essential that the alienating parent changes his way of thinking because, this would allow the child and his alienated parent to re-establish the relationship that was previously denied and defamed. To achieve this stability, everyone involved must go to a specialist in the area of psychology and, through therapies, they can overcome this situation.

at no time as under any element or concept, parents can manipulate their children. In the same way, it is unacceptable to damage the image that a child can have for one of his parents because, these actions the only thing that generates is the emotional and psychological instability of the child, a particularity that good parents must always watch and take care of so that they remain in well-being because, in reality, an end will never justify the means.

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