The fulfillment is a time to stop comparing. Comparing families, comparing our conditions with other partners, and last but not least; comparing our partners to our own standards. No, that doesn't mean you have to lower your standards. It's just that, fulfilling means expanding our space for acceptance.
Let what is not according to the standard occupy the reception room, then slowly by slowly, the reception room will condition him to continue to improve himself voluntarily. Not with compulsion that creates pressure. Even if in the end he can't change, still below the standard we expect, at least the reception room always offers its own happiness. Happiness hidden in two words; as it is.