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There are many reasons for an adult to be stupid. This article will focus on a particular type of person who is deemed stupid because of their irresponsibility, oblivion, incompetence, and anything else that you might recognize as behaving like a five-year-old child.
The question I am considering is that a reasonably intelligent adult, which means that someone who is able to support themselves and live independently, does not trust them to do the simplest thing. Can be done and forgets little instructions or descriptions, or is constantly clumsy.
How can one work on a computer, perform technical tasks, have a reasonably intelligent conversation, yet repeatedly forget details in simple tasks or instructions?
This is certainly not a universal explanation that covers all such humans, but I think it covers many people. Only you can determine whether you, or an acquaintance of yours, will fit this classification and then what we will say here can help improve their apparent intelligence.
Yes, I am harsh and blunt in the use of the word 'stupid', but I am speaking only what everyone else is thinking.
If you have ever owned or managed a retail store, or been a customer, you know what I am talking about when you have the hopeless fate of dealing with someone who is so stupid that your mouth is Open in disbelief.
And now that we've established the type of person we're discussing, let's move on to an explanation of why they can be so silly sometimes. Please use this information as a guide so that you can test my theory with each of these people, or in reviewing your own actions if you accept that you are or are seen to be a foolish person.
When this person is asked to do the simplest task, for example, to tie their shovels, they get upset. He is insulted that as an adult, he is being told the simplest things he should be able to do on his own. You might ask the person to do a simple thing for you, and after telling them three times, you also write instructions to ask the laundromat to use a perfume-free soap instead of the standard strong perfume.
They get upset and feel humiliated, undervalued, and basically fight back saying that they are not children and can remember without the need of a note.
The end result, as experienced by many of you, is to get very fragrant clothes. "I told you three times, I wrote it on paper with a cloth, how can you do such a simple thing wrong!"
My quest is; Because they are so humiliated and feel that you are treating them like a fool of five years, that their mind shuts down and does not listen to instructions or forget in rebellion. This is how they enforce your opinion about their stupidity.
When you ask a five-year-old child to take something and they refuse, you say; "I will not let you have it." And yes, the child demands to take it immediately.
When you ask one of these 'adults' to do something that they take as a derogatory instruction, which means that they are foolish, their mind rebels and says; "I do not want to be." Citing instructions. And since they dismiss it like a child, it never reaches their minds, and you know the result.
They screw up, they look and are effectively stupid, and you both know it. Their self-esteem still falls to a lower level, and they maintain their reputation of being foolish and irresponsible.
Now let's work towards a solution.
No one else can do anything other than the person with the problem. The first step for a fool is to accept that they are effectively as silly and childish as a five-year-old child. They can never change by refusing to accept that this is their true level of maturity with their rebellious nature. It is a rejection of reality in place of living in a self-lie that always makes things worse.
After this first step, the typical human reaction is that they will reject this obvious truth by listing everything they can do well, thus trying to prove that they are not stupid .
A good deed does not end a bad one. Do not do this. Accept the bad act without focusing your attention on the good so that you can ignore the bad.
We return to the first stage of complete acceptance of immaturity and childish nature, regardless of physical age.
The proof of this is that you have a reputation because of your consistent actions. Thus just accept it, you are a fool.
Next, you must stop yourself from reacting mentally, either verbally or internally, and when you feel insulted, to remind yourself that you are smart, regardless of your desire or opinion of people. The evidence of opinion is more valid. If ten people think you are irresponsible, and you or maybe 2 people think you are great, then the majority vote is likely to be correct.
Remind yourself every time you feel that you are being insulted or treated like an immature child or you are being underestimated or ridiculed.
This will naturally make you feel depressed, inferior and will destroy any thread of self-esteem that you have, and will trigger an infinite flow of self-depreciation. Combat this with hope and happiness, knowing that if you eventually accept the problem as it is, there is a clear and simple way to overcome this problem and turn your mind into a wise and responsible person.
And that's really it. Acceptance of the problem, acceptance of the cause of the problem, and a desire to stop acting like a child and refuse to believe that you are simply stupid. There is nothing wrong with this because the reason for your stupidity is to reject your behavior at the level at which you behave.
This will open your mind to accept every simple instruction as given because you will accept that you deserve to behave that way because you forget the simplest things, and then you probably fix things. Will do it because you will be open-minded and pay more attention. Eventually, your reputation will change as a person who does what they are called flawlessly, and you can eventually grow up.
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