Language is a learning and an art. Being able to speak is a kind of ability, but it is more important than having this kind of ability to be able to speak well and to speak well. As the saying goes, saying two things in one sentence, correct and clear expression is important.

In addition, we all have to be aware of it.

In this world, there are no two leaves that are exactly the same, so there are no two people who are absolutely suitable and perfectly fit.

If you do meet such a person, then you should not be lucky, but be careful.

You feel that two people can definitely get along, play, get along, and talk. In many cases, it's not because two people are right, but because the other person is smarter than you.

So how can it be done? The process of talking with people is more enjoyable and easier.

No matter who you are with, if you want to talk more pleasantly, you must know three things!

1. Welcome and encourage others to say more.

In fact, we all make a mistake, that is, in the process of talking with people, we always ignore the other person’s wishes, interests, and ideas, and talk non-stop, regardless of whether the other person loves to listen or not, and does not give the other person a chance to speak. .

You have to know that the conversation is two-way, like playing a baton game, you can only continue if there is a pass or a return.

So don't commit this big taboo, try to get the other person to say more, even if there are disagreements, you have to patiently listen to the other person to finish, instead of rushing to interrupt.

If the other party is in a bad mood, then find you to talk to you, pay attention, at this time, what he needs is not comfort at all, nor your suggestions and countermeasures. Even if it is needed, it has to wait until the bitterness or grievance is exhausted. .

Let the other person talk more and share his knowledge, experience and emotions so that you can better understand him through communication.

Thinking from another perspective, just like when you talk to someone, the other person doesn't give you a chance to speak at all, and doesn't listen to you to finish your sentence. How distressed and irritable you should be.

Even if the other party finally heard you finished speaking, and then wanted to express your own opinions, but you have finished venting and are not interested in continuing the conversation, it is even more compelling.

In this world, most people hate people who only speak their own words.

2. Be able to keep a good secret for the other party.

This is the basis for a person to trust you, and only because of trusting you will he tell you more of his secrets. If you reveal his secrets, there will be no secrets to tell you next.

This should be the tacit understanding between adults, and the same is true between husbands and wives.

Some things, if known by a third person, are actually the same as 10,000 people know. You have revealed his secrets. You can imagine how embarrassed he is.

Take a little thing in life as an example.

The other party told you about an ugly thing that happened to you, and the three of you were eating together. You told the third person what happened, so when he wants to take the initiative to speak out, expecting a certain expression from the third person. So how embarrassing the atmosphere should be.

3.Don't solve problems by arguing.

You can't change anyone. You can only change yourself. If you rely on argument to solve the problem, you can only hurt your harmony and make the other party more insistent on your own ideas and ideas.

You need to know, what is the ultimate purpose of the conversation? Not to change the other party.

If you disagree with the other party, or don’t agree with the other party’s point of view, you don’t have to argue about anything. Everyone has everyone’s ideas. You just have to say your own point of view, justified and well-founded.

And everyone has everyone's life, without the same experience, it is impossible to have real empathy.

So from a certain point of view, your rebuttal actually ended up standing on your own stand to rebut, instead of putting yourself in the position and thinking about it in another way.

Arguing will only destroy the atmosphere of conversation. Over time, everyone will deliberately stay away from each other.

Thinking is deeply ingrained, as mentioned in the opening article, respecting the differences between two people and accepting the differences between two people, you need to support each other instead of always thinking about controlling or changing each other.