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Do you have a dream?
I believe everyone has a dream and while some people, are on the right path to achieving thier dreams others have completely deviated from that path. I fall in the second group of people.

How my dreams were destroyed.

Kids often have many different dreams, but as they get older, thier dreams begin to change as they get more and more expose to the world and as they develope passion for certain things.
As a kid growing up in Africa, we never had much but dreams.

At the age of seven, i wanted to be a pilot (had never seen a plane up close though.) I was drawn to the sound of the aeroplane and the very concept of flying high up in the sky amazed me.

At age nine, being exposed to the possibility of life on different planets, I wanted to become an astronaut. Yeah that right any newly learned idea can trigger a dream.

At age eleven, i had developed a great passion for literature.Yes finally I knew what I wanted. I wanted to be a writer i loved reading novels, i would choose a novel over a movie anytime. Before I was fourteen, I had already written about six unpublished novels and about a hundred poems.

_{Below is a poem that i wrote about my school crush in secondary School.}

My family is predominantly made up of traders, but i dared to dream different. And for this i got no encouragement or support i became the black sheep of the family.This left me completely broken and i could feel the pain of my dreams tumbling down hill.
Now i spend my days, resenting my job and wishing i had been courageous enough to pursue my dreams.

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How parents destroy the dreams of their kids.

By not paying attention.

Most parents especially African parents, don't pay much attention to what a child does and what he is passionate about. They go to work and come back late and will hardly spend time with thier kids.

Protecting the child from failure and disappointment.

Some parents will reject and destroy a child's dream, because they are afraid that the child might fail and it might all be a waist of time. Children need to learn how to deal with failure but most importantly, they need to know how to bounce back.

Wanting to achieve thier own dreams, through thier kids.

Some parents kill thier children dream, by imposing thier unachieved dreams on thier children. In Africa, It is common to see parents trying to sway thier kids to be lawyers or doctors.These are thier dreams and not that of their kids.

Religion

If a child's dream is against their religious beliefs, the child parents might refuse to support the child Since the believe religion sets the altimate standard for any Godly dream.

Don't get me wrong though, I know dreams are boundless, sweet, and acceptable to all while realities have limits, tough, and difficult to handle at times so parents need to guild their children and present them with good information to be able to make a good choice and not to impose on them.

Thanks for reading.