I want to share what principles I use in my life to be happy. I am convinced that working in this direction will lead everyone to a good life and quality relationships. So:

Success depends entirely on your point of view. Consider yourself successful, period. Destroy all the arguments that you “don't succeed, don't add up, don't stick”. Imagine them, visualize, and then mentally take a large, sturdy stone and break them. Projecting failure leads to constant challenges. Your low self-esteem is the result of an opinion imposed on you, in which you sacredly believe.

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Understand for yourself once and for all - you are always successful. Accept yourself. Respect yourself. Work on it.

Sympathize with other people. Look around - there are a lot of people and they are all different. Don't be afraid to meet new people. Difficulty is normal. Any skill or ability does not appear out of nowhere. Diligent training will yield results. You need to work hard through "not comfort" and you will surprise yourself with the best side. Notice the good and the bright in people. Cut off negative evaluations.

Be able to see the perspective and be grateful to your family and friends, friends and colleagues at work. Grateful for the experience and situations that happened. Keep a gratitude journal, real or virtual. Once a week, use a journal to thank people for experiences, circumstances for opportunities, and so on. The diary will add ritual and consistency. There is always something to be grateful for. The main thing is to look at the right angle.

Be timely and reliable in every way. Being timely is when you do everything on time, when asked to do so, and not when the stars are in the right sequence or the weather has improved. Reliability is when you are sure that under any conditions they will hear you and help you. These concepts are closely related to each other, and they must be applied initially in relation to oneself.

Be attentive to yourself, to your actions and attentive to others. Start with yourself. Do not demand from others what you do not have. Pay attention to your surroundings. Any relationship is based on the exchange of energies and must be nourished. Do not be stingy, and you will be answered with the same coin.

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Be truthful to yourself and to others. Truthfulness is when our actions, words and inner message are in harmony. The belief that you can convince someone of the sincerity of your feelings without their presence is utopia.

Watch what you listen to. The entry point is the exit point. If your environment complains about their husbands, children, mothers, fathers, mothers-in-law, health, or other circumstances, monitor it and direct the conversation in a different direction. Tell yourself and others, "I'm on a diet of good news." Don't be afraid to judge your words. Better to suggest another topic for conversation. Learn to get happiness from simple things, from your observation, open the flap of your magical chest of fantasies and colors. After all, what you think or say about others, ultimately, should and will apply to you.

Be patient and persistent. Words, thoughts and attitude are good. But without difficulty, as they say ... Consider all of the above as daily work on yourself. A systematic, regular approach is the path to personal success. And do not doubt for a moment in yourself, in your own strengths and capabilities. Do not doubt that people will appreciate you. Do you know why? They simply won't have other options.

And do you know what else is important? Consistency is important. Lack of regularity and the inability to keep the rhythm of positive change can lead you to think that it is not working out for you or is not working. But remember the behavior of infants, babies up to a year - with what persistence they train their walking skills. Fell down - got up - walked on. And with what passion! Contaminate yourself with your own tenacity, desire, and faith. Your failures are the path to your success. Regularity and the ability to keep pace will take you into a completely different orbit.

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If you don't focus on yourself and your goals on an ongoing basis, you will return to the starting position. Anyone who has set himself up for a long and patient siege will soon find that he has risen much faster than he imagined. Anyone who is content with quick changes will receive them, but not for long. Set yourself up initially to that you are not building a one-room apartment, but a comfortable house of your dreams. Don't wait for a specific occasion. Your case will come when you decide. Stick to your decisions. Follow the solutions to the end.

And finally. Keep it easy, and take yourself and others less seriously. Laugh a lot. Learn by doing, but not losing sight of the end result. Discipline your thoughts, words, and actions to be true to your decision. Do everything with love.

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