Stories, learnings and reflection #02/(Lessons from Experience)

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Hello friends! Welcome to my blog.
As humans, we must admit that we have passed through some difficulties with lessons learned that could form pages while writing, or we learned from other people's mistakes or stories. The saying "it is wise to learn from other people's mistakes rather than being the victim" has always been the best option for me.

My story would have to be about my work life, kind of with a little background introduction to give it the required understanding needed. In my current city of residence, I started a new career path in the telecommunication sector, and as a casual worker who would be under probation for about two (2) years, I worked very hard to get my permanent shirt.

Just about when we should have been expecting this conversion to permanent stay as a full staff, the company recruited some direct staff who didn't have to pass through our route of the causal path. This raised so much anxiety among all who were in this startup stage. However, these new staffers were all skewed towards a particular retail sales unit, not un our acquisition unit. This was the hopeful path and indicator that suggested we shouldn't be discouraged.

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Just when it was about two years, most of us in the state made this permanent shirt of being retained. We all got happier with this fit and as well as had to mix up freely with everyone. We all know the dichotomy observed in different levels of engagement.

The truth is that, as humans, we will be worried, anxious, bothered, and discouraged, but things do not have to follow our thinking ways. The company did their recruitment partly and based on the needs of different sales units at that time. All we needed to do was stick to the guidelines of the contract entered and deliver just as expected as we continue to anticipate.

This is just the basis for the second stage of my storyline. Just like I said, I would give a background for easy assimilation. I was already over a year old before the coming of these other recruits. It happened that I introduced him to my self-apartment owners and he was able to rent an apartment in the same facility though a different wing from mine. Still bear in mind that we are colleagues at the same level, which made it easy to mix and catch along.

He knew all of my friends just as well as I do, too, given the fact we are mostly in contact both at work and off-work activities. But it was unfortunate that he began to make passes at me, given the fact he knew reasonable things about me. My friends keep telling me how he lures them to his room and tries to talk them into a disadvantageous position. My worry is when not openly let me know your interest in these people other than going through this back route.

I was not really disappointed as these friends didn't have to compromise themselves and were not closely engaged with me, which warranted a premium safeguarding. However, I told them to always reach me through mobile before visiting as he has always told them either in his own apartment or unavailable at that moment.

Your colleague is not entirely your friend. Your workplace should solely be reserved for the purpose that it represents. Friendship should be clearly defined and void of characters capable of undermining your privacy. I did not approach all these passes he made but had to readjust myself to avoid possible reoccurrence.

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Lastly, I decided to a bigger apartment since it was time to make a family. Since my present apartment was just a room in a suit, there was a need to have something more accommodating. Unknowingly, I never knew I was in a competition as this colleague who learned of my quest also restarted his immediately. As soon as I got a place,.and I told him, he also requested and got an apartment in the same building. Troubles brewing without my knowledge...

We both got settled in our different apartments as well as with our spouses and kids. But it would interest you that my friend's spouse would want us to always relate to them our problems, and since we are private people, we didn't bulge to this. However, we entered into a cold war where we barely communicated, but all pretended all was well then.

It will interest you that we started hearing some assumptive stories of my family from some colleagues in the office. Despite being starved of information, they still had what to talk about through all lies. This is the reason we decided to keep to ourselves because of family privacy and not allowing third parties, especially those. Who are loose in the mouth.

Like I said, your colleague isn't your friend. One thing one must do is to avoid staying with colleagues in the apartment. We find unnecessary competition and envy and as well reduce over-familiarity. Many can not handle these listed factors and hence the abuse we observe from their actions.

My warm appreciation to the organizer of this contest. I wish to invite @ngoenyi, @chilaw, and @eveetim.