Steemit Engagement Challenge Week # 3 || Defend The Statements || by @wase1234

Hello steemians, steem greetings to you all. I am very grateful for this contest theme for this week's engagement challenge. This idea of defending certain statements will really go a long way to dig into our minds, having us to think critically.

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Amongst the four optional topics, I chose

• Money is more important than love.

• You will stay happier if you are unmarried.

Plus the additional compulsory topic Votes Are Not Guaranteed makes it three topics I will be defending.

From my own personal understanding, when the term defend is used, it means you should support something. So in my defense for those three phrases, I will be giving points that agree with them.

Money is more important than love.

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Starting with the counter, most people will first of all say money is not everything. There are things money can't buy. True love is unconditional, money is not needed.

I support this statement because the the second most common reasons for divorce these days is finance problems. Couples who have once been madly in love before actually can't stand each other because of financial rifts. Either the man isn't making enough money, or the woman doesn't work, or one of both of them has bad spending habits.

In a relationship love is not everything. There is tolerance, comfort, respect, faithfulness and financial stability. I think most couples ignore the aspect of money thinking that they will figure things out along the way. But having a good discussion about your finances and finance management is very vital to every relationship.

Money is important because first it brings comfort, stability and a sence of security in a relationship. You will notice that some petty arguments you guys used to have before the finances get better, those arguments are no longer existent. When there is money you feel secure. Because you know that the you can afford what you want for yourself and relationship. You can be more romantic because you can afford buying gifts for each other.

Imagine kids (love child) comes into the picture. There's child support, school fees medical bills and all. What do you pay those things with? Money of course.
Money also allows you to move forward in life. Some people refrain from getting married to the people they love because they are not financially stable enough. It's an I can't take care of two people completely now situation. This can cause cheating in some cases or even one partner under looking the other.

It is true that love forms a strong bond and two hardworking people can rise through it all. But the hardworking people are working for money right? To make life better. In the world today we buy everything and almost everything. Love is good. But you can't eat the person you love. And also when it comes to love many other things contribute to make love, money inclusive.

You will stay happier if you are unmarried

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This is a tricky subject. According to how human nature works, it seems that we always need someone. Someone to call our own person, like best friends and partners. The sence of ownership is a very sharp human feeling. Being married makes on feel like this is my person. You are mind and I am yours.

But...

People will wish they stayed unmarried in situations like;

Marrying and abuser and an unfaithful person. This at times hurts most when you never expected it. Like this person was all good and nice and then after marriage they changed. It makes you feel like you were just being played all this while. Especially if you were so madly inlove with them. The hurt of being treated badly by someone you cherish so much can make you wish you never married them in the first place. You would probably be happy and not crying right now.

The trauma of these events makes some people swear to never marry again.

In cases of arranged marriage or forceful marriage where the person you are married to isn't the person you want to be with. Like if you were given a choice you'd rather be single. In these cases some people try to accept the situation and actually fall inlove. While in other unfortunate cases, some others fall into a rather mixed up situation and they stay unhappy with this person forever.

Bringing in the aspect of priests. As per religion priests are not allowed to get married. Can't really explain why. But personally I have never heard a priest lamenting over not having a partner. Yes some quit and go marry. But twice the number remain priests forever and they are happy.

Being married adds some titles and responsibilities to every relationship. You can't see it but it's there. For those who live together and have different styles, finding a balance can be challenging. Like when I lived by myself this is how I did things. Now you are forced to do things a certain way since it concerns two people.

For thia particular topic I can't really find my stand as I am only human. I don't know if I'm defending or rejecting the statements. It's a hard topic to talk about.

Votes are not Guaranteed - Sc01

I think this is the most popularly used statement on the Steemit platform. We are being told not to mention the steemcurator01 account in our everyday posts. I think it is used because when most people come into steemit and see others recieving the steemcurator01 vote, they think that that's how it's going to be. Money overflowing. Well it is for some people whole for others it's not.

Steemcurator01 has made it clear that it votes original content with purpose and audience. Good writers can be creative enough to always vote content with purpose and audience but does that guarantee a curator 1 vote. No it doesn't.
I got my first steemcurator01 vote after being on steemit for like 3 months. During those months, I posted an average of 10 posts per week and I engaged in a lot of contests. Though I never got a vote I kept pushing. Then suddenly I got a curator 01 vote.

Then it occurred to me that maybe steemcurator01 account votes consistency and longevity. But does consistency, longevity, audience, originality and purpose guarantee a curator 01 vote? I still don't think so. Having all these things combined, you still need a club status.

The Steemit Team brought the idea of club statuses, that is the club5050 club75 and club 100 as a way of encouraging steemians to power up more. This means they will hold steem as Steem power which intern helps the steem token, the Steemit platform and the steemian himself. So everyone who gets a curator vote belongs to a club even though it's not a guarantee.

Nevertheless steemcurator01 votes are not guaranteed even if you do all these things. We have other general curators that vote quality and original posts that suit a particular topic. In my own personal perspective, the curator01 vote is like a good job vote from the boss. To say if you keep you maybe you will get more.

To conclude, just adhere to the Steemit guidelines, do your best to be creative band and consistent, be part of a club status and maybe, just maybe that vote will come in. (Though there is no guarantee)

CONCLUSION

I have tried to defend (agree) to the phrases I chose. I hope it makes sense. I am open for questions and constructive disagreements. Join this contest and let me also know what you think.

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