For An Assured Future, Your Past Should Be Your Past

If you are a series movie fan, there are a lot you can learn from the just concluded "Arrow", which we saw ended at the 8th Season. However, there is one big lesson derived from this movie. And it simply is, DO NOT GET TRAPPED IN THE PAST.

Time is a beautiful thing. However, it will be wise to play safe while dealing with it. The memories that you have are very ready to come back to either grace you or hunt you down. Bad things happens. Such is life. And there is nothing you or anybody can do about it. So, why feel trapped in them. Why do you feel the need to always go back to mourn or go back to feel like things could have been different if you had known what you had known now. Most times, because we are being fixed to the things that happened in the past (especially regrets), we are not able to see what is right in front of us in the future, even though it is calling to us. Believe it or not, the past is a dangerous timeline you don't want to mess with in your head. So also is the future. This takes us to back to the reference of the series. Pls, permit me to drop this picture here.

There is no doubt we saw Oliver Queen change dramatically from who he used to be in the past to who he was in the future. However, before then, he had lost so many in his life mainly because he was still living in his past, which continues to come back to torment him in all ways possible. He was unable to see the beautiful people and values that surrounds him. And before he could realize it, it was maybe too late (if I can say) even though he later became a great hero of heroes. What exactly is my point?

What is gone is gone. Sometimes, they could surface before your very eyes and that is fine and normal. We can call that experience. Nevertheless, do not be fixed on the horrible situations that happened in the past. Do not be fixed on always blaming yourself or anyone for what is already long gone and vanished in the air. It is okay to be hurt. It is okay to be very sad. Sometimes, it is okay to have such horrible circumstances leave a scar with you. In the case of death, it is okay to mourn. But even the dead wants you to mend your broken heart and see the realities in front of you now in the present. Failure to do this will really turn your present to hunt you phycologically when they become your past.

You want to be fulfilled in future? Learn to be free from your past. You can pick the lessons it gives, you can get hold of the experiences and move on with your life.