SEC17 WK:#1: Forgiveness unites family

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Greetings, Steemians! It is with great pleasure to hat I participate in this contest. Thank you @ steemkidss for putting this up. We all belong to families whether biological or socially and it is of interest to know that you will always be offended. This topic is quite crucial as we all know that when there is disunity which can be attributed to the lack of forgiveness in a family setting, nothing good really pulls through in that family.

Sometimes when we hear people say "forgive and forget" it sounds easy but putting it into action is one thing that is difficult.

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Talking about forgiveness, in my understanding I think it has to do with letting go the feeling of hurt that one gets when a close person does something bad to him/her. This hurt can actually be placed in different degrees. There are situations that can prompt quick forgiveness and those that do not prompt quick forgiveness as the hurt person would need sometime to heal and process forgiveness.
Every religion that is being practiced lays emphasis on forgiving others when they hurt you. In my religion"Christianity", it is a necessity that we forgive those who hurt us without considering the degree to which the person had hurt us. In the holy book "the bible" which we use as our basic instruction here on earth, it is clearly stated that we would be wronged multiple times and we also need to forgive all those times because our creator keeps forgiving us without reservations. Forgiveness is an important virtue as its lack impedes success and progress. Those who forgive and do not hold on to hurt are known to be great people and not weaklings.

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A family is a group of people that are related by blood or otherwise like we could have a group of people with a common goal called a family whereas they are not related by blood. Of course, it is a norm that one can get offended by family members and sometimes depending on how hurt one is, the love he/she might have felt for the member who committed the offence tends to fade. This phase is a bad one for every family that experiences it and this is because there will be discord, disputes, fight and hatred getting in-between the progress of such family. Some persons find it difficult to forgive and need someone to talk to them about the hurt they feel and time to come around.

My friend and her Mum once had a misunderstanding. The problem that ensued between them was the fact that my friend wanted studying Chemical Engineering but her mother insisted she has to study Medicine and Surgery. Chemical Engineering has always been her dream course, I know this because during our Career days in school, she would always want to belong to that group.
My friend is good in Further mathematics, Mathematics and Physics but she is not good in Biology. In fact, she didn't like biology as a subject in Senior Secondary School. After telling me her mother's opinion, I had advised her to speak with her mother and to make her see reasons why she can't study Medicine and Surgery knowing she has valid reasons why she shouldn't go for a course she's not comfortable with.
She had a talk time with her mother like I suggested and while she tried giving her reasons why she can't study the course, her mother was also giving her reasons why she should study the course. Her mother stated that studying Medicine and Surgery makes one have prestige, it comes with incentives, resect and that searching for a job after school is less stressful. My friend countered her points telling her they are obtainable for someone who study Chemical Engineering. They ended up having a heated conversation that made her say"she can never study Medicine and Surgery". That was where her mother took offense in what she said and their closeness was tempered with.

They only had short conversations like greetings during that period and this was unlike them because they were best of friends before the incidence. No day passed without them being together, talking about their day and taking photographs. I was really shocked at the outcome of the whole thing. My friend was overwhelmed and always bothered. Of course, she was right by standing on her decision but she was wrong to give that reply to her mum at that time.
My friend was always feeling bothered and sometimes crying. She was getting lean and I was not comfortable with that.

I advised she discusses it with her father without taking out any part of what had happened since I felt he will communicate it better to her mother. Gladly, she took my advice, spoke with her father and he helped explain to her mother better. They had a reconciliation during the heir dinner time when the mother apologized to her for being selfish with her thoughts . My friend also apologized for speaking wrongly to her. Since then, the family has been united and I know this because she can talk to father about anything now unlike before where she was always scared of talking with him and her friendship with her mother was restored and it even flourished more because her mother started listening to her opinions which was not like that before.

• Forgiveness is an antidote for a once united family hat had fallen apart due to some situations to hat some persons didn't find comfortable.
• Forgiveness brings about growth in the family.
• When there is forgiveness in a family, corrections are always done with love and not with hatred.
• Forgiveness makes the bond in a family strong.
• Forgiveness comes with undiluted peace.
• Forgiveness builds a family to withstand the ravaging sting of crises.

In conclusion, I would say that forgiveness as a virtue is required in every family if the objective of the family is to achieve every set goal sone forgiveness brings about unity and disunity brings about discord, hatred and a change in the direction of the family.

I invite @imadear and @roselove to participate in this contest.