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Be your kids first line of defense

Most parents today are aware of the menacing effects of child abuse, some parents are disgusted and numbed by the sheer level of wickedness unleached by this pedophiles who abuse children, wreaking the lives and feature of these children and their parents.
Even when this problem is becoming so rampant this days, some parents still feel uncomfortable discussing the issue while a number of parents will shudder at the thought of such happening to their kids.

Regardless of your response to this menacing problem, it is an issue worthy of your consideration as it is directly linked to the safety, wellbeing and feature of your kids.

Who is a Pedophile?

This term is used to describe an adult or older adolescent who is sexually attracted to young children, a behavior that is often viewed as a psychological disorder. Though in some text a pedophile is separated from a child molester defined as a person (adult, adulecent, male or female) who abuse children by engaging them in any form of sexual activities.

To keep your kids protected, you will have to:
(1) Become a shield for your kids as their first line of defense against any abuse,
(2) Prepare your kids early with age appropriate education on the subject.
(3) Get your kids ready with basic protective tools.

The First Line Of Defense.

The front line in this battle is at home, on the internet, at school, or work . Most parents in the past had spent energy and resources protecting their kids against strangers but the bitter truth shows that most abusers are not strangers, they are often the people your kid knows and trust.

Your kids are more likely to be sexually abused by a home teacher or a neighbor, someone you least expected like a coach, or a relative, health-care worker and so on. If this is making you suspicious, I think it's a good thing not to loose your guide. To be an effective first line of defense, you need to understand the modus operandi used by these pedophiles.

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Some home settings make the children easy pray like in step families, single parent families, separated or dysfunctional homes where parents leave together but are constantly undermining each other.

The pedophiles MO

Because the perpetrator are usually close to the victims, they most often will not force the child, instead, they will rather seductively prep the victims.

They often select a child with a temperament they can manipulate easily, mostly the kids that are docile and subservient. And would start forging a bond with the child. Parents who are proactively involved in the life of their children will easily avoid this ploy. While most parents are more protective of their girls, boys are also abused and due to the fact that most abusers are male, the females abusers often flourish undetected. Parents should be on the lookout when someone suddenly develops an attachment to your kid.

To have more access to your kids, most perpetrators become very childish in their play and are often involved in play that maximizes physical contact, this gives them more access to touch the victim.

Then they may try to emotionally separate the kid from parents and siblings, lavishing the child with gifts and display of affection. Spending time with your own kids, making them feel comfortable around you can go a long way to provide your child with the emotional support they need.

Once the needed level of trust is established, they may start teaching the kid how to keep innocent secrets from their parents, which set the stage for their nefarious act, which will have to be covered up by some kind of threats, blame, blackmail or a combination.

• "Promise to keep our secret"
• "If your parents should know about this, they will say you are spoilt"
• "if you should tell anybody , you and that person will die"
• "if you tell anybody, they will call the police and arrest you and your parents and put you in prison forever "

A combination of this tactics may keep your kid from ever telling you. And survival is less probable for a child who has not received a well crafted training to defend him against such a foe.

How do you Prepare your kids early with age appropriate education and what basic protective tools can the be equiped with?

The next article will address this concerns and more.

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