We all know that not all relationships will lead to marriage, even though we desire that our relationships lead to marriage. The reasons relationships break are numerous, and we can't even list them all.
People go through heartbreak when these relationships end. While some people take their time to heal and get over the failed relationship before starting to date again, some other people jump into another relationship right away.
Some will say that people heal in different ways, and jumping into another relationship is also one way to do it. But the truth of the matter is that many people that jump into another relationship immediately after one ends don't know the danger they are putting themselves in or the trouble they will cause for others.
While this might work for a few people, for many, it doesn't end well for them.
For those of you that do not understand what a rebound relationship is from my points above, in its simplest term, a rebound relationship is going into another relationship immediately after a breakup because you want to use your next partner to distract yourself from the pain of your breakup and as a healing tool.
The truth is that when you are looking for a rebound relationship, you are not looking for anything substantial because your thoughts are clouded and just looking for a means to hide your pain. Many people do this unknowingly, and that is why I want you to learn this today.
So what are some of the dangers of rebound relationships?
You don't get the opportunity to learn from your past relationship
Every relationship or breakup comes with a lesson. No matter how that relationship ended, there are always positives and negatives to take out from it. When people jump into a new relationship without taking their time to heal, they avoid learning from the mistake of the past, which they end up repeating in the next relationship.
When a relationship ends, it is important to give yourself time to reflect on what happened so as not to go into your next relationship with that garbage. It's important to give yourself time to heal, clear your mind, and ensure you are better equipped for the next relationship.
You don't really love your new partner
At first, a rebound relationship looks like and feels like love, but over time you will discover that what you actually feel isn't love. Some even do this to get back at their ex and not because they love the current partner.
When people go through a breakup, a void is usually created in the heart, and when they jump into another relationship, they seek someone to help them fill that void, more like a quick fix.
But what we tend to realize in the long run is that the quick fix might feel right at the moment, but later, when you start to see the flaws of your new partner, you start feeling irritated and distant. They filled the void, and now you feel whole, and you don't need them anymore, which will lead us to our next point.
You have chances of hurting your new partner when you heal
When people do this, the victim is usually the new partner. When you heal using the rebound relationship, you then discover that you are not truly in love with this new person, and you end up growing emotionally distant from them and hurting them.
It is a very selfish thing to do when you get into another relationship because you feel lonely after a breakup or intend to use someone else to heal from your pain. You end up healing but leave someone else broken.
You makes reconciliation hard in some cases
Not every breakup is toxic. Not every ex is to be avoided forever. Some people break up because of a little misunderstanding or disagreement, and we all know that people can break up now and get back together later.
If the reason for your break up is not toxic like violent or cheating or an irreconcilable difference as an example, I usually advise people to give themselves a lot of time before going into a new relationship because it keeps the door open for reconciliation with that ex.
Am I asking you not to move on and be hoping your ex comes back? No, that's not it. During this period, you ought to be healing, learning from your mistake, trying to develop yourself, and getting yourself ready for a new relationship, and if your ex comes back or you choose to go back, then that's fine
I have seen cases where people go into another relationship immediately, and they finally resolve their differences with their ex, and it seems like they have blocked their chances of getting back together because the other person is now in a new relationship, and this will lead to our next point.
Lead to unfaithfulness
After some time, you discover you still love your ex, and both of you have been able to resolve your difference, but one of you has jumped into a rebound relationship, and in some cases, that's where cheating with an ex starts to play out.
You find yourself wanting to hold on to your new relationship and, at the same time, stay connected to your ex. Some people start to actually cheat, while some might decide to leave the new relationship and go back to their ex and end up hurting someone else.
Even in a case where they don't cheat, they regret not waiting.
You punish your new partner for the crimes of your ex
When you heal by yourself, you go into the next relationship whole. You are intentional about loving your new partner, and you don't punish them for the crimes of your ex.
Many new relationships suffer because one of the couples is holding on to an experience that they had with an ex, and they treat this new person in their life who knows nothing about it as if they are the cause. This is because they are yet to heal, which could result in the breaking of such a relationship.
There are many more reasons to avoid a rebound relationship and give yourself time to heal by yourself.
Spend some time alone and find yourself again. Become whole so that you can actually give your next your best as well as forget your ex.
HEAL BEFORE YOUR DEAL.
I hope you learned.
Cheers.
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