Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 41: Navigating Through Conflicts

Hello friend

Have you ever seen two persons stay together for a while and there won’t be arguments?

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This is because we all have different make ups, different mindsets and different ways of reasoning and responding to situations. Let’s do Justice to this topic.

How do you manage to stay calm during an argument?

When issues comes up as we relate with one another, how we respond to it goes along way to determine the outcome of the issue. Whether it will end in peace or more chaos.

When I have an issue with someone, my instincts only wants to scream on top of my voice with so many explanations as to why am not at fault. But I’ve come to know that two wrongs cannot make a right.

Hence I simply control my temper and stay calm and allow the other person to voice his or her opinion and after I could voice mine if I would be in the right frame to talk without raising my voice.

If I feel I won’t be able to stay calm during the talk, I won’t even bother pushing the issue. I would leave it to when I’ve calmed down and could talk reasonably.

I’ve come to know that when I talk out of burning emotions, I could say the wrong things and words once released, cannot be taken back so it better to stay calm and keep quiet.

Why is it important to listen carefully during a disagreement?

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During a disagreement, emotions are hot and everyone is trying to be heard hence the need for listening. When one listens during a disagreement, you would be able to understand the other person and hear them out on their point of view.

The listening helps to know what’s making the other person upset or to know where they want adjustment to be made and with that we can reach a compromise to suit both parties.

How does understanding someone else's feelings help in resolving conflicts?

There’s a saying that its the person that wears the shoes that know where it pinches. Understanding is like putting yourself in someone’s shoes and seeing things from their standpoint.

When you have been able to successfully see things from their standpoint then you can comfortably understand what’s making them upset or triggering their disapproval and then conflict resolution come in view.

What can we do to control our anger during an argument?

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Anger is not a good thing and should be controlled. A lot of people have damaged things and people because of uncontrolled anger. There are some things we can do to control anger during an argument and they include;

• Staying calm and listening to the other persons point of view
• Don’t raise your voice when trying to make negotiations.
• You can walk away if you know you can’t keep your emotions in check.
• Revisit the matter later when you are in the best frame of mind to talk. I always go for this option instead of blurting out in haste.
• I rehearse the issue in my mind and look for better ways to present my displeasure.

In conclusion, anger and arguments have caused more harm than good in relationships unless the both parties were able to find a ground for compromise. We should not be hasty to react during arguments so as not to put strain on our relationship.

I’d like to hear your thought on this as I invite @ruthjoe, @ngozi996 and @jovita30 to participate in this contest.