Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 41: Navigating Through Conflicts

Source

Good day to you all wonderful members of this great community, you know who it is, it is your favorite blogger awesononso, and i would like to take part in this contest, although it must have been a while since i was active in this community, here is my entry.

HOW DO YOU REMAIN CALM DURING AN ARGUMENT?

Hmmmm, how do I stay calm during an argument? Well staying calm during an argument for me is very hard to stay calm in an argument because first of all because the person you are arguing with will probably not stay calm and I'm someone who will not just allow someone to raise his voice or push me around during an argument especially if i feel and know that I am not at fault.

Another reason why it is hard for to stay calm during an argument is that i hate conflicts and arguments so I wait until I can't take it anymore before i get into any argument and when i do, I arm myself and prepare to go all in during the argument so there is nothing calm about me when I'm been pushed to get into an argument with someone.

As I started writing this post, I did alot of thinking and contemplating and I have come to the conclusion that inorder for me to stay calm during an argument it is important that I learn good communication skills, this way I do not wait until the grievances I hold is too much before talking about it, I believe now that addressing an issue or problem immediately will eliminate arguments all together and if it doesn't at least I will maintain my calmness during any confrontation or argument.

WHY IS IT VERY IMPORTANT TO LISTEN CAREFULLY DURING A DISAGREEMENT

Source

Hmmm, another tough one, why is it important to listen carefully during a disagreement ? To answer this question I would start by saying that disagreement is the most real and original form of communication, it is only during disagreements that you really get to know and understand deep things about the other person either your friend, enemies or families, therefore it is important to listen carefully during an argument for the following reason.

Firstly, I would say that listening carefully during a disagreement can be likened to when a mathematics test or exam question is being called out or dictated by your teacher do you just listen to the first question and then start solving, that won't be wise on your part because before you finish solving the lecturer would have finished calling out the question what do you do then out of probably five you have quickly solved one without any means of solving the rest because it is unlikely that the lecturer or teacher would repeat the question just for you.

So the same way too when you listen carefully during an argument you have the opportunity to take down all the problems and issues the other person is calling out at that time, also when you pay careful attention to what the other person is saying they will feel respected and are likely to share more problems and issues with you seeing as they know your listening carefully shows that you want to find solutions to thses problems.

HOW DOES UNDERSTANDING SOMEONE ELSE'S FEELINGS HELP US IN RESOLVING CONFLICTS

Hmmm, by putting yourself in the other person's shoe and trying to understand how he or she might be feeling, will go a long way in the process of conflict resolution, it will affect and impact how we inturn treat the other person either with patience mercy or compassion.

The human emotion is a very complex concept and can be a huge determining factor of how people behave, so if we acknowledge this we then know that when, take for example a grieving person is eager to pick a fight with you it is not about you but is simply a means of expressing his or her emotion then we will not take anything personally

It ultimately becomes easier to forgive, overlook and resolve any conflicts whether amongst friends siblings or spouses.

WHAT CAN WE DO SO AS TO CONTROL OUR ANGER DURING AN ARGUMENT

Source

Hmmm, another deep question, what can one do control anger during an argument? Well I am not a expert in anger management or control but I will try my best to provide adequate answers to this question.

Managing or controlling anger during arguments or in any instance or situation requires alot of efforts both mental, physical and spiritual effort because anger is a very strong and driving emotion.

But I would give the same or quote the same advice the wisest person in the universe gives which can be found in the oldest book in human history, which is that "before quarrel(or argument) breaks out take your leave" from this I would say that anger cannot be controlled but what you do when you are angry is what we can control so the best thing to do inorder to control our anger is to simply walk away.

CONCLUSION

I would like to thank the host of this contest for the opportunity to take part in this contest, i aslo take this opportunity to invite @bossj23, @sahmie and @moyeon to also take part in this contest if they have not already done so.