Steem4Nigeria Accelerator Contest Week4- Transparency in Marriage

Briefly Explain Transparency To A layman's understanding

_{Transparency implies the ability to share your opinions and thoughts respectfully and honestly. It is also the quality of being seen through easily, it is equipped with an approach to communicate and form relationships that embodied with being direct and straight forwarded with people in your workplace and the other outside world where you find yourself.}

What is your opinion on the need for transparency in marriage and other relationships

When it comes to marriage, there is every need to be transparent to your partner because you both have turn out to be one body sharing the same thing like joy, pain, challenges etc. If you are not open to the person you so claimed to love, who then will you be transparent to?.

Whatsoever that has to do with relationship should involve being transparent, being open. Let me shock you a bit, do you know that lack of transparency in a relationship causes lack of trust?. It means that you don't trust him or her to discuss what burdens you, how you feel inside, what you're passing through and every other secret you keep within yourself.

In a case whereby one party finds out the other persons keeping secrets, what do you think should be done?

Most partners uses this secrets against them and so? If any secret of any kind occupies, they rather tell outsiders than their own beloveth partner. For instance, Most women cheat and keep it to themselves, the fear and the repercussions that will surface them would make them to hide that secret but not forever.

When the other partner seem to be keeping secrets, try to know why he or she did that. You could pamper them to reveal the truth because most times shouting and ranting won't help. The other way, try not to act up because she have been keeping secrets away from you, her reasons to that hurts her the most.

Have you ever been in a relationship that lacked transparancy? If yes, What did you do? But If no, what would you do?

I have been into a relationship that seriously lacked transparency even I myself wasn't transparent so? It was a total disaster. It didn't last because the more I try to be open, it's Asif am making the worst decision. Maybe it kept having that way because he might have used it against me tomorrow.

On the other hand, I got counsel from my friend to check if I can be able to let him reveal his secrets with some questions he gave me to ask him. But all to no avail, to him he felt like I was trying to come in between his family matter but that apparently wasn't true. We broke up knowing that it won't last for long nor grow in love.

Can truth be hidden forever ?

Truth can not be hidden forever. Even the composer of this contest knows that too. Certainly everything hidden under the sun shall be reveal one day. An instance of a man that beats his wife and threatens to claim her life if she reveals to the family that the bruises she has is a scratch from the kitchen door or whatever. One day, the family will surely know, for everyday is for the thief and one day is for the rightful owner.

Conclusion

_{If you can't be transparent then know that dating someone or getting into marriage is not for you yet. Because you need to learn how to be transparent with your family first, trust yourself enough then you're good enough to choose whomsoever your lover is.}

I wish to invite @joymm @favour11 and @benton3 to join the contest.

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