Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 41: Navigating Through Conflicts

Greetings friends!

We live together to fight and settle and that is what makes life hard to understand. God created humans to live together not because there will be no quarrels no! There must be quarrels and after which we will find out ways to reconcile and life continues. I'm so sorry to say this but conflict is inevitable, it cannot be eradicated nor killed, it remains there and all we need is the ability to control ourselves.

How do you manage to stay calm during an argument?

It is very hard to be self controlled, but that is the only thing that would calm an individual in any argument. It is not as easy as we might be seeing it until you are once in a shoe where you needed to react but you think and think of what gain will it be and then you calm your temper.

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When one lack self-control such an argument will definitely lead to an injury. I manage to stay calm during an argument sometimes by walking away from that person to avoid what might trigger my temper the more.

Why is it important to listen carefully during a disagreement?

Disagreement occurs between two people which could either be myself and others or two people and other parties facing each other. Lets say I am a judge for instance, I should be able to listen to both parties first before laying my judgement.

It is very important to listen carefully during disagreement because it will give you a clear picture of the disagreement, If you give your ears to listen to the disagreement first it means you are driving respect to yourself. A person who talks anyhow is not seen as a respectful person also, when you do more of listening does not mean you are a fool but the appointed time to speak is yet.

How does understanding someone else's feelings help in resolving conflicts?

I have mentioned it earlier that, giving your ears to the arguments would help you get the clear picture of the disagreement to be able to say something to both of them, as a judge, I would have to listen to both parties very carefully and then judge the case.

Judging fairly is just like giving a child a piece of cake to eat. Declear their fault openly for them all to know their faults, put yourself right in their shoes and know what it feels like so judge fairly.

What can we do to control our anger during an argument?

Walk away. The best thing I do is to walk away. Most times I keep mute but keeping mute and remaining in that place will do more harm than good. I am a very calm person and I hate it when I quarrel like there is going to be a pay for it.

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A pastor once advised women in the church to hold water in their mouth to be able to control their temper which I know it is another way we can control an argument.

Thank you friends and I love you all. I invite
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