Marital Statement "For Better For Worse."

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Greetings to you fellow steemians and friends, happy Yuletide season, am happy to meet another week of contest organised by @josepha in Steem4nigeria. It's a contest with real life and interesting topic "for better for worse" a statement in the marriage institution and I will try my best to elaborate on this topic to my own understanding.

⭐ What do you understand by this statement, "for better for worse," in the marriage institution?

Yes, this statement, "for better for worse" is often made by a priest or a clergyman during marriage ceremony in churches while wedding couples and what it means is that in any condition in the life time and duration of marriage, marriage stands, which means, the husband should love his wife wether healthy or unfitness at the same hand, wife should love his husband in good health or poor health, when there's money and when man could slack in terms of finance.

So "for better for worse" implies that marriage remains, continues, uncontrollably, unlike some manner of some people trying to go their separate ways or divorce each other because of health issues, money issues, childlessness and so on. Therefore, marriage stands in all condition that's what I know about this statement that when things go well, marriage stands, and when things are not going as expected marriage also stands.

⭐ Do you support this moral statement "for better for worse" in the marriage institution during wedding ceremonies? If yes! Or no! Please kindly give reasons for your answers because you might be a helper and problem solver.

Yes I do support the statement if actually, that the statement is still serving it's purpose because in the Christendom, this statement is aimed at making marriages strong and to last as should be since marriage is of course for life time.

But nowadays, I don't quite support this statement compulsorily with the following reasons.

1, I have seen some husbands who turned to say tiger at the long run in the marriage and made their wives a punching bag, bullying them from every side, careless, no attention, no help, some go to the extend of deserting their wives for outdoor women and more, most at times, so many women have lost their lives, struggling to fight out their right all through having taking the oath of convent in the church "for better for worse" they stick fighting till worse health condition or even death.

2, I am also a life witness, of a situation where all of sudden, some wives turned out to be abusers of man dignity and respect by making infidelity the order of the day, some turned out to become so extravagant, and wastage to the man's wealth and resources. For instance could you imagine a wife selling her husband's only landed property when he was away, only to buy new clothing. And the husband will turn to either a drunkard or die of heart attacks and high blood pressure owing to the fact that marriage is for better for worse.

So, if the statement is deviating in this manner from original purpose, I will not support it because it could turn to an oath of covenant that bond innocent individuals to lost of their lives or thrown them to worse health condition.

⭐ Do you have personal experience suffering from a situation of this kind, or have you heard of it from others?

Yes! like I started in the previous question, the life experiences I have right now, is for my neighbour case, the story goes that the husband was a banker and the wife was a teacher, unfortunately, the husband lost his bank job where the financial flow from his side depleted, troubles just begun, the wife forgot every oath of convent in the church and maltreated the husband in this condition very terribly. To cut the story short, right now, the man over 2 years now, he is no where to be found, he left the wife and children though we know he is running for his their life.

⭐ If you were to change or encourage/refashion this statement "for better for worse," what would be your options that could reasonably solve the issue, aiming at having peaceful families in general?

Yes! If I were to encourage this statement, I would say let it sincerely maintain it's original purpose in the sense that marriage is for better for worse or otherwise remove this statement entirely if this statement decline obedience and let the couples go and enjoy that core reason why the decided to marry one another and with this, issues are resolved by themselves without public sort of bonding statement.

Conclusion

the marital Statement " for better for worse" is indeed constructive statement in the marriage institution which means that marriage stands unconditionally but let the couple's fight their worse conditions and bring back the better together instead of allowing one party to suffer in obedience to the oath of covenant. Any one should suffer in order of keeping this covenant, I sincerely advocate, the statement should be dropped in its entirety, let's the couples sort themselves by themselves without public sort of bonding statement.

Thank you their friends and lovely people this is the much I can go in this very contest organised by @josepha in Steem4nigeria. And want to invite @simonigwe @chant and @entity01.