Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 51: I Learnt to Say NO.

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• T : How fa, that guy been dm you?
• E : yea, I bin see em message, guy.
• T: Wetin you tell am, shey you been send?
• E : Omor, I no go fit tell am "No", e better make I snub am
• T : naso I fear o, but I just sum courage tell am. I no get the money actually I for give am.
• E: the guy deh help me o, e come reach for me to return the favor I not fit. I no go fit tell am No.

This is a short scripted conversation which is displayed in pidgin-English, The guy E, received a message from a friend actually a request, which I think is a financial help. And the E guy doesn't have at the moment but he is ready to help, he is not ready at all to give a No, instead he snubs the message.

The word NO is a very tough word to say, we are often disappointed whenever we display that. We do have difficulty in saying NO to some things and basically feel so sad when you say a NO to someone.

Do you always find it hard to say NO to people's request?

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I am a soft-hearted person, and I don't like it when I can't offer the least help to the person. In this world we now live in, you have many reasons to say a NO, you can offer to give help to a person and end up regretting at the end of it. The world is so cruel and I really do give this look at a person before considering their request.

If it is a close person, I find it so hard to say No to their request, but if I'm not in the capacity of offering the help I'll just let the person know and also tell how eager I am in offering the help.

Mention reasons why people find it difficult to say NO?

• Low Self Esteem: most people feel so low of themselves whenever they say no to people, especially close ones.
• That desire to please others: Many people do put it on themselves to please and help other, saying no will be a turn off for them.
• Feeling apologetic when saying No
• Fear of disappointing others: if usually feels like a disappointment anytime we don't offer help to someone that has been helping us
• Fear of being labeled as unhelpful: Many have this fear of others looking at them as someone broke and unhelpful, so to say no is a big No.

What was that experience that taught you to say NO?

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In this present era, we have had so many experiences and we have learnt so much already, all we have to do is to be very careful.

A friend of mine after school, boarded a vehicle to get home which she stopped one and she met two people there already, the vehicle moved a certain distance the person in the middle started speaking another language, French to be precise, in our education system we are taught French so she easily understood few words from there.

The man in the middle started complaining to the driver that he doesn't really know where he is going since the driver said he is not going his way, he went down and was just pleading the driver, she was just focused but the driver and the man turned to her only, the driver ask if she will want him to take the man to his destination before turning to drop them off, the journey will be a very long one. She would have just said No, or just go off but due to human sympathy she just stayed put, while they were going the man started a conversation with her, before she could realize she was standing on the pedestrian lane on the road, I think she was jazzed amd all her money and phone was gotten off from her.

It was a very bad experience from her and has taught her a lot, I have also learned a lot from that, they're times we should say no and mostly in this present world, which is so cruel. The vehicle in this contest is a tricycle.

What is your advice for those who still struggles to give NO as an answer

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For everyone struggling to say no, in this present life o think you should learn to give a No in some situations. To our close ones we are very good to reconsider and give a yes but to other things we can give a No if we would love. You will actually learn to say no as you move on with life, someone will come up and beg you to lend them some money, you will give them due to how meek they will appear, but when it is time to return the money, they might even shut calls on you and you'll regret every saying ues to their proposal

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I invite @patjewell, @johnmitchel and @precious9 to join.