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I am here to discuss with you about Keeping Friendship After Marriage. In this contest we will look at...
Factors affecting besties friendship after marriage.
If calling and treating our friends dearly is proper
The positive/negative experience of having beastie after marriage.
Personal opinion on continuing friendship after Marriage.
How do you see continuing friendship after Marriage. |
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Marriage is another journey that introduce new responsibilities and demand time commitment as couple build their lives together. The needs to prioritize their spouse, family or taking care of their kids and businesses can affect or reduced time given to besties or friends after marriage. That is to say, interest to be part of each other's life may reduce especially once they (friends)are out of sight it becomes easier to forget each other.
But it is possible to still maintain emotional connection with friend (s) even after marriage. It all boils down to how deep the relationship was. The value placed and cherished on both besties will determine the relationship after marriage.
Do you encourage calling besties and treating your friends so dearly after Marriage. |
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It all depends. Thus we will discuss this in three different categories:
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Some spouse are extremely emotional in nature and at times can be very jealous. This is as a result of insecurity. They always think, they aren't enough for their partners because of that, they see their spouse friends as a competition and threat especially when they are of the opposite sex.
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At times we often hear the husband says, I don't want you to be friends anymore with your bestie she is not a good person. Yes those will call friends may not really be our friends or have our best interest at heart. I have seen where a purported friend try to ruin her best friends wedding and even after the marriage she still continues to feed the man with falsify informations. In this case a man who truly loves his wife will definitely kick against her relationship with such friends. So it depends on the type of friendship, if it is healthy or not.
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The gender of a friend always post a threat to marriage. Has discussed in the previous paragraph some spouse are jealous in nature. A man will always sees is wife's best male friend as a threat likewise the woman. They will always think the opposite sex is lurking around their partners, looking for opportunity to succeed where they failed (have sex).
So it all depends on the above discussed points. If we have an understanding partner, our friendship with our bestie is not built on lies then we can call and treat them dearly. But if the reverse is the case then we must thread cautiously because what ever decision or action can affect our marriage.
What experience have you or someone encountered positively or Negatively that should encourage or discourage such friendship. |
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We were five friends and three got married. Some lost emotional connection due to lack of interest (reason best know to them) and one held on to our friendship for a while and later gave up due to distance . But I have been blessed with a married couple (Ese Oriasotie Menshack), the wife especially and I must say it feels good to be friends with her. Because of her, I am now friends with the entire family including her husband, children and even her other friends.
We are now like family. Most times I go and spend quality time with them. So it is not out of place to maintain friendship after marriage, especially when you are blessed with a good friend. It always yield a positivity.
What is your personal opinion or view on continuing friendship after Marriage. |
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My opinion is if your relationship with your friend after marriage is not a threat to your marriage, then continue but if it is, then discontinue. While keeping your friends and marriage, try to maintain a balance. Don't allow your marriage to suffer because of spending excessive time outside your marriage. Personally, I can not throw away a good and healthy friendship because of a jealous husband. I will rather look for ways to keep my relationship off my husband.
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Hello dear @kemsyluv ,hope your day is going well and you are right that marriage brings new responsibilities and less time for friends sometimes. But you can still stay close to your friends if your relationship was strong before. It depends on how much you value each other.
You talked about different things like how some spouses get jealous or how some friendships might not be good for marriage. It's important to have understanding partners and healthy friendships.
You shared your experience with friends after marriage, like the married couple Ese Oriasotie Menshack, which is really nice. It shows that good friendships can bring happiness even after marriage.
You said it's important to balance your friendships and your marriage. You don't want to hurt your marriage because of your friends, but you also don't want to lose good friends. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.,wish you success 💖🤗🌺.
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