Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 45: Marriage and it's Environs

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Good day my fellow steemians hope y'all are having a nice and relaxing day. I personally find this contest intriguing, because it talks about one of the most important topic which makes up our daily life "Marriage". I sincerely believe that, included in everyone's future goals and objectives, getting married someday must be inclusive, because that alone is the stepping stone to living and experiencing a settled a fulfilled life today, which off course leads to having children and building a family. Although most of us engaging in this contest might be married individuals already, it would be nice for we they singles to learn from your experience about your marriage and it's environs. By description and definition, a marriage is simply a union between a man and a woman acknowledged by God which no doubt creates a family tie and carries legal, social, and/or religious rights and responsibilities. No marriage is 100% perfect, reason for this is because a marriage is made up of two individuals probably from different localities, tribes or communities, and probably having different likes and dislikes, some of which may not be visible to each other even during their courting days. However, every marriage can be successful and filled with good attributes, only if the individuals involved are ready to put in the work.

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A lot of people believe that compatibility and the existence of money in a marriage are what makes a marriage successful. No offense, when two individuals are compatible with each other, have a long-lasting marital relationship is obviously possible, on the other hand, when there is enough money in a marriage, both husband and wife can afford their dearest needs and wants with any setback, there can even pay for an expensive vacation, buy and drive the most luxurious houses and cars. But inwardly, there is more to a marriage successfulness other than compatibility and wealth because today even the rich and wealthy top the chat of couples who get divorced, also today even the most initially thought-of as being compatible are having marital issues. What then makes a marriage successful, well after much consideration below are some of a marriage successful factors.

Communication: A particular couple may have the most riches and wealth, but when they don't create time to interact and communicate with each other it ceases the existence of honestly and respect in their marriage. Communication helps marriage partners understand each other’s needs, concerns, and desires.

Compromise and Flexibility: Off course it is expected for a marriage to face some certain negative changes overtime. Moreover, a marriage can continue to remain happy if both partners have the willingness to compromise and adapt to these changes.

Shared Values and Goals: When marriage partners possess common values and goals it can strengthen their bond together, it can be watching a movie together, cooking meals together etc.

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As I specified above, communication is an important factor for marriage successfulness, however not a huge amount of marriages today know how to spark good and credible communication talkless of improving it. Moreover, communication can be improved via the following ways:

Active Listening: Many marriage spouse are quick to interrupting their partners when there are trying to say what's bothering them, this does not foster good communication. Marriage spouse are expected to focus fully on your partner when they are speaking. And instead of interrupting them, try to give them a warm acknowledgement, even if you don't have a solution to what's bothering them, or an answer to their question.

Regular Check-ins: Most marriage spouse are fond of only checking in on their partners only when the want something badly like sex. This act isn't appreciated because as a couple you both must set aside quality time regularly to talk about your relationship, also share feelings, and address any issues if any.

Showing Appreciation: Every marriage differs financially, some marriages might have more wealth compared to other marriages. However your ability to show appreciation to your spouse shouldn't depend on the quality or quantity of gift 🎁 or whatever they did for you, but on the time and intention they had while doing it. Regularly express gratitude and appreciation for your partner helps foster a positive and realistic atmosphere.

Avoiding Assumptions: As human beings we don't read minds so never assume you know what your partner is thinking or feeling. Thinking you know that, will only lead to you making wrong generalistic decisions for the both of you. There's nothing wrong in asking questions and seek clarification, in fact that will foster good communication.

According to one marriage counselor, she described trust as the cornerstone of marriage. This is true because when trust exist in a marriage it serves as a foundation of security as it allows and creates a sense of security and safety in a marriage. When marriage spouse trust each other, they feel more secure in their relationship and are more likely to be open and vulnerable. Emotional intimacy is not left out as an importance of trust in marriage, because when trust exist in a marital relationship it fosters deep emotional connections, allowing each other to share their deepest thoughts, fears, and feelings without fear of judgment or betrayal. In a trusting relationship, conflict resolution is assured because the couples are better equipped to address issues directly and honestly, knowing that their partner has their best interests at heart. During difficult times trust ensures that partners can rely on each other. Whether it's about facing personal challenges or external pressures, a trusting relationship provides a strong and moral support system. Finally, Trust reinforces commitment and loyalty among partners who trust each other and are more likely to remain committed to the relationship and work through difficult times together.

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As already emphasized above, a marriage is made of a man and woman probably from different localities and tribes, which may cause them to possess various qualities, attributes, likes and dislikes which may not be initially visible to their soon-to-be spouse during their courting days. But after the marriage, this personality traits may end up not be tolerated by their partners. So with this in mind, it can be expected for conflicts and disagreement to settle into the marriage from time to time. However, conflict is a bad omen in marriage, and must be eradicated as soon as possible. Most times in marriage, conflict could be inevitable, but still married couples can navigate conflict in their marriage by following the below guidelines or formulas.

Stay Calm and Collected: During a conflict with your partner it's necessary that you try to remain calm and composed, if necessary try taking deep breaths or a short break if emotions run high to prevent escalation.

Avoid Personal Attacks: During a conflict, most couples engage in name-callings and sarcasm or insults. This is absolutely a bad idea as it only add more fuel to the issues.

Seek Compromise: Most times conflict among marriage partners tend to have a prolonged nature. As a spouse, take the initiative to compromise, by being willing to find a middle ground i.e a solution that partially satisfies you both instead of a win-lose scenario.

Professional Help: if the conflict persist, probably what you both need is professional help. At times severity and frequency of conflicts among married couples can be drastically reduced when they seek help from a couples therapist or a marriage counselor. He or she will provide you both with strategies and guidance for effective conflict resolution.

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Distance and cultural differences between spouses can propel various challenges in a marriage. But the elimination of this problem depends on how the couples handles these various factors affecting their marriage. One of the problems caused by distance in a relationship is "communication" and when there is distance between a husband and wife it could make it difficult to maintain emotional intimacy and also resolve conflict moreover the use of modern-day technology such as video calls and messaging can mitigate this issue. On the other hand one of the major problem caused by cultural differences between husband and wife is "understanding and respect". Cultural differences can enrich a marriage by broadening its perspective, but they can also lead to misunderstanding which could make conflict settle into the marriage. Finding a solution to this can therefore involve negotiating and respecting each other’s family customs and always openly and clearly communicate with each other can help bridge these gaps.

For this contest I'll love to invite my friends:
@alli001
@bossj23
@kidi40
to participate in this thoughtful contest.