Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 45: Marriage and it's Environs

In every successful marriage there must be frequent communication, there should be trust, healthy conflict resolution, and they should be willingly to embrace and celebrate differences. With all these been mentioned, couples will be able to succeed in their marriages no matter the circumstances that comes their way, before I go further let me invite my friends to join me in the contest, @okere-blessing, @chant, @josepha to join me in the contest.

from my phone gallery, my school mom wedding day

Marriage to my own understanding is a holy bond between two different people, it can be from different tribe, culture, these two people now accept to to be one, so they decided to share their lives together and become one. For s marriage to be successful it will be a union that the foundation is built on trust, respect and communication. Then these two people agreed to support each through any circumstance that may come their ways. This day I have noticed that a lot of marriages are facing challenges, that's because they decided to give Satan the chance to come into their union.

I will explain further so keep reading and let's go.

When we talk about communication, I see it to by the most important aspect in any relationship, if you want your marriage to be successful, communicate with your partner, be open to each other no matter what and try as much as possible to be truthful in your marriage. When there is no communication in marriage how then will you be able to sort out issues in your marriage, how will you know when your partner is hurts. A lot of couples to even understand this aspect.

For instance you have issues in your union, the best thing to do is give like 3 to 3 hours for the issue to pass then call your partner then discuss what the issue was through that communication you will be able to solve the problem you have with each.

Another thing is that maybe you went out for work or business, then something happened, come back home, put heads together with your partner discuss that issues or contract with your partner from there you will be able to get ideas on how to solve that problem at your place of work, my dear two heads are better than one, ever since you aggreed to marry each other, since then both of you has become one and you have to communicate what comes your way.

Let me tip in a story, there is this friend of mine that a friend of her introduced her to another man knowing quite well that she is married, then that my friend went to an eatery with that her friend with the man she introduced to my friend, when they were discussing, these other girl pretend to stand up and as if she was press, she stood somewhere took my friend picture and send it to the husband of friend.
So when my friend went home the husband was already boiling up to have issues with his wife.

My friend with a clear conscience call the husband and seat him down tell the husband how wicked her friend is, how she introduced her to another man, without knowing that her friend had already send her pictures to the husband, through the communication, the husband was able to know the truth.

So what if there was no communication, that union would have been separated by now.

Trust is another aspects that makes a marriage successful. In any relationship that there is no trust, that marriage will be facing some challenges and they will find it difficult to align with each other. Trust is a very powerful tools in marriage, try and build it because it's helps. Try as much as possible to be truthful to each other so that when circumstances occur your partner will be able to defend you. don't do things that will make your partner doubt your trust.

When there is trust, that marriage is guaranteed.

I like bringing in stories, my cousin fall a victim in this aspect, when she was in a relationship with her husband, the man lie to her that he is working in an oil company, then under 3 months they plan their marriage and it was successful, but after marriage the wife find out that he was lying about himself and he was not working in an oil company but because they were already married nothing could be done, but do you know that the marriage is not solid again. There have been from one problem to another.

Conflicts is a normal thing in marriage, no marriage is perfect and I stand by that, but in any relationship, the problem is how they are able to go through it.

HEALTHY CONFLICT RESOLUTION: In this aspect, it involves couples listening to their partners body language, feelings and their needs, by the time to listen to each, having conversations concerning your issues then work together to make sure that you find solutions to the problem.

Try as much as possible not to say words that will bring problems in your marriage when ever there is conflict.

Don't prolong issues, if you have issues don't let it wait till the following morning, talk it out with your partner.

Know that you people came from different backgrounds and you are trying to become one, and with that there must be issues, no one is perfect and no man is perfect, but at the same time no two masters in one boats, wife should not try to be equal with their husbands and the husband should try as much as possible to love their wives, by the time you show your wife love, the respect will come in and as such there will be no room for conflict.

Distance between spouses and cultural differences can automatically brings some challenges in marriage, but they do not have to give room for issues to set in. In such issues like this Couples can overcome it, if they keep in touch with each other, they should communicate at all times, thanks to technology who has make life so easy for us. They shouldn't use distance as an excuse, they should look for a way to keep intouch with each other.

Mesola 🥰