Marital Statement "for Better or for Worse."

Greetings to you dearest fellow steemians and friends in this community and the steemit at large, am happy to come your way again in this week contest organised by @josepha in Steem4nigeria. It's a contest that touches on real life situation with the topic "for better for worse" - which is a statement made within the marriage institution. Though not a theologian, I will try my best to approach the topic in my own understanding. So, sit relax and savour the flavour of the contest writeup.

What do you understand by this statement, "for better for worse," in the marriage institution?

From my little knowledge of the scriptures, I will be bold to say and reaffirm the fact that the statement "for better for worse" is not biblical. However, it is a phrase coined and used by the clergy/theologians during the marriage ceremonies within the marital institution. Therefore, judging from the above background and reading from their intentions, I will posit that the statement "for better for worse" is meant to instill in the minds of the couples the seriousness and sacredness of the vow or covenant to live together as husband and wife, irrespective of what they may encounter in the course of their marriage.

Do you support this moral statement "for better for worse", in marriage institution during wedding ceremonies? If yes! Or no! Please kindly give reasons for your answers because you might be a helper and problem solver.

Not all faith shares the same doctrine, what other's faith accepts and practice may not be attainable within mine. As long as this phrase is not used during the marriage arrangement, I will say, I do not support it. Some said it for saying sake with no seriousness attached, and once the leave the marriage arena they forgot about the oath they have taken.

However, we need to know that when the vows of matrimony are taken by the couple, they are recorded, signed and sealed. Once they are said there is no rendering invalid by man. So when God joins a couple together there is nothing either of them or anyone else can do to change that, except death frees one from it. If the clergy who by virtue of the law of the land and the ordination of the church, have the privilege to officiate the marriage, he should use that time to educate the couple about the sacredness of the vow they are about to take or have taken. By this, the couples will know the importance attached to the journey of the institution they are entering into.

Do you have personal experience suffering from a situation of this kind, or have you heard of it from others?

I do not have such experience, and I do not pray it happen even to my worse enemy (if I have any). However, I have a close neighbour who is a victim of such. The marriage was properly contracted and marriage life begins as usual. The fellow as a matter of fact is living up to his responsibility as the man of the house. He loved his wife and the kids even to the admirations of others around. But shortly after the wife gained employment by the state government and her salary is a bit fatter than that of the husband, things began to change, attitudes began to surface, and gradually communication began to suffer. The husband and the well meaning family members did all they could to salvage the marriage from impending collapse, only to discovered that she was secretly building a house without the knowledge of the husband. One day, only for the husband to return home and to his wildest surprise finds the house empty. She left with the kids and the properties to an unknown destination.

So looking at it from the statement "for better for worse" that they made on their wedding day, we can deduce that, it was only a verbal oath and does not stem from the heart of love even at the present of many witnesses. Hence, we need to know that time changes and the ways of man changes with time, this therefore, does not allow the statement "for better for worse" to hold sway.

If you were to change or encourage/refashion this statement "for better for worse," what would be your options that could reasonably solve the issue, aiming at having peaceful families in general?

If I am to change, encourage/refashion the statement "for better for worse", with the sole aim of having a peaceful families in general, my humble submission to that is simple; if both couples know the intention of their maker when he instituted the marriage arrangement right from the garden of Eden, and his subsequent pronouncement that a man will leave his father and mother and stick to his wife and two of them will be become one flesh, and that nothing whatsoever should put them apart, and that they will extend the boundaries of the garden earth-wise by way of procreation; hence, the advice is: fear and obey God's commandments for this is the whole obligations of man.

Conclusion

We are the best amongst God's creations endowed with the gift to love and be loved, no wonder he instituted the marital institution. Therefore, we though imperfect should love, obey and keep to God's commandment which of course are not burdensome.

Thank you for giving me the opportunity to bear my mind, I will love to invite @bela90, @udylicouz, @danielatin and @manuelhook to also take part in this contest.

I remain @oasiskp.