Steem4Nigeria Accelerator Contest Week4- Transparency in Marriage.

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INTRODUCTION

Hello Nigerians how are you all doing today I hope all is going smoothly and you are all enjoying your day, today I will be taking part in the accelerator contest title "Transparency in marriage"

In marriage or any form of relationship transparency is very important because it helps builds confidence and helps partners or friends to trust each other

So in my today's entry I will be using this contest provided tip to explore more on the topic "transparency in marriage" so sit back read and enjoy

BRIEFLY EXPLAIN TRANSPARENCY TO A LAYMAN'S UNDERSTANDING.

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Before moving further transparency in marriage can be said to be a process in a relationship in which both spouse feel absolutely free and comfortable with each other, having no deception and also not hiding anything from each other.

Now a break down to a layman's understanding, it simply means that in a marriage that the husband and wife will have no secrets and will always be truthful to each other and also tries as much as possible to be comfortable and free with eachother.

WHAT IS YOUR OPINION ON THE NEED FOR TRANSPARENCY IN MARRIAGE AND OTHER RELATIONSHIPS.

The need for transparency in marriage is very important infact it is the corner stone for every successful marriage, so the need for transparency in marriage are;

• It helps makes the marriage to last
• It builds respect amongst partners
• It promotes trust and confidence amongst marriage partners
• It gives partners a sense of security in a relationship

Generally there is need for transparency not just in a marriage setting, friends and business relationship are also included so therefore there's need for sincerity and honesty because it helps builds trust.

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IN A CASE WHEREBY ONE PARTY FINDS OUT THE OTHER PERSONS KEEPING SECRETS, WHAT DO YOU THINK SHOULD BE DONE?

Hmmm, at this point if one party in a relationship is keeping secrets from his or her partner there's nothing much to be done because it's life and you can never force someone to trust especially when you don't deserve their trust

In a situation like this before jumping into conclusion saying "my partner is hiding something from me" just know that in life there's a reason for everything

And some of the reasons why someone may choose to be secretive in a relationship are;

• The experiences he/she has past through in life
• The person's way of life
• The fear of adding problems to problems
• No love for each other
• The fear of his/her partners reaction

As listed above you all can now clearly see some some of the reasons that can cause someone to be secretive in a relationship it may be because of the person's experience and like the say "Experience is the best teacher"

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Secondly due to individuals differences it may be the persons way of life that makes he/she to be secretive and also the fear of adding problems to problems, some partners chooses to keep secrets because of the fear of burdening their partners too much example ( I wouldn't like to tell my husband what happened because he has gone through a lot because of me)

And sometimes another reason why partners keep secrets is because of the fear of each others reactions when there say it out, rather instead of getting into a fight with each other the chooses to pretend as if nothing is wrong.

And lastly another and the main reason why partners keep secrets from each other is because of lack of love for each other for example if a girl is not deeply in love with you she won't even bother telling you anything about herself talkless of her plans

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT LACKS TRANSPARENCY?If yes, What did you do? But If no, what would you do?

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No I have not yet been in a relationship that lacks transparency but if I happened to be in one what I would do is, first of all as a guy if a girl is being secretive instead of trying to force it out of her mouth

I would try to use the "I don't care attitude" which in turn will make her want to get noticed, because that's one thing about girls there need attention from their guy

And when you employ that method pretending like you careless about her problems, then she will try as much as she can to get your attention then in the process she falls more deeply in love with you and there she won't even be able to control her emotions talkless of the words that comes out from her mouth and there she will tell you all her little secrets

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CAN TRUTH BE HIDDEN FOREVER ?

There's nothing hidden under the sun but also know that a secret between three people can only remain a secret only when two of them are dead

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It's very much true that secrets are like zombies because they can never remain dead for ever, therefore no one absolutely no one can hide the truth forever especially when two parties are involved.

CONCLUSION

Married couples should try as much as the can to cherish transparency in their relationship because it's the only effective way that helps in building and sustaining a relationship, thank you and remain bless

^{I will like to invite @edidiongeffiong, @prime33 @subhooi , @nadiaturrina , @steemdoctor1 & @faran-nabeel}

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