ENGAGEMENT, HOW IT SHOULD BE?

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Greetings to everyone in this community. I'm so delighted participating in this contest on engagement. It's no news that lot of young men and women today are skeptical when choosing their mates. They end of doing it wrongly with regrets later on . How should engagement be done and what criteria must be considered before engaging someone? This post analyzes everything.

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To me engagement in a relationship is a strong commitment between the two parties involved,is a decision by both to take their relationship to another level where they plan for their lifetime growth. I look at engagement in a relationship as an advance level where in no distance time marriage could be scheduled. It's a memorable experience that cannot be forgotten so easily and it make the relationship more than before. there's more dedication and commitment to one another.

Actually, the age or time for a guy or a lady to be engaged is not a random decision rather is a personal decision making by every individual. the maturity or how ready one is should be considered and also how they are committed to one another because is a life time choice. The most important thing is their willingness and how ready they are so as to avoid "IF I KNOW EARLIER THAN NOW" .

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If bother partners want to create their future with happiness, love, confidence with each other then, they must lay a very strong foundation that must be built on trust, respect to one another with selflessness. with this engagement should not be based on particular circumstances but on their readiness and understanding of what love is.

Some of the things to be considered are....

• The level of love and affection we have for one another is what i will first take into consideration. Then i ask myself do we have similar objectives?, what about our beliefs? do we also have each other's interest at heart?. is very important.

• A good relationship should possess quality respect and understanding with trust.Because my father said marriage is is an everlasting or lifetime school without graduation no certificate so anybody making such decision should be careful with his or her choice.

• Before i will accept engagement or proposal there are things to look into. Like are we ready and committed? are we really prepared for this life admission without graduation?

• Lastly, another thing is our social life and family background how we are able to integrate on each other's family and friends. Is very important
  And financial status weather we are financially okay or not. Because of unforseen circumstances ahead.

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Ideally the time frame or duration of an engagement should not be pressurized and at the same time should not be prolong too much to avoid over anxiety. Engagement already has guarantee that both us have spent enough time together which we've develop close bond and we are committed to stay together forever.

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Depends on the perspective everyone looks at things which varies by factors like, when one lost his/her job, if one cheat, health challenges and many more. Some priorities can change some one future plan. There are unforseen occurrence too that can change ones mind.

There also some things that are untold to either of the couple that once discovered,it can trigger a change of mind. Is also important to note that human being is dynamic in nature which means he/she can change anytime, the engagement could be seeing as a mistake if their beliefs and ideas are not the same again.

NO, engagement is not guarantee to marriage because there are a lot of things that occurred between the period of engagement and wedding ceremony. So getting engaged is sure way to tie the knot. Nevertheless once engaged is struggling believed or determine to be wedded, some minor issue can force a couple to call off their wedding in some cases maybe a day to their wedding or even on the very day of their wedding.

Monetary value can cause the relationship to end with immediate effect because engagement alon can't guarantee it to be accomplished. personal conflicts or a little misunderstanding ruin the engagement, one can just make a decision that they are not more suitable for each other.or the readiness is not there again. All this can cause a relationship to scattered in pieces.

i invite @bossj23, @randomsavage and @patjewell to join us in this contest.

Cc @okere-blessing