YOU'RE REALLY NOT THAT IMPORTANT, SERIOUSLY...

So yesterday on Twitter NG a said lady was trending because of a failed cosmetic surgery she had a couple of months backs(very typical of twitter). It has been in the media for some time now and to her dismay, twitter trolls are in her business. She has been thrown under the bus a couple of times. Given her supposed reputation of broke-shaming people, I do understand why many people are happy about what happened to her.

On one hand, I am sympathetic to her plight. Her self-esteem has taken a beating; she has spent a lot of money on medication, treating injuries that are yet to heal for months and that can be a daunting task. However, on the other hand, I feel she is putting herself in a position were twitter trolls can attack. Twitter, for the most part, is a very toxic place, many of us can attest to this. Someone somewhere who you know little or nothing about has got issues with you. That's twitter for you. To a certain degree, I feel this is normal which is absurd but I really think it is. I have actually lost hope in humanity. For the most part, people use social media as an echo chamber to resonates their fear and disgust. Every day seems to a rage fest. It can be entertaining on some level and totally disgusting on another, depending on your appetite for drama. The part of this story that gets me pissed is the victim game, which most people try to play when they are in a bad position. I do not affiliate with movements like the BLACK LIVES MATTER, or ideologies like feminism even due I consider these movements and ideologies important because of this same reason. These movements and ideologies have shown to be a cesspool for emotional and intellectual manipulators. The supposed cancel culture is a by-product of these movements and has been used to silence people, both the innocent and guilty parties. Personally, I have gone through very different moments in my life and most times I share my story as a form of catharsis and not to gain people's sympathy or even understanding because it does little for my healing process. It is often a brutal realisation when you come to terms with the fact that people care little about you and your feeling--it's even one of the reasons I stopped making personal blogs for some time. To some, it's all they have to share and I really don't fault people for that. However, people must also come to terms with the fact that they can only control their narrative. When it comes to other people's understanding of that narrative your control is limited. Most people are so self absolved that they think the world revolves around their feeling.

YOU'RE NOT THAT IMPORTANT...

Yes, your emotions, time, life, etc matter but in the grand scheme of things you are just another human being. Death is one of the basic things that helped me understand this idea. I have lost some very important people in my life these past years and it hard to admit but life has gone fine--even better--without them, and the same thing will happen when I am gone. So rather than trying to appeal to a person's vanity or conscience, I try to live my best life the best way I can because that's important to me. Having to explain yourself or validate your emotions and opinions to people can be a very daunting task that should be avoided if possible and if you ever find yourself in that position, make such the person on the other end cares about you.

Life is too short to be pandering to internet people.

Cheers!